I started slow with everything that didn't require money lol. I'm cheap.
1. I had a set of white dishes. I love colors so I only used the color ones but I must admit the white ones make my food pop better. This was free for me to do.
2. Coloring everyday. I had gotten to a point where we were once a week or so. I'm tired and have a 6 month old so it's understandable. However I set my alarm every night. When the alarm went off I just made it a habit to...at least...
lick the lollipop. It often led to coloring. I noticed he was a lot happier and more receptive to doing what I wanted.
I started wanting it more too. I just had gotten out of the habit with baby.
3. I tell DH what to do all day. I literally boss him around to outsiders. I started framing every command in a question. Can you now the grass? Would you rather have chicken or steak for dinner? Do you think you would have enough money to pay DS's xyz? Literally today I said we need to go cmon on we're going to be late but stopped at We need to stopped paused and changed it to baby in how many minutes will we be leaving?
4. Admiring DH: again I set my alarm. At 8:30 or nine Ima getting things from a list: lick the lollipop,bathe him, feed him privately, massage his body, clip his fingernails/toenails lol, iron his clothes, sit in his lap and touch him...SOMETHING. It was really calculated at first but as the days go on I appreciate it and look forward to it. A lot of it is because it's a lot of peace at home now. He does more for me and me more for him.