Hmm...listening to these other long time dating and long time married couples at bible study really shed a bright light on our relationship. Some of these folks are together for ALL the wrong reasons and just need to part. A commitment is one thing but a relationship let alone a marriage should not be that hard.
I would be mortified if my husband of 7 years stated to a crowd of people that everyday is a struggle and many times he wants to just walk out but God brought them together and their kids need both parents.
This one guy just would not stop talking about how many times prayer keeps him from leaving. And the wife is just looking like "the hayle with that I wish you'd stop praying and just go."
FH and I just looked at each other because truly they are together for the wrong reasons.
If I was that unhappy with my SO and the only reason I could come up with to stay was vows and kids...I'd be so gone.
Being happy is a choice and I refuse to be with someone just because I said I do or the condom broke. No mama.
Another couple said that you have to keep excitement in your marriage. I was following until she said they have some type of entertainment at least 4 times a week. Whether it's going out or inviting others over. I guess that would be over too if they had to just stay home and play chess or watch TV together. She made it sound like they were too boring to be together.
Thank the Lord FH and I are both introverts. We can sit for hours reading, listening to a book on tape, playing chess or
coloring of course. To us this is exciting.
There are other stories I could tell but this was just a minor vent. At any rate no relationship is perfect, but I can see what we have is way ahead of what we've seen thus far.