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barbiesocialite, that sounds familiar. I'm working on my detachment and it's great!! A friend asked me, "what do you really have to lose?" ... which left me like: "well... dammit, what DO I??" So, I've been making a concerted effort
I'm not gonna lie, some days I check out, but it's nice that some people are patient with me. One person used to say: Listen, I won't always be able to bounce back from you being cold toward me... And that used to scare me a little... the thought of pushing him away for good. I learned to mirror that person's behavior toward me... to learn to be warmer. I'm so glad I did.
These days I'm being open because I want to be, and it feels really nice.I.feel less anxious about my openness because I am taking on the mindset that I don't have much to lose by doing so.
What are your worries abt being open, if you don't mind me asking?