2012 Relationship Random Thoughts.... Part III

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keyawarren said:
So I tell a male friend of mine that I plan on leaving NYC soon and he goes and says "it would be selfish for me to tell you to stay" :ohwell:

*scratching my head*
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Oh gosh. That sounds like such BS:lol: I don't know, girl, I am not buying that one and wouldn't give him any airtime if that's what he has to say. These are such empty words.
 
deltadreamland said:
We have a busy weekend and I'm looking forward to every moment of it with him.

For Friday night, we're just hanging out at his house; just the two of us. The little boy, my little love-bug, hung out with us just about every weekend in March and April. So we didn't really have any "us" time since I was always in mommy mode and he was always in "supporting mommy mode". But now that the little love-bug is back on track for every other weekend visits with his dad, we can relax a little. :yep:

My best friend is getting married Saturday and he's accompanying me to the wedding. He took me shopping for a dress and shoes yesterday and assisted me in picking out a really cute red and black dress. Whatever he decides to wear, it will accent my dress. He says he will surprise me. He is an extremely fashion conscious man, so I'm sure he will look very very handsome. :lick::lick:

Sunday morning we are going to Florida to see Anthony Hamilton
in concert. This will be a double date with my sister and her husband.

And he gave me another dozen red roses Monday when I went over to visit him. I love him.
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We're in from the concert and I'm lying here listening to him snore. We had a perfect weekend and everything went as planned. Why must weekends end? :perplexed Back to the hustle and bustle of Atlanta tomorrow. :ohwell:
 
CarLiTa said:
Oh gosh. That sounds like such BS:lol: I don't know, girl, I am not buying that one and wouldn't give him any airtime if that's what he has to say. These are such empty words.
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Actually I didn't appreciate the comment that he made at all. Why would you say that to me? He made other comments that night as if he's dealing with some feelings he has for me. I'm not really in the mood to deal with "hint droppers"...especially if I've known you over 7 years.
 
deltadreamland I know you are tired but after you rest up I wanna hear a lil more than that goshdarnit! LOL Concert and food deets please. Oh by the way do you like double dating?

LaBelleLL if they are nice people and you enjoy his company go to as many events as you want. Maybe his family isn't super formal. Hell I would use these outings to see him in his element and let his family show you who he maybe/is etc. Girl go eat. LOL

We went to Buffalo Wild Wings. They had a security guard. I was like wtf?????????? my people my people........
 
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How am I going to survive this week without him?!! lol sorry just being dramatic but while the boo is away on a cruise this week I will try to get a few things done and focus on myself this week

Last night was the first night I havent talked to him but he did text me and i'm happy he is thinking of me while out with his boys on vacation He says it feels weird because this is his 2nd time on a cruise and the first time was when we officially met and he misses me I miss him too Just 6 more days
 
Had a great day yesterday with Ex- went to see The Avengers then I helped him with some shopping. He's colour blind :lol: but he dresses really well. :giggle:

Our trip to Banff is this week- I told him I'd do the overnight if he could respect my celibacy but he thought it better not to be in a situation that could lead to an argument. So we're just going to do a day trip, which is fine, but I won't get to see or do as much now. :ohwell: I kinda wish he was more disciplined. I don't like the excuse that "you're so sexy :blah::blah:".

Anyway, I need to think of something else we can do the 2nd day in town otherwise we're both going to cancel those vacation days. He's such a workaholic. :nono: He went to the office yesterday after he dropped me home. (He's a lawyer)
 
I'm so torn right now. I have one great potential and three menzz that I want to :look:, but I can't touch all of them. :(

L - Makes me laugh, has his stuff together (ie. Career, Home, & finances), wants to go to take me on trips, hates texting and loves to talk on the phone (A PLUS). Doesn't have any children. That man is BEYOND handsome. I could seriously go on and on. He's been pursuing me for a year now, but I've only recently started talking seriously to him.

J - Is fine. Met him a few weeks ago and he's very interesting. He has locs :lick: a nice body, and a nice :look:. I saw it at my girlfriends swinger party (NO, I'm not in the lifestyle. It was a combo birthday party and I LOVE to watch, but if I was... Who gon' check me boo? :ohwell:). He asked me to dinner on the beach. We didn't do anything. Not even make out. He was a gentleman and wants to hit up the African American museum this weekend. I couldn't pursue anything further than these fun dates with him. I can't have my man dipping in other women unless I'm there, with it, and he doesn't mind me having another man. :giggle:

E & K are both just eye candy. I don't even want to talk to them for more than a minute. Actually, I don't even want to meet them again. Cross them off the list. :yep:

Y'all learned a lot about me in this post. :lol:
 
I like L! I would date L :look:

And :rofl: at this:

but if I was... Who gon' check me boo?:ohwell: ).
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Wait. In addition to the stuff about his house and finances (which I noticed first) I just saw "beyond handsome" and the part about pursuing you for over a year. I'ma need you to get your life. :look: :giggle:
 
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I am really relieved... me and my boyfriend sometimes talk about the future and I never know if its really appropriate...
He basically told me yesterday that we should bring up everything on our minds because the point of a relationship is to build... and if we're not doing that we might as well not be together...
:reddancer:

its nice to have found a nice one after so many bad ones... and i'm glad he is tolerant of the damage I've sustained over the years from the other men I've dated.
 
deltadreamland said:
We're in from the concert and I'm lying here listening to him snore. We had a perfect weekend and everything went as planned. Why must weekends end? :perplexed Back to the hustle and bustle of Atlanta tomorrow. :ohwell:
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I had this same exact feeling yesterday. :ohwell: It's a good feeling to have someone miss you, just as much as you miss them.:yep:
 
Softerlove said:
Why is everyone telling me I'm picky? Damnit, its called standards.
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Girl, get outta my head..Why one of my good friends tried to set me up with a Married but Separated man...I was like no ma'am....I dont care how long they been separated..
Her: See thats your problem, Im trying to help you out. (Insert her baby daddy name here) is separated and if I wouldnt have taken a chance, we wouldnt have fallen in love and have (baby name)..
Me::ohwell::perplexed

Anyways..I like this new guy but i need advice..How do I show him that Im interested without coming across thirsty? Like, I want to be extra careful with this one..
 
I hear you, i can use some major cheering up. I cant believe this relationship issue (or lack there of) is emotionally beating me up this bad. Oh well, hoepfully it will roll away soon.
 
I give up on guys.

I've been pretty good about getting out there and meeting guys and dating. Since December, I haven't gone very long being entirely solo. There has always been a date or an interest or something.

Well, when I finally met a guy I thought I would consider taking seriously, he pulls a mysterious pull back and.... I just can't be bothered.

I'm turning 31 tomorrow.

I think it's time to throw in the towel. I'm tired of trying to be optimistic for my own happy ending. I'm an amazing girl. There are just no amazing guys who measure up.
 
As devastated as I am by last week's revelation, I think I needed it to go down that way. It forced me to take off the rose-colored glasses and start focusing on what's actually going on and not what's being said. It doesn't mean that the moving on/letting go process is going to easy but I'm really ready to pick up the pieces and take back control of my life. I don't think I was before, but I don't have a choice now. It's time.
 
I'm starting to feel like I depend on him for my happiness too much. Or maybe it's just his city and all the things there are to do there. I just feel so carefree when I'm with him, it's like all the stress and pressures of my real life are gone. Then as soon as I come home I'm kind of miserable for a few hours. I always say being there on the weekends and coming back home afterward is like waking up from a dream. This is not good.
 
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I cannot believe I sat through the Avengers...not really my type of movie, but FH and the Baby Girls begged me to go...so I did. Thank God for those 3D glasses...cause my *** was sleep big time....:lachen:
 
MzLady78 said:
As devastated as I am by last week's revelation, I think I needed it to go down that way. It forced me to take off the rose-colored glasses and start focusing on what's actually going on and not what's being said. It doesn't mean that the moving on/letting go process is going to easy but I'm really ready to pick up the pieces and take back control of my life. I don't think I was before, but I don't have a choice now. It's time.
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I felt this same way eight months ago and I am in a much better place. I am happy for you bc this feeling is a huge step.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
 
tinkat said:
I felt this same way eight months ago and I am in a much better place. I am happy for you bc this feeling is a huge step.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
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It was weird. For most of the day, I had this tightness in my chest (probably from trying not to break down, I swore I wasn't shedding anymore tears over this). Then sometime this afternoon, I just had an epiphany. It was literally like someone flipped a switch and suddenly I was able to breathe again.

It's still early, obviously, but I'm optimistic. I think this is the breakthrough I was waiting for.
 
MzLady78 said:
It was weird. For most of the day, I had this tightness in my chest (probably from trying not to break down, I swore I wasn't shedding anymore tears over this). Then sometime this afternoon, I just had an epiphany. It was literally like someone flipped a switch and suddenly I was able to breathe again.

It's still early, obviously, but I'm optimistic. I think this is the breakthrough I was waiting for.
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Sometimes a drastic situation has to happen in order for us to move on. For me it was him getting engaged barely a month and a half after everything ended. For a good friend it was someone getting another girl pregnant (she wasn't will him but they had a child and she couldn't move on). Hopefully for others it don't have to be drastic thing but it's a relief that it was for me. It forced me to move on.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
 
tinkat said:
Sometimes a drastic situation has to happen in order for us to move on. For me it was him getting engaged barely a month and a half after everything ended. For a good friend it was someone getting another girl pregnant (she wasn't will him but they had a child and she couldn't move on). Hopefully for others it don't have to be drastic thing but it's a relief that it was for me. It forced me to move on.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
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Yeah, this was pretty drastic. I just kept thinking I don't know how I'm going to be able to get past it, then I realized that I probably cant. It wasn't done to hurt me but it hurt me nonetheless and now I don't know what to believe anymore. But I don't have the energy or the heart to try to figure it out so I'm just gonna let it flow....
 
We had a productive pleasurable day all before 2pm. The new network of doctors are working out great. The doctor told my guy to keep doing his part because we seem to have pain management under control. That is right no damn epidurals for me buddy!!!!!!! In a minute its gone be just me and mother nature working this out with God. :grin:
 
LivingDol1, Happy birthday!! And don't sell yourself so short. There are amazing guys out there, it just takes a while to meet the right one :) hope you will be blessed to meet him in year 31:heart:

VeryBecoming, I had the same issue in my long distance relationship... Feeling in total bliss when I would be with him in his city, and then going back to mine and being stressed out, sad, and sometimes cranky. While I feel that the best solution is t be in the same city, I found it important to spend more time with my friends. Actually, we were pretty much all in long distance relationships, and it was a critical point in our friendship (senior year of college), so we implicitly committed to spending more time together. I find that balance to be important, at least for me. But it's tough when your SO lives in the "fun" city and you don't... And it feels like every time you spend together is a vacation, or a wonderful dream you have to wake up from in a day or 2.
 
So tempted to say yes to Ex and give in...something is making me wait though. I want to be sure, because I want a serious relationship.
 
VeryBecoming, I had the same issue in my long distance relationship... Feeling in total bliss when I would be with him in his city, and then going back to mine and being stressed out, sad, and sometimes cranky. While I feel that the best solution is t be in the same city, I found it important to spend more time with my friends. Actually, we were pretty much all in long distance relationships, and it was a critical point in our friendship (senior year of college), so we implicitly committed to spending more time together. I find that balance to be important, at least for me. But it's tough when your SO lives in the "fun" city and you don't... And it feels like every time you spend together is a vacation, or a wonderful dream you have to wake up from in a day or 2.
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Exactly. I get there and it's just a different world. Every time I visit I realize how much I've outgrown my town. All of his friends are like "soo when are you moving here?" That makes it kind of awkward, for me at least.

I spend time with my friends but I could spend more. It doesn't help that my best friend lives in the same city as my boyfriend.
 
I'm going to miss him dearly but I'm ready to go home to my parents' house to detox and to start to seriously eat clean. I feel fat.
 
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