2012 Relationship Random Thoughts.... Part III

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alwaysinchrist said:
haha I kno that's right!! Some of these men takes no pride in themselves. My grandfather fathers would never ask a woman for anything! I know we live in a different world now but somethingss shouldn't change-being a man that can stand on his own would always come 1st!!
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:lol: i know you didn't mean this but you had to go back a few generations to make your point. :lol:
but le sigh at the same time :nono:
 
I don't think long distance is for me. I need someone who is here to take me out and do **** on the fly if I want. Uncomfortable conversation coming.
 
I haven't been able to see acquaintance guy as planned. Lunch yesterday got cancelled bc his friend had an emergency. He wanted to have lunch today but I told him I couldn't bc I was going to be off site all day for work.... :( so, I suggested next week and he said that would work for him.

We texted a bit yesterday. Mostly talking about his friend's situation. Then, I texted this morning to tell him I can't do lunch next week but I can get together in the evenings. He hasn't replied. Turned out he got an acting gig, which is great... But randomly at the last minute.

I really like spending time with this guy and I have the comfort level but the bottom line is that he's constantly busy and trying to act and make $$$.

He's the guy that my friends are rooting for and I know I shouldn't stress about time apart but.... I can't chase him. I'm meant to be pursued properly. It's a blow to my fragile ego to express interest in him. He's pretty clueless and very honest which is a good thungbinbmost cases....

I am bummed. I don't want to date the average type of guy who plays by the rule book. I want to date a person that I can safely trust.
 
Ladies, please please, do not ignore the red flags. I ignored my instincts and turns out I was right all along. I was so excited to find someone and got caught up. It is over and I am so glad I did not waste so much time. I felt flattered that such a good looking man found me attractive well, he found a mutual friend attractive too and tried to play us both. Remember, whatever happens in the dark always shows up the light. On to the next.
 
I'm in a GREAT mode. I met this FINE man today, while I was at work. I still look busted, btw. He wants to go out to dinner, but NO (insert that ugly gif)! :lol:
 
I want to rid myself of the wants and desires that are stopping me from just being, just living in the moment.

I'm going to stop mentally chasing a certain want.
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On another note, spent several hours at the Californian's apartment and was happy to see that there was little to no awkwardness. Well, I felt awkward initially and nervously went to say hi. We chatted for a few seconds, and once that was out of the way, I felt more relaxed. He's an interesting character. Friend and I cooked, ate and talked about life, watched a sappy movie, drank tea and talked some more. It was very nice.
 
He will be working alot the next two weeks. He reminded me that I need to take advantage of his handyman skills from the hours of 8-10am daily during this time. I'm glad the handyman does windows and dishes. LOL
 
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You made changes in your life. That's great. You decided to retire early. That's great. You explained your previous disappearance. That's great. You want to take me on a trip. That's great. Do I believe you? Heck nah. I'm bored and enjoying this entertainment.
 
now im just fcuking with bf about it :look: :lol: even though i havent said anything...

oh look conan's on!
yeah let's watch conan
do you like gingers? :look:
yeah, i like gingers

:look: :rofl:
 
During a study group I had a nice conversation yesterday with a guy I crushed on early in the year but never worked up the nerve to talk to. I hate that we only started talking just now, because we have so much in common and he seems like a nice guy. Unfortunately he smokes, which is deal breaker.:nono: Too bad we won't have any classes together next year:nono: (unless he flunks one:look:). But I take it as a reminder that there are some decent guys out there and there might possibly be one for me.:grin:
 
About to be ticked off if this chick flakes on me tonight. Who agrees to do something with someone and then completely disappears when it's time to go? How do you keep friends like that?

Having to even worry about whether or not she'll come through should be grounds enough to cut ties.
 
*sigh*

Why is the best thing to do always the hardest thing to do? I hate that it's coming down to this but I know it's the only thing that makes sense at this point. It's just not our time and it may never be, but I can't put my life on hold or make myself crazy waiting to find out. I'll miss talking to him everyday but I do need some space to sort things out and figure out what I'm going to do with my life. And I need to find a therapist. :ohwell:
 
i miss sleeping in and waking up next to somebody I love after 12 noon... going to pancake house for brunch and then lounging around all evening.

I wanna be in a relationship but I also want the next person I end up with to be the person I marry, so I'm trying to hold out and be selective. I know ppl say to go with the flow and have fun during your twenties, but I don't want to spend my mid-twenties in a relationship that won't end up going anywhere. I dunno, I just feel like I'm past the age for that sort of thing. I pray and try to seek guidance but I feel like God has been frustratingly silent regarding this issue. I think He wants me to be patient and wait. And admittedly, I do struggle with being patient. I just want to be in love with someone who loves me back. Like yesterday.

LOL now I'm thinking I need to hurry up and learn patience so the Lord can hurry up and send Mr. Theo my way. Which is completely contradictory and makes no sense. :lol:

Well, I'm a work in progress.
 
I like you I really do..I really like how you have been so nice while I'm in this bad situation..I hope once I come back on my feet things will continue to flow..but the fact you told me you were praying about my situation turned me on to you soo much..I smile thinking about you.
 
Soooo because I'm taking one for the team tonight (working OT), he surprised me at work with dinner!!! Not a bad Saturday night after all....:yep:

can't.wait.til.i.get.home:lick:....2hrs to go!
 
soooooooooo had a VO with no manual prompting....

think this automatically qualifies as a successful weekend... lol
 
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Tonight had a conversation with a guy friend of a friend that I see periodically. Long story short, this was the first time we had a one-on-one talk, and he's like wow, never knew you were like that/into those things. He says I seem really reserved when I first meet people (that in fact, I'm usually the quietest one in the groups where he's seen me), that I can even seem a little cold, just do my thing, etc. etc., and he was really intrigued by all the things I was telling him, and really pleasantly surprised that his initial impression of me is inaccurate. Basically, his takeaway for me was that my demeanor does not showcase what I'm about.

Food for thought, hm? I'm not surprised, because I kinda thought so... I read astrology here and there, and one reads: "people born on (my birthday) have a personality that is an acquired taste" or something unflattering like that:lol: I find that true for me in most of my relationships.

Now, I don't wanna go on some self-fixing spree... I'm really really tired of those... And I think this forum breeds that mindset (or maybe we self-select, I dunno), but I wanna see what happens if I open up to new people a little more. Men, in particular, because the problem isn't as stark with women (though it for suuure exists).
 
Another 16 hour work day for him. Thankfully he enjoys his work so I don't have to like, emotionally support him. Clearly work is his number one priority...
 
CarLiTa said:
Tonight had a conversation with a guy friend of a friend that I see periodically. Long story short, this was the first time we had a one-on-one talk, and he's like wow, never knew you were like that/into those things. He says I seem really reserved when I first meet people (that in fact, I'm usually the quietest one in the groups where he's seen me), that I can even seem a little cold, just do my thing, etc. etc., and he was really intrigued by all the things I was telling him, and really pleasantly surprised that his initial impression of me is inaccurate. Basically, his takeaway for me was that my demeanor does not showcase what I'm about.
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CarLiTa
Omg all of this is me. At first i use to get aggravated bc people make assumptions. I learned that first impressions are not everything and you have to watch people. That is why I think quiet people are the best at reading people (well I am). People will slip and say things right in front of you bc you are quiet. I already knew that is how I come off. Guys are very intrigued when I do speak. I get the I never thought about it like that or I never talk about this with anybody.

I hate small talk and Do not mind being by myself. I get bored easily in certain social settings and think about curling up on the couch :look:.

Edited to add that I have gotten better at small talk with age lol. I guess I am becoming a well adjusted introvert.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
 
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Fh and I have been such a team so far, I love how we do. I see that we are going to get very far with our goals and desires, individually and together.

As for me, I have finally learned to just let a man, be a man. I dont have to control everything. Part of that control was a lack of trust... My mother raised me to be independent and basically expect everyone (men in particular) to fail you. I know that she didnt intend to make me distrustful, she was just trying to teach me to depend on myself and protect myself. My father was no help. Put it like this, his famous saying was straight out of the Bible, "...the arm of flesh will fail you" I could go on and on about these two and their protective measures.
Now that I am getting married, I had to work hard to undo all that programming. It's going well. Thank God.
 
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