The candid questions regarding relationships thread (for grown folks)

[BEAUTYU2U]

I haven't met a man that would admit using a doll and certainly wouldn't let me see it. The horror

Lmao. Yeah, I'd hope the majority didn't use one. I always picture teen boys and recluses in grandma's basement use those lol. But last time I was at the kink store, I noticed they had a plus size blow up.

 

[BEAUTYU2U]

I don't see how masturbation is a no-no for coupled people. It's not like you're having an affair .... are you going to leave him for BOB? For serious?

Why did he have his own stimulator though?

 

[SoopremeBeing]

Cuz his ego can't handle it...plain and simple

All the big-breasted, double and triple penetration porn us women have to compete with and he's mad about a vibrator?

Whateva...men kill me sometimes

all i picture is some woman going super hard with her turbo vibrator and the dude is sitting there looking pitiful.

 

[CaraWalker]

I don't see how masturbation is a no-no for coupled people. It's not like you're having an affair .... are you going to leave him for BOB? For serious?

Why did he have his own stimulator though?

it was a .... ring w/ stimulator attached

 

[Fine 4s]

idk how vibrators would be incorporated, really (mutual play im assuming ie he does it for you), but i used clit stims with my last two bfs, they didnt care. one of them wasnt even mine it was his.

Did he use it on others? CaraWalker?
I have a male toy but scared to use. They may not be open to using something I used on someone else. Idk

 

[meka72]

all i picture is some woman going super hard with her turbo vibrator and the dude is sitting there looking pitiful.

My friend was dating this guy (40 y/o) who didn't know how to "lay it down." He was clumsy and didn't take direction well. So one night, my friend gets frustrated and tells him to stop because "I got this." Then she pulls out her vibrator and starts talking sh*t to him while taking care of herself. When she's done, she continued talking sh*t to him as she repeatedly smacked him across the nose with the vibrator. That was years ago and we still crack up over this story.

 

[jbwphoto1]

all i picture is some woman going super hard with her turbo vibrator and the dude is sitting there looking pitiful.

to this image!

 

[sylver2]

I was a senior citizen when I lost my virginity in my mid 20's. I had a very satisfying dry humping/oral run up to that point though.

I was raised to stay a virgin till marriage though.

Crackers Phinn man tell em!! I was dry humping until age 20. I probably wouldve been still happily dry humping & stayed a virgin for God knows how long had my mom not passed. dryhump 2 thumbs up

 

[sylver2]

idk how vibrators would be incorporated, really (mutual play im assuming ie he does it for you), but i used clit stims with my last two bfs, they didnt care. one of them wasnt even mine it was his.

my ex would not allow anything. I begged because i never had orgasm. He went crazy ranting when i suggested a bullet for clit stim during. his ego smh.

 

[MzLady78]

my ex would not allow anything. I begged because i never had orgasm. He went crazy ranting when i suggested a bullet for clit stim during. his ego smh.

Dudes be in denial. I have had a few guys swear something was wrong with me because I don't have orgasms from intercourse. Talking bout they've made EVERY other woman they've been with have them that way.

I'm like sir, you've been hoodwinked. Bamboozled. Led astray. Run amuck.

 

[cheetarah1980]

Dudes be in denial. I have had a few guys swear something was wrong with me because I don't have orgasms from intercourse. Talking bout they've made EVERY other woman they've been with have them that way.

I'm like sir, you've been hoodwinked. Bamboozled. Led astray. Run amuck.

He didn't land on Plymouth Rock. Plymouth Rock landed on him!

 

[TayMac]

Dudes be in denial. I have had a few guys swear something was wrong with me because I don't have orgasms from intercourse. Talking bout they've made EVERY other woman they've been with have them that way.

I'm like sir, you've been hoodwinked. Bamboozled. Led astray. Run amuck.

Them and those men that "say" that don't eat at the Y need to stay in the damn house.

 

[MzLady78]

Them and those men that "say" that don't eat at the Y need to stay in the damn house.

Ugh, now those fools are the WORST! But be the the first ones to want some head.

*** you very much, good night and good luck.

 

[Crackers Phinn]

I tried asking before and he shut it down...He's thrown out two of my vibrators too.

Now see me and him would have to fight.

I haven't met a man that would admit using a doll and certainly wouldn't let me see it. The horror

I think it takes a lot of trust for men to share their porn and toys. Not normal trust, but the you know where the body is hidden trust.

my ex would not allow anything. I begged because i never had orgasm. He went crazy ranting when i suggested a bullet for clit stim during. his ego smh.

That's why his a-- is an ex.

 

[DarkJoy]

Which brings up the question: why lie if they haven't done their job? Cuz dudes be prancing like they gone knock it out cuz every other woman lied when their mess really has you yawning ?

Do you lie?

I dont lie. One dude, practically mandingo in endowments, asked if it was good for me all grinning and **** expecting i was gonna say yes.

I said no. It was terrible. In those words. Snatched up my clothes and rolled out.

He called me BEGGING for a second chance. Sent flowers to my house. Cried, y'all. Cried into the phone apologizing.

Pffft. I erased him from my thoughts and moved on.

Til this day I dont fake it. Its disingenuous and I HATE to be dissatisfied. Nuccas got to work and make it happen if i grace them with my body.

 

[CaraWalker]

i stopped faking it around twenty two when i grew up

 

[DarkJoy]

Them and those men that "say" that don't eat at the Y need to stay in the damn house.

Yea!!! a dude says that and ecpects me to swallow the pole? Boy bye.

 

[CaraWalker]

Did he use it on others? CaraWalker? I have a male toy but scared to use. They may not be open to using something I used on someone else. Idk

idk i imagine he had used it before.

 

[BEAUTYU2U]

it was a .... ring w/ stimulator attached

Ohhh I see. I thought he had bought like a bullet. That would of been weird.

 

[cheetarah1980]

Which brings up the question: why lie if they haven't done their job? Cuz dudes be prancing like they gone knock it out cuz every other woman lied when their mess really has you yawning ?

Do you lie?

I dont lie. One dude, practically mandingo in endowments, asked if it was good for me all grinning and **** expecting i was gonna say yes.

I said no. It was terrible. In those words. Snatched up my clothes and rolled out.

He called me BEGGING for a second chance. Sent flowers to my house. Cried, y'all. Cried into the phone apologizing.

Pffft. I erased him from my thoughts and moved on.

Til this day I dont fake it. Its disingenuous and I HATE to be dissatisfied. Nuccas got to work and make it happen if i grace them with my body.

My BF knows when I haven't climaxed. He can feel it when I do so there is no point in me faking it with him. He gets upset if he doesn't make me have an O so I get multiple rounds until I do. I am not complaining.

 

[ElizaBlue]

Never fake it that teaches a man bad habits. If he's trainable I might school him. But if not...goodbye.

 

[CaliiSwagg]

one dude, practically mandingo in endowments, asked if it was good for me all grinning and **** expecting i was gonna say yes. I said no. It was terrible. In those words. Snatched up my clothes and rolled out. He called me BEGGING for a second chance. Sent flowers to my house. Cried, y'all. Cried into the phone apologizing.

I died twice at his grown negro crying into the phone because he is whack as hell

 

[BEAUTYU2U]

They can't feel it when you O? I mean it's a muscle spasm. I don't think I'm built to be a faker. I'm a bad liar.

 

[Crackers Phinn]

Which brings up the question: why lie if they haven't done their job? Cuz dudes be prancing like they gone knock it out cuz every other woman lied when their mess really has you yawning ?

Do you lie?

I don't lie, but I believe in second chances. I think there is a margin for awkwardness error the first time with someone. Barring ED or unforgiveable wackiness, if I liked the dude enough he'll get a round 2 to see if round 1 was a fluke. But I had to have REALLY liked him.

Again with the super aggressive types, it's been my experience that you cannot tell them anything. And my personal pet peeve are the Scorpios who believe the hype around their sign. No boo boo.

 

[CaraWalker]

They can't feel it when you O? I mean it's a muscle spasm. I don't think I'm built to be a faker. I'm a bad liar.

i feel like im disputing everything everyone in this thread says but i have had extensive conversations about this with bfs, and they cant feel the spasms from an orgasm. the shaft isnt sensitive enough, they say. maybe it might be different without a condom? ima pipe down cause i feel weird that my experiences are so different from everyone elses

 

[qchelle]

Have yall always felt it when the guy Os? (For those who don't use the pull out method )

 

[BEAUTYU2U]

LOL it's fine. I've heard in movies, dudes say, "I counted how many times you came." Is that just super cheesy movie talk then?

 

[CaraWalker]

LOL it's fine. I've heard in movies, dudes say, "I counted how many times you came." Is that just super cheesy movie talk then?

i think its bull****. but that might be just me idk. i mean obviously they can tell with your other reactions and stuff, but counting from the inside, or something? um, no.

qchelle i slept with a guy in undergrad for 4 years under those circumstances and i only knew he was finished because he stopped.

 

[pink_flower]

yes i can feel a guy. his penis gets really really hard and it pulsates.

 

[pink_flower]

this thread is interesting.