2012 Relationship Random Thoughts.... Part III

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*If I'm dreaming, then don't wake me*

Our text this morning:

Him: What would you like for dinner?

Me: What are our choices for dinner?

Him: Anything your heart desires my LOVE!!!

Me: I don't know. What's in your freezer?

Him: It doesn't matter. I will buy whatever you want me to cook.

I love him.

I would have a totally different response to that. It annoys me to no end when my bf does this. :lol:
 
Theo, as usual i can get down with your entire post. well, except the being super accomplished part and getting a master from Harvard.:lol: congrats!:dance7:
 
@Theo, he actually said he hates women?:confused:

Yes. And when I told him it was a red flag and asked him WHY he hates women he said its only certain kinds of women and it doesn't matter b/c I'm not one of them.

But I can't just ignore that right? Like I can't give him a cookie b/c he doesn't hate me. He has no reason to hate me. And there's no good reason to hate ANYONE. I'm not being crazy picky right? A self-proclaimed misogynist is a dealbreaker, no?
 
Yes. And when I told him it was a red flag and asked him WHY he hates women he said its only certain kinds of women and it doesn't matter b/c I'm not one of them.

But I can't just ignore that right? Like I can't give him a cookie b/c he doesn't hate me. He has no reason to hate me. And there's no good reason to hate ANYONE. I'm not being crazy picky right? A self-proclaimed misogynist is a dealbreaker, no?

Um, yes, sho'l IS a dealbreaker. Dont wanna date anyone who tries to tell me/makes me feel like "but baby YOU'RE different." :nono: There was a thread in this forum a while back that said something I loved... Something like, you should watch how your partner treats other people in his life, because someday he will treat you the same way. It was better said and more thoughtful than that, and it didn't suggest that the partner would be pulling the wool over your eyes or whatever, just that he has a natural disposition toward people, and someday YOU too will receive the treatment that comes with that disposition.

So, it better be a disposition you like. Misogyny is NOT cutting it:lol::nono:

I also personally dislike people who treat only their loved ones with courtesy and respect. That is a huge pet peeve for me.
 
You color like a damn boss and I love it. I sure do hate we never have more time for it. I don't want you to go back on active duty :cry4:
 
I think I finally see that my fear is what fueled me into liking you. I felt that bc your older you would be a bit more open to someone like me. I for the longest time felt I would never have anyone say I'm this or that so I talked to you. Now after you telling me things I'm starting to really think it would be in my best interest to keep you at a far distance then cut you completely. I hate not being able to get this part of my life right. In other goals I am able to devise a plan and execute in this I'm not able to. I will keep doing me,smiling more and being more open and hope for the best.But you Mr. a me and you that is in my head probable will only be in my head.
 
I really don't like the "i'll wear her down mentality" :nono: It won't WORK for me! I don't care how much of a baller you appear :look: to be.

It really really disgusts me how some men really believe that their money trumps who they are on the inside and outside!

I broke a rule because we see each other too much out & about . I should have gone with my gut to say NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO you can't have my number.:ohwell:
 
if my upstairs neighbors have sex one more time this week i'm going to go on ****ing rampage!:mad:

i feel like they're throwing it in my face.
 
Soo now that I have nothing to worry about I feel like my brain is empty. Not being crazy insecure has freed up a lot of space :lol: It's a relief. I guess I should study more and figure out my healthy eating/workout plans. And I need to figure out our Chicago trip.

if my upstairs neighbors have sex one more time this week i'm going to go on ****ing rampage!:mad:

i feel like they're throwing it in my face.

Sounds like they're the ones on the ****ing rampage :look:
 
Talked my friend through a little relationship advice last night and that was a bit draining. She's so naive...even wanted to thank a guy for telling her to back off :huh: then said he told her he didn't realize how much he would miss her when she actually stopped calling :huh:

she called again tonight...no ma'am, not gon get me again. Didn't answer.
 
Relationships are hard sometimes. but I wouldn't trade my love for the world. I hope we can work past this rough patch we are in.
 
Wasn't expecting that "I love you, goodnight" text last night. Thought we were done with all that. So we're just gonna act like everything is all good and we don't have a MAJOR issue hanging over our heads? Oh. Ok.

Doesn't really matter though, because whether we discuss it or not, I will never forget, it has changed everything for me. You will feel the difference.
 
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Ok... This guy is going a little too hard... Can we at least have our first date BEFORE you tell me that your nose is wide open??? WTH

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Wasn't expecting that "I love you, goodnight" text last night. Thought we were done with all that. So we're just gonna act like everything is all good and we don't have a MAJOR issue hanging over our heads? Oh. Ok.

Doesn't really matter though, because whether we discuss it or not, I will never forget, it has changed everything for me. You will feel the difference.

ok, maybe HE'S going to act like that. the question is are YOU going to act like that?
 
meesch said:
ok, maybe HE'S going to act like that. the question is are YOU going to act like that?

Tbh, I do think we'll discuss things eventually. I'm not pressing him about it right now because I know he's going through some more serious personal ish, and I just don't have the energy anyway. Plus I've made up my mind that I'm letting go regardless, nothing he says during that convo will change what took place that got us to this point.

I'm still gonna be there for him as a friend but I know for sure now that he's not the one and probably won't ever be.
 
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Tbh, I do think we'll discuss things eventually. I'm not pressing him about it right now because I know he's going through some more serious personal ish, and I just don't have the energy anyway. Plus I've made up my mind that I'm letting go regardless, nothing he says during that convo will change what took place that got us to this point.

I'm still gonna be there for him as a friend but I know for sure now that he's not the one and probably won't ever be.

How will you be there for him as a friend?
 
How will you be there for him as a friend?

If he needs someone to talk to about the things that are going on with him right now, I have no problem being supportive because he's always been there for me. I would never try to pretend otherwise. But I'm not going out of my way to be there, if you get what I mean. I have to start putting myself first now.
 
I miss him. I feel deja vu- last time he went on a business trip when he came back everything was different. Although, this time he invited me to come spend a week with him there while he's working. (I'm not going).
 
feels like things are taking some new steps lately. i think the continual improvement is somehow related to the fact that he moved in may :rofl: it seems relevant somehow! everything feels bright and shiny and fun and free... maybe its bc of summer, idk... but i like it :reddancer:
 
meesch said:
feels like things are taking some new steps lately. i think the continual improvement is somehow related to the fact that he moved in may :rofl: it seems relevant somehow! everything feels bright and shiny and fun and free... maybe its bc of summer, idk... but i like it :reddancer:

How far did he move away and what was the impact? Your hitting that 6+ month mark though right? It's either make or break at that point. Good going lady!
 
How far did he move away and what was the impact? Your hitting that 6+ month mark though right? It's either make or break at that point. Good going lady!

i hated his last roommate. his new roommate is fun and its not "avoid the creepazoid lets hole ourselves up in the room" like it was last time :lol: hes a person instead of a creepy robot, and the atmosphere is just entirely less oppressive :lol: distance wise, he's about 20 minutes to me now in no traffic. :yay: but i moved in may too and that forward movement together feels good too.

lets see we started going out in early november so yep i guess we'll hit six months! im still riding high on the pleasant weekend we had (and its tuesday + a whole lot more morons in between time) and just the usual neuroticisms arent bugging me right now. we're having a good time, and the future looks sunny so in general... like, since we've started dating, hes been the one consistent thing in my life that hasnt gone bad. you know? even if i hate everything else, things with him have always been good. i cannot stress enough how amazed i am that we get along so well and that we havent had any real fights yet. arent couples usually sick of each other at this point? :lol:

so yeah, lemme shut up putting too many words in it, and just enjoy the ride :reddancer:
 
meesch said:
i hated his last roommate. his new roommate is fun and its not "avoid the creepazoid lets hole ourselves up in the room" like it was last time :lol: hes a person instead of a creepy robot, and the atmosphere is just entirely less oppressive :lol: distance wise, he's about 20 minutes to me now in no traffic. :yay: but i moved in may too and that forward movement together feels good too.

lets see we started going out in early november so yep i guess we'll hit six months! im still riding high on the pleasant weekend we had (and its tuesday + a whole lot more morons in between time) and just the usual neuroticisms arent bugging me right now. we're having a good time, and the future looks sunny so in general... like, since we've started dating, hes been the one consistent thing in my life that hasnt gone bad. you know? even if i hate everything else, things with him have always been good. i cannot stress enough how amazed i am that we get along so well and that we havent had any real fights yet. arent couples usually sick of each other at this point? :lol:

so yeah, lemme shut up putting too many words in it, and just enjoy the ride :reddancer:

This is the exact way FH and I were. 18 months later and while we do have little fights (mostly due to my neurosis) I'm still not sick of him. When it's right, it's easy.
 
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