I'm hotdogs or ramen noodles for dinner.
what helped you become an affectionate person? I need lots of help in that area.
My ex husband claimed one of the reasons he cheated on me was because the other girl was more flirty and affectionate.
He also claimed he cheated on me because I didn't wear lip gloss or lotioned enough for him.
Bet he would like to see my Vicky Secret selection now.... I spend well over $1000 since then buying up lotions, body sprays and bathing gels, perfumes for every day use. I have just about every line of everything.
This was SAD. No man should ever make a woman feel inadequate. However once I made those changes due to the insecurities of infidelity, I found that I liked them.
I won't ever be the girly girl that I see with other women- but I have learned to lean back and demand (sweetly) to be treated like a woman. I never take out my garbage- that is Lee's job now. If there is a bug in my house- I call him from his house to come kill it. He thinks it is hilarious but I am so serious.
I WAIT for men to open the door for me and say thank you when they do. I know I keep repeating that but this is another big thing for me that I had to learn. I was always that woman opening the door for myself- not any more.
If Lee and I are together- I give him all the bags. Another thing I had to learn. He snapped on me one day because I was carrying everything a while back. He hates when I carry anything, even if I do it to help him. Duly noted Sir.
After I grocery shop, I call my son to help with the groceries. Lee and my son bring the bags in and leave them in the kitchen so I can unpack. I think that is a fair trade after I picked out all food out.
I follow behind when out in public so that Lee is leading. I agree with him in public in front of people, even if I don't agree. He is generally right any way so he isn't saying anything crazy that would make me look stupid.
If we are out eating, I wipe his mouth with a napkin or some other endearing move, like rubbing his shoulders or he feeds me dessert. I notice that some women (and men) stare at us when we are out. But he is smiling and that is all that matters.
I think that is about it.
Things I find most important-
Always greet him with a smile and a hug;
Listen to him when having arguments instead of get too emotional;
Have him do things so that he feels needed, regardless of how small and when he is done, be affectionate and thankful;
And give him that endearment, affection, or serve him in front of others.
