2013 Whats happening Relationship Folks

[InchHighPrivateEye]

He makes his cornbread with 2 CUPS of sugar. Wtf. I thought we were both on a healthkick! Frequent exercise does not a healthnut make. I'm judging. All of his food tastes good and now I know why And I also know why he works out so much more than I do. The cornbread was sticky to the touch Bless him.

eta: I didn't see him put it in, so maybe he was exaggerating, but the cornbread did look glazed and was sticky to the touch. He said it's "like an ooey gooey cake." But it's cornbread, hun. You ate 4 pieces with your meal. /

 

[Nayna]

^He basically wants to have his cake and eat it too. He likes having you around..a built in date/companion but doesn't want to make it official. Let him know what's up and not to plan anything for you unless he wants to be exclusive.

Keep your options open. If he thinks you are only seeing him anyway he won't be in a rush.

Oh for sure! He's my favorite boo but he ain't my only boo. lol.

Btw he deleted that post and apologized. Tonight we have a date this evening. I'm going to pick his brain, lol.

 

[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

Sorry, but you're still in the dog house

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[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

Ugh at these conversations we've been having. Men are stupid, plain and simple. I hate that sometimes he just doesn't get it. He thinks I'm too harsh too but I don't curr.

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[hopeful]

Very nice!

Sorry, but you're still in the dog house

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[Rocky91]

but look at the widdle teddy bear Je Ne Sais Quoi!!

we're going through some phucksh1t right now y'all.....i want to share but it's almost too much bs to type and you need all kinds of background context to understand this muckery!!

 

[Briabiggles]

Yes, J, I would LOVE it if you would make me a crab dinner on Valentine's day. That would be GREAT. BUT I have to work! Damn it!! You would know that if you had asked earlier! Grrr....*shakes fist*

 

[Briabiggles]

Plan change. He's gonna make it tonight!

 

[qchelle]

Happy Valentine's Day everyone! I'm gonna bring the day in with some vodka, some porn, and watching my check go in to my bank account

 

[Rocky91]

It's over.
Practically right at midnight on vday too. Oh the irony....

Sent from my phone-typos to be expected

 

[hopeful]

Rocky91 Sorry about that happening and the timing . I hope things go up from here for you.

 

[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

It's over.
Practically right at midnight on vday too. Oh the irony....

Sent from my phone-typos to be expected

I am very very sorry boo. (((hugs)))

 

[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

He keeps trying to take me and dd out for dinner tomorrow. I hate the fact that though i'm mad at him he still can make me laugh. I just don't know what to do about this man. I just don't know...

 

[Briabiggles]

Plan change. He's gonna make it tonight!

It was so dang good! I'd never had crab before. I screamed when I dropped her in the boiling water!

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[Fine 4s]

ETA- in post below....

 

[hopeful]

He keeps trying to take me and dd out for dinner tomorrow. I hate the fact that though i'm mad at him he still can make me laugh. I just don't know what to do about this man. I just don't know...

Go out and enjoy yourself. Be happy. Deal with what you're angry about next week. Don't let this ruin your Valentine's Day weekend. If what he did is unforgivable, well then dump him. But this in between land is too stressful for you and him. I have found that this constant fighting is a form of control to keep the guy on his toes because you (general you) are afraid of being hurt really badly. At some point you have to accept him for who he is...or not. In a relationship you run the risk of being betrayed and heartbroken, it's not for the faint of heart, but you also run the risk of being loved and happy. It sounds to me that you really love him and he loves you. Even if you end up breaking up, why not enjoy the next few days?

 

[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

Go out and enjoy yourself. Be happy. Deal with what you're angry about next week. Don't let this ruin your Valentine's Day weekend. If what he did is unforgivable, well then dump him. But this in between land is too stressful for you and him. I have found that this constant fighting is a form of control to keep the guy on his toes because you (general you) are afraid of being hurt really badly. At some point you have to accept him for who he is...or not. In a relationship you run the risk of being betrayed and heartbroken, it's not for the faint of heart, but you also run the risk of being loved and happy. It sounds to me that you really love him and he loves you. Even if you end up breaking up, why not enjoy the next few days?

It is very stressful. I just don't understand why he does stupid stuff!! I am going to let him off the hook today however we are going to have to have a talk where I make it clear that if we are to continue he needs to ensure this situation does not occur again. Yes I do love him and I know he loves me and dd.

He just got my car washed this morning. He is really laying it on thick today

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[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

He has asked about dinner again. I'm going to go ahead and go and stop being a witch. I hate letting go of grudges when he has pissed me off but I think it's the right thing to do.

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[Lucie]

I am so happy! Last night a friend got me 2 orders of wangs with a drink. I got roses from the same friend this morning. Perfect tea roses for my bedroom dresser.

Cupcakes with chocolate covered strawberries blessed by the Rabbi from my broker this morning, LOL. And 2 dozen red roses from "him."

THIS. IS. MY. BEST. VALENTINE'S. DAY. EVER!

Happy Valentine's Day ladies! xoxo

 

[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

I am so happy! Last night a friend got me 2 orders of wangs with a drink. I got roses from the same friend this morning. Perfect tea roses for my bedroom dresser.

Cupcakes with chocolate covered strawberries blessed by the Rabbi from my broker this morning, LOL. And 2 dozen red roses from "him."

THIS. IS. MY. BEST. VALENTINE'S. DAY. EVER!

Happy Valentine's Day ladies! xoxo

I love it!!

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[hopeful]

Get it Lucie
You deserve it all! So happy for you

 

[Lucie]

Get it Lucie
You deserve it all! So happy for you

hopeful, I feel so good! Thank you lovie!

 

[Nayna]

I had a good night last night dinner was great and we had a nice convo. He has too much game. Lol

 

[Rocky91]

Today is super cute at the high school I'm student teaching. They're all dressed up and have teddy bears and argh it's too cute! It's actually cheering me up.

Ladies, i need to know i've made the right decision so i'm gonna share what led to our breakup. I will probably delete this later
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[Rocky91]

err my bad y'all planking down my problems in the middle of the valentine's day good feelings

 

[Fine 4s]

Go out and enjoy yourself. Be happy. Deal with what you're angry about next week. Don't let this ruin your Valentine's Day weekend. If what he did is unforgivable, well then dump him. But this in between land is too stressful for you and him. I have found that this constant fighting is a form of control to keep the guy on his toes because you (general you) are afraid of being hurt really badly. At some point you have to accept him for who he is...or not. In a relationship you run the risk of being betrayed and heartbroken, it's not for the faint of heart, but you also run the risk of being loved and happy. It sounds to me that you really love him and he loves you. Even if you end up breaking up, why not enjoy the next few days?

Exactly why I had to have a 3 hour long conversation with my now EX.

It was the best breakup ever! He has grown so much in the past year. I'm very proud of him for finally coming to the conclusion that he needs to do BETTER and pleased to know I was a factor in that decision. Maybe that was my purpose in his life, who knows? I appreciate the honesty and openess we had during that conversation, there were tears, there was laughter but above all there was truth (oh it wasn't easy to hear lol).

In the meanwhile, I'll let him get his ish together and address this pattern he's had in relationships...if anything, because I deserve better.

I feel a bit more peaceful now. The in between is really NOT a good look, I couldn't sleep, I couldn't eat, I lost weight. I was just walking dead.

Now, on to deleting contact info and blocking calls...

 

[Fine 4s]

Rocky91

Some requests in relationships are reasonable and some just aren't.
There is no direct threat to him in what you're doing.
Can he see someone to help address his insecurities? Does his insecurity have anything to do with something you've done? Are you willing to compromise in other ways (I can't think of any way but).

Giving something up is not a guarantee that the relationship will work out in the end. So address the REAL issue (as you stated).

 

[PeaceFlow]

Rocky91

There was an old guy at my university, maybe 60 or so.

He dreamed all his life of going to university, but things didn't go the way he planned. By the time he got to university he LOVED IT. He learned stuff, talked to people and was doing really well in his degree.

The next year he didn't show up to the classes. Everyone was like where's Ralph Turns out Mrs Ralph didn't like the fact he was going to university, getting more confident and learning new things. She gave him an ultimatum, now he's gone. Lifelong dream over.

I have no problem with people having insecurities. It happens. However, when unreasonable demands get made, it just ends up in never ending requests. Instead of helping someone gain their own security you feed their insecurity. Instead of seeing that they are unreasonable they start talking about "if you loved me you would do this unreasonable thing". Emotional blackmail.

Your ex prob needs a bit of self help or therapy to build himself up a bit lol. I don't think you should have to choose between harmless things you enjoy and a partner. I would have ended it too.

Note

A lot of men and women are not happy about partners having opposite sex friends. Especially if anything has happened in the past that's more than friends.

I would say that insecurity is pretty common. Its the national competition bit that I find totally unreasonable. If the national competition involves you staying somewhere that these guys will be, maybe thats why. IDK.

 

[FoxxyLocs]

Rocky91 - stepping down wouldn't make him feel more secure. He would just keep making demands about what you can and can't do. He needs to address the root of the problem. Sucks that he took it there with the break up, but I think giving in would just lead to more ultimatums.

 

[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

Just got some Shari's Berries. Thank you mr

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