ashessehsa
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Hypothetically speaking, of course...Would you date someone if you knew the person was involved in selling street pharmaceuticals? Or would you date someone who dabbled in recreational drug use?
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JustKiya
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For dead serious.
Everyone has the potential to be a crackhead.
Heck, people have the potential to be a whole lotta things, that they don't end up being.
Lucie
Dancin' on sunshine!
I used to dealers when I was high school because I loved bad boys. I stopped that mess at 18. I realized once involved with those sort of "boys" if anything goes down, they go for the dealers loved ones and I am too cute to be shot up over nonsense or to put my family in jeopardy. If I didn't continue to date them at 18, I would sure not date a user/dealer at 30 years old. NO THANKS!
ashessehsa
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This guy I know who I haven't seen in YEARS asked me to hang out with him. I asked him what he was up to and he said he's been selling. I was like, selling what? lol. Once he said he's been selling drugs, I told him I'd get back to him.
Don't get me wrong, he's a cool dude and everything, but I don't want to go to jail/be an accessory to ANYTHING!!! I just want to hang out.
Don't get me wrong, he's a cool dude and everything, but I don't want to go to jail/be an accessory to ANYTHING!!! I just want to hang out.
JustKiya
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A whole lotta folks get shot 'just hanging out'. Bullets tend to not check as to whether you are part of the crew, just 'kicking it' or the next-door neighbor. The best thing to do is to avoid those who work/live in a situation where the probability of gunfire/raids is high.
Let him go, girl.
ashessehsa
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Livingmylifetothefullest
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Hell no, I'm not trying to go to jail and have a felony on my record I can't believe someone would even want to date/marry someone like that....are you nuts!!!!!
I can't believe someone would even want to date/marry someone like that....are you nuts!!!!!
ashessehsa
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When I met him back in '06 he was a dealer..we lost contact until late '08, and he'd stopped selling/smoking and went to college. I was proud of him, and now he's saying he had to start again to pay for school...It's just like being a stripper (except you can go to jail for a LONG time lmao). It makes me wonder if he ever stopped in the first place.
Bunny77
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I hope you don't believe the bolded. If you do, I've got this bridge to sell ya...
MzLady78
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Basically.
My high school sweetheart was a street pharmacist. He wasn't a bad boy, not a stand on the street corner all day type, either. He just came from a loooong line of hustlers so it was almost inevitable that he'd go down that same road. However, he kept me completely isolated from that part of his life and I damn sure didn't ask any questions.
We're still close and he still does his thing. He showed interest in getting back together at one point, but I'm not 16 anymore, that life is not gonna work for me at 31, damn near 32.
ashessehsa
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Lol...That's the reason why we stopped being friends in the first place. I just got a text saying he wants to hang out tomorrow and I said NOPE. Now that I think about it, I never gave him my new cell# so I don't know how he's calling/texting me ??
I guess I needed a lil reminder or a slap in the face before I go and do something that I KNOW later on I'll be asking myself "wtf were you thinking?!?!?"
Bunny77
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I'd never recommend it.
ladysaraii
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Nope. And I refuse to date a smoker.
Oddly enough, weed has never bothered me, but to be honest I'd really have to say no to all of it
Oddly enough, weed has never bothered me, but to be honest I'd really have to say no to all of it
southernchocolate
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"New Jack City" and the ending of "The Coldest Winter Ever" programmed me to never get involved with anything or anyone drug related. Crazy, I know, but Nino Brown was no joke.
aribell
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The best thing to do is to avoid those who work/live in a situation where the probability of gunfire/raids is high.
Let him go, girl.
Word. Homicide rates are not evenly distributed throughout society. They are highly, highly concentrated in areas and demographics of people that do exactly this type of stuff.
I don't know how many different ways I could say "No!"
Recreational user...prob'ly not. I don't even really tolerate alcohol in people very well, let alone anything else.
MoniintheMiddle
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Nope...payback is a b. When someone is after him, best believe you are on their list too as a means to get at him. No worth it
Black Ambrosia
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One of my clients did 14 months in prison because she was dating a drug dealer. She is still on probation. Its the same story... He had a car in her name (for insurance purposes or something like that). They found drugs in the car and wanted her to say that the drugs were his. He let other people drive the car so she really didn't know who they belonged to but she knew what he was doing... Anyway, just say NO. Its not worth it.
MissMeWithThatIsh
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Might have without really knowing it when I was younger ... but no, that's not my steez
Livingmylifetothefullest
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I must say I don't feel sorry for her one bit; she is dealing with the consequences of her actions. Hopefully, she learned her lesson.
MrsAriannaAmbers
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Knowing now what I didn't know then...nope sweetheart. KIM...Its too much risk involved and you sound as if you have alot going for yourself.
Black Ambrosia
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I'm not sure how I feel about it. OTOH, I agree with you but I also think its a harsh penalty for picking the wrong person. Being a felon stays with you forever and impacts the kind of job you can get and, to some degree, what you'll become.
I also wonder if the guy set her up. He had another car in his name but nothing was found in that car. I'm sure its just coincidence but I can't help but wonder.
moonglowdiva
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Rebuttal: Why would I want to set myself up for failure?
IMFOCSD
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I have dated someone who sold drugs. People make mistakes & when people are down on their luck as far as finding a job...they do what they gotta do 2 survive (strippers, drug dealers, etc). He relocated 2 another State once he was tired & realized that the job markets are better in other places. He has 2 jobs now, 1 making $11 hrly & the other $14 hrly salary pay (80 hrs a week). He is a good person who had 2 do what he had 2 do 2 feed his fam. I dont condone selling drugs but im not gonna judge a person because of it either. When a person realizes there is more to life & wants more out of life they will get things together for the good.
naturalmanenyc
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Hmmm. Having my life in danger from other drug dealers or drug addicts with no money. Being watched by the police on a regular and probably being searched and having my house raided. Prison. Embarrasing my entire family & all of my friends. Losing my license to practice law. Being someone's bed buddy. No thanks. I'd rather be single than to date a drug dealer.
As for recreational drugs, when I was still dating I avoided cig smokers so I could not deal with a recreational drug user.
As for recreational drugs, when I was still dating I avoided cig smokers so I could not deal with a recreational drug user.
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