2012 Relationship Random Thoughts.... Part III

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I'm surprisingly calm despite our argument yesterday and not hearing back from him since then. I don't even feel compelled to hit him up. What is there to say that hasn't been said a million times before? I know that our relationship as we knew it is really over now. I will always love him and be there for him but I'm ready to not be in love with him anymore.
 
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MzLady78 said:
I had no idea YOTG was so good. It must not have been a big commercial hit though.
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It was...that has closer on it, white folks love that song lol

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
 
My date went very well, I got home passed midnight. I'm too lazy to type right now but I will do so during the following days.
 
i know i shouldnt have been, but i have been very curious to see what the ex-girlfriend looks like...

today i learned... :look:
 
I was doing so well, 36 days of no contact with the ex all went down the drain yesterday. I had been striving for the 60 day period that I read about that involves no calling, texting, looking at Facebook etc etc. I blocked him but he mailed me a letter a few weeks ago. Despite that I was still strong and didn't respond. Yesterday he contacted me again and I caved and called him back. I'm trying not to be too hard on myself. Luckily I was able to once again resist his attempts at reconciliation. He has the nerve to have been playing house with a new girlfriend over the last month. I feel sorry for her, the cycle is obviously continuing.
 
meesch said:
i know i shouldnt have been, but i have been very curious to see what the ex-girlfriend looks like...

today i learned... :look:
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Tamster said:
well what she look like???????
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I'm popping in and being nosey. I want to know too.

I had an ex and I had to look at the women he dated. I never knew what his tastes were in women. He always said that Gabrielle Union, Megan Good, Halle Berry, Nia Long and Kerry Washington were funny looking. His ex wife was not the best looking (I'm cleaning it up) and the other ex's I saw were of the same caliber so it made me question myself. I had a bout of low self esteem and got over it. I'm not saying I look like the actresses but I'm not ugly.
 
Tamster said:
well what she look like???????
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khadicurls said:
I'm popping in and being nosey. I want to know too.

I had an ex and I had to look at the women he dated. I never knew what his tastes were in women. He always said that Gabrielle Union, Megan Good, Halle Berry, Nia Long and Kerry Washington were funny looking. His ex wife was not the best looking (I'm cleaning it up) and the other ex's I saw were of the same caliber so it made me question myself. I had a bout of low self esteem and got over it. I'm not saying I look like the actresses but I'm not ugly.
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long haired ginger covered in freckles. now that i look, im not sure if the chunky pics are before or after but either way... i really want to lose weight.
 
jsmile7 said:
I was doing so well, 36 days of no contact with the ex all went down the drain yesterday. I had been striving for the 60 day period that I read about that involves no calling, texting, looking at Facebook etc etc. I blocked him but he mailed me a letter a few weeks ago. Despite that I was still strong and didn't respond. Yesterday he contacted me again and I caved and called him back. I'm trying not to be too hard on myself. Luckily I was able to once again resist his attempts at reconciliation. He has the nerve to have been playing house with a new girlfriend over the last month. I feel sorry for her, the cycle is obviously continuing.
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You still are doing well. The fact that you are moving on is an accomplishment. I can relate to this post. The guy from my past has a fiancé and still would call, text, left note on car. At first I thought that although we could not be he changed his ways and I could be cordial. I realized that he was the same bc he was creeping on her. Our last encounter was not friendly, I said a lot of things (not so nice) and I have not heard from him since the end of february and I am glad. That is the longest that he has gone in attempting to contact me...I guess he got the point.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
 
Fine 4s said:
^^ My SO's ex was very attractive...I'd say prettier than me. :(
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she wasnt prettier than me. i'm an upgrade :yep: i dont think bf cares that much about looks though. he thinks i'm beautiful, which tells you something about his perception :lol: (im cute but... staring at me admiring my beauty cute? idk :lol:)
 
^ this reminds me that one ex was a model, that's when I decided to forget about it all or become a Nobel prize, the Nobel prize didn't work out too well LOL
 
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Mortons said:
AND YALL BETTA HAVE HEADED OUT OR HAD A NICE DINNER ONLY. Don't make me :spank:
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:look::look::look:

Mortons said:
But don't be like me Cheeky be better than me :nono: Be better :lachen:
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I can confirm that I continue to remain celibate. :look:

I can also confirm that Co-worker and I have chemistry off da chain!!! :lachen: Omahgah! We made out for like 3 hours. :lol: I seriously was not expecting it to be like that.

He is a gentleman though, just kissing, nothing else. *cough* :look:
 
Its Freedom Friday!!!!!! I have some ME time til tomorrow evening. I'm feeling some kinda way about nurturing new friendships right now but I promised someone from an organization they could hang out with me. I'm a loner damn it!!!!
 
tinkat said:
You still are doing well. The fact that you are moving on is an accomplishment. I can relate to this post. The guy from my past has a fiancé and still would call, text, left note on car. At first I thought that although we could not be he changed his ways and I could be cordial. I realized that he was the same bc he was creeping on her. Our last encounter was not friendly, I said a lot of things (not so nice) and I have not heard from him since the end of february and I am glad. That is the longest that he has gone in attempting to contact me...I guess he got the point.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
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Thanks x1000. I appreciate this post so much. At times it has been really hard because we were together over 4 years and he was like my best friend. That was mostly what he was saying throughout the convo; how we always had an underlying friendship. I'm past the point of wanting to be in a romantic relationship with him but at times I wish we could be friends. I'm going to restart the count and go back to not having any contact with him for as long as possible.
 
mandii said:
Exactly!!!! I don't rent cars for my family (and they can rent it for themselves), why would he think that I would do this for a random knee-grow? It ain't THAT good:lachen:
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haha I kno that's right!! Some of these men takes no pride in themselves. My grandfather fathers would never ask a woman for anything! I know we live in a different world now but somethingss shouldn't change-being a man that can stand on his own would always come 1st!!
 
alwaysinchrist sorry tailed men been around for eons. LOL

I have a question for the ladies that have encountered men that ask for favors or money. Do any and all attraction stop or diminish after they do that?

Back in the day I did have a guy lie about getting paid in an attempt to not give me money he had promised. I told him I don't know what kinda b!tches you been playing games with but I'm not the one. I got the money. I scared the living daylights outta his arse with my grimace and statement. He knew I wasn't playing. LOL I never looked or treated him the same afterwards.
 
mandii said:
Exactly!!!! I don't rent cars for my family (and they can rent it for themselves), why would he think that I would do this for a random knee-grow? It ain't THAT good:lachen:
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People have allowed folk to get too entitled. I cant imagine fixing my lips to say something like that to someone I had a fling with. On what planet should they risk hundreds of dollars so I can go somewhere without them? What?
 
firecracker said:
@alwaysinchrist sorry tailed men been around for eons. LOL

I have a question for the ladies that have encountered men that ask for favors or money. Do any and all attraction stop or diminish after they do that?

Back in the day I did have a guy lie about getting paid in an attempt to not give me money he had promised. I told him I don't know what kinda b!tches you been playing games with but I'm not the one. I got the money. I scared the living daylights outta his arse with my grimace and statement. He knew I wasn't playing. LOL I never looked or treated him the same afterwards.
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my gf had a fling that borrowed 30.00 from her n never gave it back. He told her to stop sweating him over some lousy 30bucks!!! he was my exbf friends at the time. Everytime I see him I call him out on that. One time I was visiting ny exbf at his house n his friend was trying to holla at this girl. I walked up to her n said.....that ***** is a bum and all he want is to see if he can get some money out of you!!! He tried to flip out on me I told that n$$$$ he beta watch the words that comes out his mouth I ain't the one. I hate bum a$$$ men!!
 
Mortons said:
People have allowed folk to get too entitled. I cant imagine fixing my lips to say something like that to someone I had a fling with. On what planet should they risk hundreds of dollars so I can go somewhere without them? What?
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Egg-zack-lee!! My ex who I was with for 4 years didn't get that treatment, until we were well into our 3rd year. *** man!! He's going to DET and knew that I would say no thanks to the trip (Ex lives there, whole 'notha story:perplexed) and I'm not much of a casino hopper. I said "Why can't you drive your car?" He replied "Well, I just don't wanna put the miles on it, you feel me?" No brotha, I'm gonna say that I don't. Smh, I was steppin out to be a lil flirty after the breakup and this one done got the whole operation SHUT DOWN!:lachen:
 
firecracker said:
alwaysinchrist sorry tailed men been around for eons. LOL

I have a question for the ladies that have encountered men that ask for favors or money. Do any and all attraction stop or diminish after they do that?

Back in the day I did have a guy lie about getting paid in an attempt to not give me money he had promised. I told him I don't know what kinda b!tches you been playing games with but I'm not the one. I got the money. I scared the living daylights outta his arse with my grimace and statement. He knew I wasn't playing. LOL I never looked or treated him the same afterwards.
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My ex used to do it, but our pay weeks weren't the same, so I had no problem, and he always gave it back with interest. Some random dude? Nah, thats not an option because I feel like your just trying to see how far I'll let you take it. If I nip it early, you'll either leave (buh bye), or stay and be a potential contender. Both of which are blessings. I'm someone asks they I ask what its for. You need money to get on the bus, maybe, but to get a pair of fresh Jordan's I think not. And I will say the attraction will diminish, just like "car rental" dude. Now that I think of it, he reminds me of the black 8th dwarf, Stupidity.:lachen::lachen::lachen::lachen:
I figure that if I give you money, and I never see you again, then that money was well-spent.:rolleyes:
 
Uhh, I think I'm accidentally going on a date with someone tonight. I need to make it clear this is not a date and be as non-datey as possible. No makeup, no pretty hair, no frills at all.
 
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