2012 Relationship Random Thoughts.... Part III

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**SaSSy** said:
It doesn't matter now many times I read WMLB, or talk to friends and let them convince me, or read other people's post, or read my own past experiences with other guys in the past in my journal, or just live life normally I still think about him, I miss him, he was the very first guy I've ever met who actually treated me with too much respect ( if that even makes seems). I knew from the first time we met there was something kindred about him, and that he was meant to leave an impression in my life, I hope we hear/see/met again.

I wish I could text/call him right now while typing this, but my pride and all the 'rules' are in my path. I keep saying to myself, even while including it in my prays before I sleep at night that if it's god destine for him to be with me (friend or more) this guy will make the effect and initiate everything to be with me.
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I dont know the backstory but can I ask you to maybe challenge yourself and work against this pride? Do you feel as if you initiated too much and are now waiting for him to do so?
 
Oasis said:
supposed to go on a date with this guy today but he never texted me like he said he would. anyway, i convinced myself he was ugly and that i didn't want to go out with him anyway and made lunch. why he text me on my last bite?:lol:
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i've never met someone so completely uninterested and bored with me. it wasn't as if it started off good and then deteriorated. within 3 seconds it was like he knew i wasn't The One and he wasn't going to waste his time pretending otherwise.:lachen: i just kept waiting for him to get up, walk away and not return.:lol:
 
**SaSSy**

Just out of curiosity what ended it if you don't mind answering.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
 
Oasis said:
i've never met someone so completely uninterested and bored with me. it wasn't as if it started off good and then deteriorated. within 3 seconds it was like he knew i wasn't The One and he wasn't going to waste his time pretending otherwise.:lachen: i just kept waiting for him to get up, walk away and not return.:lol:
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Fluck him. At least you know your time won't be wasted.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
 
Oasis said:
i've never met someone so completely uninterested and bored with me. it wasn't as if it started off good and then deteriorated. within 3 seconds it was like he knew i wasn't The One and he wasn't going to waste his time pretending otherwise.:lachen: i just kept waiting for him to get up, walk away and not return.:lol:
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Oh haayyyyyyle naw, girl.

When are you cutting him off? Or have you already?
 
LaBelleLL said:
law review crush is now my boyfriend. :yay: I was caught off guard when he asked & said I had to think about it :blush: but after talking it out the next day with my mom, etc., i've decided to not let fear sabotage things. the newness of it all makes me excited and terrified at the same time. :lol: he's a great guy and the first one ever to respect and appreciate my boundaries. he makes me feel wonderful (for the most part :lol:).

this is the most whirlwind semester ever. and one with my best grades in law school so far. i got A's y'all. A's!!!!!
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LaBelleLL Congrats! You and my daughter both! She advanced to the next phase as well, and took her last exam yesterday. 1L down 3 to go!!
 
ElizaBlue said:
@LaBelleLL Congrats! You and my daughter both! She advanced to the next phase as well, and took her last exam yesterday. 1L down 3 to go!!
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CONGRATS on her being done with her first year! It really is an accomplishment!! Whew, I get the shivers just thinking about my first year. :nono::lachen: She's in a four-year program?

and thank you!
 
LaBelleLL said:
I dont know the backstory but can I ask you to maybe challenge yourself and work against this pride? Do you feel as if you initiated too much and are now waiting for him to do so?
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Just came from the most beautiful wedding. One of my closest friends married her high school, college, grad school sweetheart today. The ceremony was breathtaking and the reception was just wonderful:love: I kep thinking about how much I like her family. They are SO inclusive. Her high school friends all said that, and it's been true for me too. How,for example, even my college boyfriend was there. I would spend a decent amt of time at her familys place when I would be in town, and my ex SO would be there too. Her immediate family has come to know him well and are still super friendly with him.

As for my ex, it's... something... That I always feel so happy to see him. I remember saying to him once tat when I'm around him, it's like my entire being is smiling... And he felt the same way too. And there are still remnants of that... On both sides. :cry: I really really want to feel that way about someone else soon... that deep knowledge, unguarded intimacy. I feel so thankful to have experienced that... And I really want it, even BETTER than it, again.
 
On a more personal note, I really want to spend time living, living in silliness and in adventure. I have a lot of little, large fears to conquer.
 
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There's nothing like listening to classic '90s dance hits. Makes you want to go out and party and get your dance on. If only...
 
CarLiTa said:
As for my ex, it's... something... That I always feel so happy to see him. I remember saying to him once tat when I'm around him, it's like my entire being is smiling... And he felt the same way too. And there are still remnants of that... On both sides. :cry: I really really want to feel that way about someone else soon... that deep knowledge, unguarded intimacy. I feel so thankful to have experienced that... And I really want it, even BETTER than it, again.
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ugh, you articulated this perfectly! this is exactly what i wanted to say about my ex.
 
He hates communicating through e-mail but I sent him one anyway. He did something last night that really bugged me and triggered a domino effect of negative thoughts. I know I wouldn't be able to articulate the problem without crying so I sent a short email. I told him to call me after he read it. I was hesitant to say anything (conversation or email) because I don't want him to think geez, this is too much work I quit. But if that's his conclusion this so be it. I can't keep riding solo on this emotional roller coaster much longer. I need to get it all out there and if it's over then it's over, at least I tried and was honest.
 
Why is this dude so weird? I haven't responded to his texts in a few weeks... And the other day he sent a text asking if I am in town or in Florida...:confused: what does it matter to you? We met once... Just once. So, I didn't respond to that last text, and today he sends one that reads "Happy Mother's Day..." :lol: okay, so now I have children?:lol: my goodness. This guy won't just quit.
 
My mothers day weekend isn't turning out the way it was planned. Mother nature is a B and makes me very unhappy! The man just left to go to work since I cannot do anything or leave the house. I hope ya'll had a good weekend.
 
Me: how about we do x, or y (both of which involve the same thing)
Him: I have a car with me. Your call on the activities.
Me thinking: :rolleyes: ... I just done told you, daggone it.
 
so, im not sure if i'm being selfish or not, but at this point i'm just kinda pissed. so this guy i've been dating for the last month we had a date for friday, he had to cancel friday b/c his family came in town for his cousins graduation. which i was like, okay i understand, and he rescheduled for saturday. saturday comes, and he's like im soo sorry, but my family decided to stay the weekend and wants to do a tour of the city, and he rescheduled for sunday. okay, i understand, last minute things come up. but i asked him are you sure about sunday, b/c its mothers day? he's like yeah, i'm taking my mom out, but i'll make it up to you and we'll go out after. okay, fine... sooo... today is here, and same thing. so, i completely understand spending time with the family, but im not okay with you keep canceling on me though. so im conflicted between feeling selfish and being a bit pissed off, b/c i could've made other plans had i known... /end vent
 
out with the old... and onto the next...

he wants to talk to me about what's been going on with him and try to save a friendship. okay. but i'm not going to wait for him.

i'm trying online dating again... an attractive man in his mid 30s emailed me today. we had a nice exchange and he asked if he could take me out for a bite to eat and a movie, since we both want to see the avengers. i'm game and looking forward to it!
 
CarLiTa said:
Why is this dude so weird? I haven't responded to his texts in a few weeks... And the other day he sent a text asking if I am in town or in Florida...:confused: what does it matter to you? We met once... Just once. So, I didn't respond to that last text, and today he sends one that reads "Happy Mother's Day..." :lol: okay, so now I have children?:lol: my goodness. This guy won't just quit.
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This made me laugh! :lol:
 
He wants to know how he can make me feel wanted and cared for. I don't know...he says he's surprised I feel this way because he shows it all the time through his actions. Well, I don't respond to actions apparently. I need some assuring words.
 
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