The candid questions regarding relationships thread (for grown folks)

natura87 said:
I walked in on an awkward conversation and my question is tame in comparison. .:spinning:
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Can you please ask it? This prolapse clown stuff is :nono:. I also want to know about the question that people are waiting to her about. Is it the backyard barbeque?
 
kandake said:
Can you please ask it? This prolapse clown stuff is :nono:. I also want to know about the question that people are waiting to her about. Is it the backyard barbeque?
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My question is tame compared to this thread. Talking about booty holes collapsing and falling out.:lachen::lachen:I'm oddly intrigued and disgusted at the same time.
 
When I think about you, I think heaux. When I dream about you, I think heaux. It only took me some hours to hit, I think heaux
 
FelaShrine said:
guilty of what?
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The person has a rep for being messy and a drama queen. I can def see that. Our friendship is shaky because it's new and she's shown me time and time again she has no loyalty. I've taken a break to figure out things and yesterday I found out that something big happened but I don't know the full details. A part of me wants to say hey I'm not part of any conspiracy to take you down my issue is separate and at this point I don't think can ever be mended. She's extremely defensive so she's not the type of person you can get through to which is why I feel it can't be mended because she would need to be a different person. Another part of me doesn't want her to go through all this alone because I know how it feels to be in this situation and have people turn their backs on you and I wouldn't want to do that to someone else BUT she has no loyalty so I can't ride for someone who would never (at least not before this situation) ride for me. At this point with her rep I wouldn't want her to......which brings me to people in this situation side-eyeing me because they think we're cool. I feel like if I reach out to her she'll latch on to me in a way she wouldn't have before and bring my rep down. In another way, I feel like I should tell her why I personally distanced myself before the incident but I don't want to be friends though a part of me wants to help her through this.
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Do any of you find that ladies in your circle have similar attitudes to sex or are there wide variations? Me and my friends in my early 20s had similar views then, but not so sure nowadays...
 
janiebaby said:
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No I wouldnt be embarrassed or distance myself. I'm my own person tho. good or bad, I don't think it wwould ever be on my radar to be compared to one of my friends. We're usually nothing alike.

But I get why most people may feel uncomfortable with a friends with a reputation or lifestyle they disagree with. Since many people, myself included, believe birds of a feather flock together.
 
I had a best friend who was very fast at a young age. She was the type where we would all go to a guys house in high school to chill and she would be on the floor f*cking his friend or giving him head. Now that pissed me off but we stayed the best of friends until she just recently got into hard drugs. I never felt like I was viewed as a ho because I didn't carry myself like that.
 
Daughter said:
Do any of you find that ladies in your circle have similar attitudes to sex or are there wide variations? Me and my friends in my early 20s had similar views then, but not so sure nowadays...
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Meh. I think we're pretty similar. Similar in the fact we're quiet about it. Idk what the hell is going down in some of my friends bedrooms.I damn sure am not telling them what's going down in mine. I'd have to be drunk and probably so do they. Its very very rare for us to discuss sex beyond a chick that stay putting out too early in the game or too easily but that's never any of us.

At the same time, I don't think my friends would answer this question the same. Some of them have some straight up slutbag whores for friends. I never know what to say whenever I hear another foolishness issue one of their other friends is having.
 
One rule of thumb: make sure you go pee beforehand.

Do any of you find that ladies in your circle have similar attitudes to sex or are there wide variations?
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I think I've been lucky enough to have spoken with females who are a bit more open-minded about sex. I like to talk about it without feeling like a prude. And a majority of them are married or in long-term relationships.
 
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BEAUTYU2U said:
Overall, I've noticed those who had sex sooner, talk sex less.
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ahhhhh nice assessment.

It's like been there done that, what else you got to contribute to this relationship? :drunk:

Had you caught me as a teenager or even early twenties I may have been the one to post the oral sex video and handing out tips and in search of suggestions left and right. Now that I've been f*ckin longer than I havent I'm like meh..... let's talk about something else....


eta: gotdamn I'm been having sex for a longggggg time lol
 
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I'm the one of my friends who will bring up sex in the conversation. The only one lol. They'll call me nasty and laugh and say 'typical qchelle'. .. and then they'll start talking about it too. Gotta give em a push lol. it makes them uncomfortable, but idc
 
qchelle said:
I'm the one of my friends who will bring up sex in the conversation. The only one lol. They'll call me nasty and laugh and say 'typical qchelle'. .. and then they'll start talking about it too. Gotta give em a push lol. it makes them uncomfortable, but idc
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Were you and most of your friends early or late virgins?
 
barbiesocialite said:
No I wouldnt be embarrassed or distance myself. I'm my own person tho. good or bad, I don't think it wwould ever be on my radar to be compared to one of my friends. We're usually nothing alike.

But I get why most people may feel uncomfortable with a friends with a reputation or lifestyle they disagree with. Since many people, myself included, believe birds of a feather flock together.
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I pretty much aired my grievances and put everything out on the table. It's a new start between us but I'm staying in my lane and staying away from whatever happened with a 10ft pole.
 
Daughter said:
Do any of you find that ladies in your circle have similar attitudes to sex or are there wide variations? Me and my friends in my early 20s had similar views then, but not so sure nowadays...
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I'm in my 40's and I think we pretty much have the same attitude. Do hoe **** with your husband and if you ain't got one, do hoe **** to get one.
 
With my friends I will only talk to the ones that I think have something interesting to say and aren't shy/prude which is about 1/4. The ones that are most open have been sexually active since 14 ish. I was a late virgin.

What determines the frequency is whether we are attached, or not (and getting a regular supply:look:). My settled down candid friends are still upfront sometimes, but the amount of time spent talking about those subjects goes wayyyy down.

My SO said the same about his friends when they are attached.
 
Sumra said:
With my friends I will only talk to the ones that I think have something interesting to say and aren't shy/prude which is about 1/4. The ones that are most open have been sexually active since 14 ish. I was a late virgin.

What determines the frequency is whether we are attached, or not (and getting a regular supply:look:). My settled down candid friends are still upfront sometimes, but the amount of time spent talking about those subjects goes wayyyy down.

My SO said the same about his friends when they are attached.
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Maybe this the real explanation.

Even as a youngin I''ve never been one to have a lot of single friends. Everyone is always booed up, a serial monogamist or settled down. I'm pretty forward, there isnt much I say yuck about. Even the squirting thing, IDK how it woud enter the conversation but response would likely be why and I'd prob send them to the proper person to discuss it with lol.

Believe it or not, I'm a private person. Most of my friends are private people and we were raised by private women. We discuss what's urgent or necessary to discuss. This extends to everything but sex rarely is on the roster. Whenever we're talkng about sex it's usually in relation to some chick we know who is easy, a virgin or we think something is wrong with her. Like there's this one who's a whore of whores, first night she'll put out, but she has a problem finding a man or keeping one so we're convinced she's bad in bed. :look:
 
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ditto--even as an adult all of my friends/associates vary in many ways:look:

i know who i am and most ppl know too so I'm never worried about anyone questioning me based on who i am associated with or have in my circle...


tru4reele said:
I had a best friend who was very fast at a young age. She was the type where we would all go to a guys house in high school to chill and she would be on the floor f*cking his friend or giving him head. Now that pissed me off but we stayed the best of friends until she just recently got into hard drugs. I never felt like I was viewed as a ho because I didn't carry myself like that.
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BEAUTYU2U said:
Overall, I've noticed those who had sex sooner, talk sex less.
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I didn't have sex until I was 17, but I usually have nothing to say about it. I'm very open to talk about it, but my thinking is.. We've all done it, what else is left for there to say about it? :lol:

As I've gotten older I've gotten more private, but Ide also rather spend my time on other topics. *shrug*
 
i started in my late teens and ill discuss it depending on context. i like to discuss interesting things, and sex still interests me :lol:
 
Me and by best friends talk about sex a lot. In detail :look: All late virgins so there goes that theory :lol: or maybe we are an odd bunch
 
what do yall consider a late virgin?

man i am still dead at rosebud. i thought i knew all porn terms

eta: i lost mine the first year of college @ 18. I consider that pretty average 18-21.
 
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