2012 Relationship Random Thoughts.... Part III

[mallysmommy]

why do i feel bad about an ex that was horrible to me has moved on and found someone new? someone knock some sense into me.

 

[tinkat]

I can't wait to see him tomorrow! I am going to ravish him as soon as I sit down in his car OMG I hope I can keep my panties on! Suuuuupper glad that he has a truck, so we can stretch out Is it bad that I just wanna have sex with him??!! omg I'm such a hornball!

I mean...I don't just wanna have sex with him lol. I miss him and I wanna see his face. He's a super awesome guy (so far)!

Oh don't feel bad. I was just contemplating on having a summer fling bc I'm horny. Now that's a damn shame.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF

 

[CarLiTa]

i'm so starved for male company that any ol dood will do.

i hate that its gotten to this point.

Oasis, what kiiiind of male company?

 

[Oasis]

@Oasis, what kiiiind of male company?

CarLiTa, what do you mean? i'm not looking for sex, i mean, yes i am but i want to be in a relationship. however, it's just super ****ing blah and boring with every.single.guy i meet and i'm at the point where i'm tolerating and entertaining guys i don't even remotely like because i'm so lonely.erplexed

 

[CarLiTa]

CarLiTa, what do you mean? i'm not looking for sex, i mean, yes i am but i want to be in a relationship. however, it's just super ****ing blah and boring with every.single.guy i meet and i'm at the point where i'm tolerating and entertaining guys i don't even remotely like because i'm so lonely.erplexed

I was teasing. I know what you mean, though. What's missing, would you say? Interesting conversation? Attraction? That special something that draws you in?

 

[dannie]

2 weeks ago: "You know what Dee...I like how you check me on stuff I do. I mean, I guess I'm kinda use to girls just going along with whatever"

Today: "You know what Dee...I..I just cant make you happy. I guess I'm just always disappointing you huh?"

Le' sigh. No boo, you cant deal with the fact I am not stupid and can articulate exactly what my issue with you is, in a matter-of-fact, non emotional manner. And I phrase my questions and statements in such a way that you have no defense because well....you have no defense. A-hole.

But thanks for confirming what I've always known. Most men like the path of least resistance. And since I'm not a desperate doormat, I will more than likely stay single.

But you know what? If it's the price I gotta pay for actually respecting myself than so be it.

And when you get bored with the dumb ***** that let you run over them with a steam roller keep it pushing and dont call me like the all the rest of the fools do. You will soon see the grass turns cold underneath your feet on the other side of the lawn too

 

[LaBelleLL]

law review crush is now my boyfriend. I was caught off guard when he asked & said I had to think about it but after talking it out the next day with my mom, etc., i've decided to not let fear sabotage things. the newness of it all makes me excited and terrified at the same time. he's a great guy and the first one ever to respect and appreciate my boundaries. he makes me feel wonderful (for the most part ).

this is the most whirlwind semester ever. and one with my best grades in law school so far. i got A's y'all. A's!!!!!

 

[mallysmommy]

im kinda where oasis is right now. and on that note im hanging with a kang tonight. no tom foolery, just something to break up the monotony
ny

 

[mallysmommy]

im kinda where oasis is right now. and on that note im hanging with a kang tonight. no tom foolery, just something to break up the monotony

 

[Oasis]

I was teasing. I know what you mean, though. What's missing, would you say? Interesting conversation? Attraction? That special something that draws you in?

what's missing? everything! out of the numerous guys i've dated i've only genuinely liked 1.erplexed we talked about everything under the sun, i stayed smiling and laughing when i was with him, i wanted to jump his bones every second, just being in the same room as him made me feel good. it was more than physical, it was emotional and spiritual too as corny as that sounds. everyone before and after him pales in comparison.

i honestly don't think i'll ever have that connection with someone again.
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no idea why i agreed to this second date.

 

[LaBelleLL]

^^^ what happened with him Oasis?

 

[Cheekychica]

Awesome day today! Ex and I went to Banff, saw the Canadian Rockies then went to the Hot Springs and soaked the afternoon away.

Here are some pics from the top of one of the vantage points. (No pics from the Hot Springs )

poof

 

[Softerlove]

Why? Why? Why? DO I MEET STRANGE people! I don't know how to respond....

So we start talkin about getting in the mood play lists. He rattles off The Whispers,Isley Brothers,ect.... The he said ain't nothing like screwin to MLK I have dream speech.erplexed
I just told him I'd call him after 5.

supersweet this made my day "you can get it on ya side to I have a dream".

Although having sex to spanish music
lemmie stop.

I too am considering a summer fling...I need kisses, a warm hand on my thigh & someone to steal smells of my hair when I'm not looking.

 

[Cheekychica]

law review crush is now my boyfriend. I was caught off guard when he asked & said I had to think about it but after talking it out the next day with my mom, etc., i've decided to not let fear sabotage things. the newness of it all makes me excited and terrified at the same time. he's a great guy and the first one ever to respect and appreciate my boundaries. he makes me feel wonderful (for the most part ).

this is the most whirlwind semester ever. and one with my best grades in law school so far. i got A's y'all. A's!!!!!

Yayyyy!!! Congrats on the new boo and awesome news about your grades! Wow!!

 

[LivingDol1]

debating signing up for match.com....

time passes...

hesitates again....

*sips wine and eats chinese food*

maybe not.

 

[mandii]

signed up for blackpeoplemeet, but ive gotten extremely bored and im "so over it". i have my sights set on one person right now... too bad he's 4000 miles away, lol

 

[SUPER SWEET]

supersweet this made my day "you can get it on ya side to I have a dream".

Although having sex to spanish music
lemmie stop.

I too am considering a summer fling...I need kisses, a warm hand on my thigh & someone to steal smells of my hair when I'm not looking.

Softerlove
He just called again...erplexed Left some corny poem on my voicemail
Why me...

 

[NYAmicas]

NYAMICAS- "Babe, I have to be honest * long pause* I find your cricket boring as hell."

SO- "Babe, I have to be honest too........Longhaircareforum? That's boring."

*fight ensues*

 

[meesch]

law review crush is now my boyfriend. I was caught off guard when he asked & said I had to think about it but after talking it out the next day with my mom, etc., i've decided to not let fear sabotage things. the newness of it all makes me excited and terrified at the same time. he's a great guy and the first one ever to respect and appreciate my boundaries. he makes me feel wonderful (for the most part ).

this is the most whirlwind semester ever. and one with my best grades in law school so far. i got A's y'all. A's!!!!!

get it guuuuuuurl! i love to see women get with the dude they actually wanted. its amazing to choose a man and have him choose you back!

 

[deltadreamland]

Things are so wonderful between us, but sometimes it scares me. It's shameful that I've been through so much dumb ish in my past; to the point where it makes my happiness feel weird at times. However, I'm gonna press on and keep my happy face on and enjoy each and every day with this good man.

 

[InchHighPrivateEye]

Things are so wonderful between us, but sometimes it scares me. It's shameful that I've been through so much dumb ish in my past; to the point where it makes my happiness feel weird at times. However, I'm gonna press on and keep my happy face on and enjoy each and every day with this good man.

This is how I feel. It's like I'm enjoying the moment so much but I'm almost waiting for the other shoe to drop and something bad to happen because that's what usually happens. But I'm trying to stop that though because he's so good! Human--not perfect--but good.

@Cheekychica, that looks like such an awesome time! Those pictures are gorgeous.

@LaBelleLL, Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaasssssssssssss!!

 

[LaBelleLL]

get it guuuuuuurl! i love to see women get with the dude they actually wanted. its amazing to choose a man and have him choose you back!

it really is!! i'm pleasantly surprised. and this is the first time in a lonngggg time (like 10 years ) i totally put myself out there and expressed interest in someone. one of my guy friends heard about all of my dating disasters from my first year (and in general) and reminded me that I needed to choose who I wanted (& could have whomever). i 100% stopped dating guys who approached me (to that point, they all just wanted sex) and kept an eye out. then one day, I noticed him after a brief exchange in the hallway when he pulled up a chair and asked me the most random questions about bar prep.

don't know where this could lead to but what i've already learned so far is to take notice of the quiet ones and to be vocal!

 

[Oasis]

^^^ what happened with him Oasis?

a fat, light-skinned girl with good hair.

but really, he wanted something serious and i wanted casual at the time. he found the seriousness he was looking for.

 

[SuchaLady]

Summer school starts in a week. Maybe there will be someone cute in my classes.

 

[meesch]

ok so bf's new roommate is kind of a fck up. hes this bald thirty one year old pothead (former coke head) covered in tattoos who i clearly suspect is going to be a bad influence. on the both of us.

so they told me about how the roommate is dating this girl they work with. she is his direct supervisor actually. after they told me about the last chick he dated, who had been married twice by twenty five i figured he had a thing for fck up chicks too.

so the new gf has a kid and every time ive been over there she was supposed to come over and she'd flake every time, using the kid excuse. but theyd come over and bone during their lunch break. so im like are they actually just f buddies and he doesnt know it yet? (especially after she got off the phone with him talking about shes at the kids dads house ) like shes always just blowing hin off and it seems like to me shes clearly feeding him a bunch of bullisht. but hes like its a lot of work dating someone with a kid but its worth it blah blah blah. and talking about how they tell each other they love each other and she said that shed marry him.

so come to find out... i find out last night that this is a black chick! id been assuming she was white. now the whole dynamic is totally weird. and i feel like i cant actually talk siht about her anymore even though now that i know shes black my opinion of her is actually a little bit worse! so now the situation suddenly seems totally sensitive and racially loaded, and just like... delicate egg shelly somehow.

idk...

 

[firecracker]

Darn I slipped up and told my cousin where we were going tonight. Now he is trying to turn it into a double date with his wife. I cannot stand her and I will not fake the funk.

 

[Oasis]

supposed to go on a date with this guy today but he never texted me like he said he would. anyway, i convinced myself he was ugly and that i didn't want to go out with him anyway and made lunch. why he text me on my last bite?

 

[meesch]

update: so i met the gf. she was overly friendly, older seeming and maternal, thoroughly whitewashed with a slightly smushed in face and short teeth. light skinned (potentially biracial) with straight brown orange hair... with which her first comment was that my hair was "naturally curly" and then embarking on a conversation about infusium 23

(mean meesch: your hair isnt "naturally curly" like mine, beech, youe hair is KINKY LIKE MOST BLACK PPL BC YOU ARE BLACK)

i mean this is the thing: i date white guys (i date everybody) but i never stop being black. im not whitewashed. i have an "urban" accent that betrays my inner city upbringing. i have a top notch education but i use slang right along with six syllable words. i wear sweats, i listen to rap, my hair is natural, i will debate you up and down about race, and im not EVER going to "look the other way." i am who i am, regardless of who i am dating.

i wonder if i am reluctant to give that same courtesy to other women, but then, i can hardly ever see that they deserve it.

well, she seemed nice

 

[**SaSSy**]

It doesn't matter now many times I read WMLB, or talk to friends and let them convince me, or read other people's post, or read my own past experiences with other guys in the past in my journal, or just live life normally I still think about him, I miss him, he was the very first guy I've ever met who actually treated me with too much respect ( if that even makes seems). I knew from the first time we met there was something kindred about him, and that he was meant to leave an impression in my life, I hope we hear/see/met again.

I wish I could text/call him right now while typing this, but my pride and all the 'rules' are in my path. I keep saying to myself, even while including it in my prays before I sleep at night that if it's god destine for him to be with me (friend or more) this guy will make the effect and initiate everything to be with me.

 

[NYAmicas]

I like having SO over but I can barely do my normal activities because he wants all of my time and attention.