2012 Relationship Random Thoughts.... Part III

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I've realized I no longer care about meeting men or dating.:look: I don't even like talking about men/relationships unless it's pure superficial terms.:lick: Don't get me wrong, I want to be in a relationship and get married one day and have kids, but I've got so much going on with school and beginning my career my mind cannot handle all that in addition to the game that is dating.:nono: Maybe it's a matter of me meeting the right guy but for now I'm happy focusing on me.:grin:
 
MzLady78 said:
As devastated as I am by last week's revelation, I think I needed it to go down that way. It forced me to take off the rose-colored glasses and start focusing on what's actually going on and not what's being said. It doesn't mean that the moving on/letting go process is going to easy but I'm really ready to pick up the pieces and take back control of my life. I don't think I was before, but I don't have a choice now. It's time.
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MzLady78 I love the fact that you are so able to love. The man who finally lands you is going to be very blessed. He's coming...
 
tinkat said:
Sometimes a drastic situation has to happen in order for us to move on. For me it was him getting engaged barely a month and a half after everything ended. For a good friend it was someone getting another girl pregnant (she wasn't will him but they had a child and she couldn't move on). Hopefully for others it don't have to be drastic thing but it's a relief that it was for me. It forced me to move on.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
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tinkat Thanking God for all the prayers he didn't answer. I know exactly what you mean.
 
firecracker said:
We had a productive pleasurable day all before 2pm. The new network of doctors are working out great. The doctor told my guy to keep doing his part because we seem to have pain management under control. That is right no damn epidurals for me buddy!!!!!!! In a minute its gone be just me and mother nature working this out with God. :grin:
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firecracker Yes mam. Take care of you so you can take care of ya'll. I feel this way every time I make the decision to work out even when my knee is saying don't. Swimming does wonders for pain management...not being able to run during the cold months really sucked, but it's warm now...so time to get with a replacement plan.
 
ElizaBlue said:
@MzLady78 I love the fact that you are so able to love. The man who finally lands you is going to be very blessed. He's coming...
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@ElizaBlue, thank you so much for this, it really made my morning. :kiss:

TBH, with all the nonsense that I've been through, I'm really surprised that I haven't just shut down and not allowed anyone to get close to me. But I do realize that for my own well-being, I can't afford to be SO open anymore. I have to be more discerning in this area. Sometimes you just want that company and companionship but know you're not gonna live "happily ever after". You shouldn't fall in love with that person. That's where I messed up.
 
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Someone I went to HS with that also lives up the block from me lost her husband on Friday in a car crash. I read this on Facebook on Sat and couldn't stop thinking about her since. Her hubby is only 31 and left behind 3 kids. I see them all the time and it's just soo surreal and unreal right now. My prayers go out to her deeply. When I read the news on FB I called my SO just to hear his voice and make sure he's ok. On Sunday, he was cranky due to sleep deprivation and usually I'd get a little annoyed but when I realize how blessed we are I couldn't. Life is sooo short and uncertain. Makes you cherish each moment. I just read a msg she wrote on FB since her getting the terrible news and it made my eyes water.
 
ElizaBlue said:
tinkat Thanking God for all the prayers he didn't answer. I know exactly what you mean.
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Very well said. I find myself thanking god even more now lately for things that did not go as plan on general. Its a big lesson in letting go. I became more of a believer that god, angels, spirit guides, whatever listen to what I say and guide me in the right direction.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
 
he called and he said I sound so happy its been the best part of his vacay so far:grin: I updated him on the shows he likes to watch and even gave him the score on the game It was a great 10min conversation :drunk:
 
This is my first time posting in here, wish it was something happier :ohwell:

How is it possible to spend only 3 hours with someone and feel so crappy afterward. I am just going to crawl into bed and hide from the world for the rest of the day, I cant do this anymore.
 
sugahoney said:
This is my first time posting in here, wish it was something happier :ohwell:

How is it possible to spend only 3 hours with someone and feel so crappy afterward. I am just going to crawl into bed and hide from the world for the rest of the day, I cant do this anymore.
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Is this a current relationship?

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My sister really pissed me off today. I love her and know she means well but literally do not understand or have insight on my lifepath and I never make assumptions or judgements about hers even when I could have. There were many times when I felt like the big sister (more responsible one) but do I throw that in her face, hell no. Its about time you finally getting yourself together and becoming real big sister now but honey don't forget where you came from. I remember helping you out when it should have been the other way around. And the things you said about my Sorors were ridiculous. You don't even know them and they have kept me sane since i am not close to home. I could have easily made assumptions about your friends based on things that I do know but I don't bc I can care less and I don't judge things I don't really know. Mom said you are just a little jealous of the bond bc I am your blood sister. I think its silly bc it apples and oranges. I was not even thinking that you could be, she brought it up. Believe it or not I am my own damn person and spend more time trying to get the Fcuk out of this state bc I am ready to go. I just renig the thought of moving in with you when I leave...Hell NO! I do best in my own space.
 
MzLady78 said:
@ElizaBlue, thank you so much for this, it really made my morning. :kiss:

TBH, with all the nonsense that I've been through, I'm really surprised that I haven't just shut down and not allowed anyone to get close to me. But I do realize that for my own well-being, I can't afford to be SO open anymore. I have to be more discerning in this area. Sometimes you just want that company and companionship but know you're not gonna live "happily ever after". You shouldn't fall in love with that person. That's where I messed up.
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@MzLady78 You are so welcome. Because you're growing...you've grown away from things that "once upon a time" were okay to take up your time. I think (I'm my best example) that when we are ready for the right one, the right one will come into our life. And yes...we can fall in love with anyone...so we do have to be careful where we spend out time, because it's in our nature to love. And that means catching feelings for the wrong men at times. Lawd knows if I had a dollar...nevermind...lol...:lachen:

You haven't shut down because you have such a big heart and that's a beautiful thing baby. Don't ever let the wrong one change that. Bey's song "The Best Thing You Never Had" says it all.... because one day...
 
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firecracker said:
@deltadreamland I know you are tired but after you rest up I wanna hear a lil more than that goshdarnit! LOL Concert and food deets please. Oh by the way do you like double dating?

@LaBelleLL if they are nice people and you enjoy his company go to as many events as you want. Maybe his family isn't super formal. Hell I would use these outings to see him in his element and let his family show you who he maybe/is etc. Girl go eat. LOL

We went to Buffalo Wild Wings. They had a security guard. I was like wtf?????????? my people my people........
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The concert featured Kem and Anthony Hamilton. I'm pretty sure Kem was great, but acoustic problems masked his sound. He will be in Atlanta at the end of next month, so I'm sure we will try to see him again. We were in a suite at the venue, so it was nice with drinks and food.
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I thought it would only be my sister, her husband, and us...without our babies. We all met at Outback for dinner before the show and my sister and BIL had invited damn near 12 other single people to go with us! :blush: So it was a bit crowded and stuff. Now I don't mind groups of people periodically, but my sister and BIL seem to LOVE groups of people around them all the time. (but that's another beast for another time) :look: My guy and I are the opposite. We are open to going out with a couple or two here and there, but we were expecting a more smaller and intimate group. But no biggie, we had a blast with each other anyway.

Even though there were more people there than we expected, he always made me his priority. Yes, he socialized with everyone as did I, but we never stopped making "eyes" with each other from across the room, checking to see if I wanted food or needed a new drink, etc.

So it was great to see that even in a large group of people, we are still focused on making each other happy. Between entertainers, he was up and about, but as soon as the next act came on the stage he was planted right next to me. I love him more and more each day.
 
keyawarren it is not a full blown relationship yet, we are/were working towards that.

But what really annoyed me is that he made such a big deal that we should take vacation at the same time( we work for the same company but in different departments) so that we can spend some time together and he only spent 3 hours with me today.
 
tinkat, oh girlie, sorry that you and your sister have hit a rough patch. Please try to mend your relationship soon... It sounds like a misunderstanding...:huggle:
 
CarLiTa said:
tinkat, oh girlie, sorry that you and your sister have hit a rough patch. Please try to mend your relationship soon... It sounds like a misunderstanding...:huggle:
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Aw thanks. She really pissed me off though. I normally quiet but that Leo start coming out especially when a person becomes judgmental and condescending. She may not have meant nothing by it but in my eyes she has no room to talk about anything. That darn Pisces ugh. I love her but I now remember why we get along at a distance.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
 
We had a great pre-Dodger game celebration at my favorite Mexican restaurant. The game was awesome and so was the crowd. We both have loads of childhood memories filled with live baseball with family. I can't wait to go back.
 
My sister got frustrated with me the other day cause she was talking about which birth control pills are good for her post-partum body and I just gave her a blank stare as I know nothing about bcp's. Owkay.
 
sugahoney said:
keyawarren it is not a full blown relationship yet, we are/were working towards that.

But what really annoyed me is that he made such a big deal that we should take vacation at the same time( we work for the same company but in different departments) so that we can spend some time together and he only spent 3 hours with me today.
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That sounds like alot going on for 2 people who are not completely committed. Either way, don't let it stress you.
 
hopeful it was truly fun. I'm still riding high off all the excitement and memories. We will be going again now that the Dodgers has new owners and park rules. LOL

One of my friends reneged on a trip we had planned months ago. Now I have to convince my guy to rearrange his schedule and plans to come with me. Keeping my fingers crossed and not going to make him feel pressured. LOL In a way I really wanna go solo but I truly enjoy his company and companionship.
 
Got another 2min call- his cell phone bill is going to be crazy but I love he still calls me even while away...I've never gotten that from past guys and stopped saying anything...He just gets me sometimes...Love how he knows what I need even when I dont

ETA: ::screams:: HE JUST TEXTED ME!!! "Whats up babe At the beach thinking about you before I get in the water :grin:" I know I know i'm too hype but this just made me :lick::lachen:
 
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stephluv said:
Got another 2min call- his cell phone bill is going to be crazy but I love he still calls me even while away...I've never gotten that from past guys and stopped saying anything...He just gets me sometimes...Love how he knows what I need even when I dont

ETA: ::screams:: HE JUST TEXTED ME!!! "Whats up babe At the beach thinking about you before I get in the water :grin:" I know I know i'm too hype but this just made me :lick::lachen:
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Aw. Sweet...someone may be official soon :yep:

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
 
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