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3jsmom said:
Well I got terrible news this AM. My cousins 14 yo dd is missing. Please everyone if you would pray, greatly appreciate it. She has been skipping school. They found her cell phone but not her.

We are having a family meeting tonight. I will keep you guys updated.
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Prayers here, hon. Sending out lots of positive energy!
 
MuziqizLyfe said:
My oldest cap and gown came today
ya'll :cry: the next two months are senior prom and graduation, I can't believe it. She is at her dad's and he text me a picture of her trying it on and I teared up. Then he and I text for an hour reminiscing starting from taking her home from the hospital in what we called a little blue clown car :lol: so then I was laughing and crying! Whew...time needs to slow down..
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Awwww!!!!!!
 
3jsmom said:
Well I got terrible news this AM. My cousins 14 yo dd is missing. Please everyone if you would pray, greatly appreciate it. She has been skipping school. They found her cell phone but not her.

We are having a family meeting tonight. I will keep you guys updated.
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Lord... praying
 
On a 2 week vacation with my daughter without my SO and I am surprisingly feeling rejuvenated that I am able to balance my life as a mom and as a mate. I enjoy my me time just as much as I enjoy my time with my loved ones and consider both essential.
 
Hey ladies. Well nope I haven't been off it since I went back to work. Been ordered to stay off it till I see the ortho on Tuesday. Been in the house all weekend and only down the steps once.
 
I hope you ladies are having a marvelous Sunday, because mine's has been truly bizarre. Good, but bizarre.

Took my son to Ihop for breakfast and we hadn't even sat down good before this random white man comes over to my son and says: "How are you doing today, little lady?"

Me: "Boy." :look:

So the man does a double take, corrects himself and keeps talking to my child. Next thing I know, this same random white man pulls out his wallet and gives my son a brand new spanking $10 bill, tells him to have a nice day and walks off. I'm thinking to myself...Hmmm....side hustle....:lol: Next stop...Red Lobster!

Next, we go to Kohl's and I buy a $30 sports bra advertised for $21.99 for $19.99. Cool. Can't be a discount.

THEN

We go to Sally's where they are having this B1G1 free deal. So I stock up on nail polish. After ringing up $25 + change, the cashier talks me into signing up for a Sally's member card. She says I'll save $0.60 right then and there! OK. After signing me up, the total charge ends up getting discounted to $18.53. Cool. So I asked if she can put $10 on one credit card and the rest on another. She said I might have to pay cash, so she gets the manager who confirms I would actually have to pay cash split the payment. I don't want to pay cash. So I asked the cashier if she could just split the order then. You know, make it two charges instead of one.

She says, no problem. She hits some buttons and the charge is $8.53. I pay with one card and pull out the other card to pay the balance. She tells me we are good. I ask about the balance. She tells me she's got a coupon. I don't say another word and take my stuff and go. I don't know what happened to that other $10, but I wasn't sticking around to find out. And I received a $5 coupon for my next shopping trip.

Yeah...today was a good day! :lol:
 
IronButterfly said:
I hope you ladies are having a marvelous Sunday, because mine's has been truly bizarre. Good, but bizarre.

Took my son to Ihop for breakfast and we hadn't even sat down good before this random white man comes over to my son and says: "How are you doing today, little lady?"

Me: "Boy." :look:

So the man does a double take, corrects himself and keeps talking to my child. Next thing I know, this same random white man pulls out his wallet and gives my son a brand new spanking $10 bill, tells him to have a nice day and walks off. I'm thinking to myself...Hmmm....side hustle....:lol: Next stop...Red Lobster!

Next, we go to Kohl's and I buy a $30 sports bra advertised for $21.99 for $19.99. Cool. Can't be a discount.

THEN

We go to Sally's where they are having this B1G1 free deal. So I stock up on nail polish. After ringing up $25 + change, the cashier talks me into signing up for a Sally's member card. She says I'll save $0.60 right then and there! OK. After signing me up, the total charge ends up getting discounted to $18.53. Cool. So I asked if she can put $10 on one credit card and the rest on another. She said I might have to pay cash, so she gets the manager who confirms I would actually have to pay cash split the payment. I don't want to pay cash. So I asked the cashier if she could just split the order then. You know, make it two charges instead of one.

She says, no problem. She hits some buttons and the charge is $8.53. I pay with one card and pull out the other card to pay the balance. She tells me we are good. I ask about the balance. She tells me she's got a coupon. I don't say another word and take my stuff and go. I don't know what happened to that other $10, but I wasn't sticking around to find out. And I received a $5 coupon for my next shopping trip.

Yeah...today was a good day! :lol:
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Girl I need to come shopping with you! !!!!
 
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I just broke down and cried. I am so frustrated that she doesn't listen to me when I tell her to do something. Then when I do it myself she has a crying fit. Most days I handle it well but today wasn't one of those days, I yelled at her after asking her to get ready three times and deciding to put her coat and shoes on myself.

I feel so alone most days. No one in nursing school is in the same situation as me so I have no one to talk to about this. I feel so overwhelmed sometimes. I have noticed I am withdrawn sometimes with my nursing friends as well.I don't feel like a good mother at all. I feel I don't give my child the attention she needs because of work and school. I just feel lost at times.

I just needed to vent.
 
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snugglez41685 said:
I just broke down and cried. I am so frustrated that she doesn't listen to me when I tell her to do something. Then when I do it myself she has a crying fit. Most days I handle it well but today wasn't one of those days, I yelled at her after asking her to get ready three times and deciding to put her coat and shoes on myself.

I feel so alone most days. No one in nursing school is in the same situation as me so I have no one to talk to about this. I feel so overwhelmed sometimes. I have noticed I am withdrawn sometimes with my nursing friends as well.I don't feel like a good mother at all. I feel I don't give my child the attention she needs because of work and school. I just feel lost at times.

I just needed to vent.
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snugglez41685
You are doing everything you can for your little girl. We all have days where we feel it's not enough. You wouldn't have gotten this far if you hadn't been busting your butt. Don't be so hard on yourself. We are all here for you pulling and praying for you. It will all work out and one day you will be able to encourage someone else.
Your daughter is just being a child. They have bad days too. Just keep pushing. You can PM me anytime if you need to talk.
:bighug:
 
snugglez41685 said:
I just broke down and cried. I am so frustrated that she doesn't listen to me when I tell her to do something. Then when I do it myself she has a crying fit. Most days I handle it well but today wasn't one of those days, I yelled at her after asking her to get ready three times and deciding to put her coat and shoes on myself.

I feel so alone most days. No one in nursing school is in the same situation as me so I have no one to talk to about this. I feel so overwhelmed sometimes. I have noticed I am withdrawn sometimes with my nursing friends as well.I don't feel like a good mother at all. I feel I don't give my child the attention she needs because of work and school. I just feel lost at times.

I just needed to vent.
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Girl You can not beat yourself up. .. what mother doesn't go through this? It will be ok
 
snugglez41685 said:
I just broke down and cried. I am so frustrated that she doesn't listen to me when I tell her to do something. Then when I do it myself she has a crying fit. Most days I handle it well but today wasn't one of those days, I yelled at her after asking her to get ready three times and deciding to put her coat and shoes on myself.

I feel so alone most days. No one in nursing school is in the same situation as me so I have no one to talk to about this. I feel so overwhelmed sometimes. I have noticed I am withdrawn sometimes with my nursing friends as well.I don't feel like a good mother at all. I feel I don't give my child the attention she needs because of work and school. I just feel lost at times.

I just needed to vent.
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Fight hard, love hard. That's what I say. Who doesn't feel guilty? Good parents usually do.:yep: Why just this morning I snapped on my son for taking his sweet time getting in his booster seat for breakfast when we were running late to get him to school. As usual, he had a melt down over me yelling at him. Usually I will coddle him, but this morning I said, "NO! I do not have time for this. Knock it off!" And he sucked them tears right up.

Talk about a guilt trip! But you know what? He is not damaged by it. Cuz later on I gave him a million kisses...all of which he promptly wiped off. Back to normal.:lol:
 
snugglez41685 said:
I just broke down and cried. I am so frustrated that she doesn't listen to me when I tell her to do something. Then when I do it myself she has a crying fit. Most days I handle it well but today wasn't one of those days, I yelled at her after asking her to get ready three times and deciding to put her coat and shoes on myself.

I feel so alone most days. No one in nursing school is in the same situation as me so I have no one to talk to about this. I feel so overwhelmed sometimes. I have noticed I am withdrawn sometimes with my nursing friends as well.I don't feel like a good mother at all. I feel I don't give my child the attention she needs because of work and school. I just feel lost at times.

I just needed to vent.
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Motherhood is a lifelong journey. Don't let the day to day get you down. You will have bad days here and there, it's tough but don't let your mind trick you into thinking those bad days define your journey of motherhood. Nursing school is tough and doing it with children is even harder (mine were 3 and 16 months when I went back to finished, it was HARD) just remember to celebrate and acknowledge your good days, your accomplishments (and hers), the sweet moments you share and let THOSE be the moments that define your journey. Hang in there!
 
I am so tired of dealing with my ex-husband. My life is good on all fronts except for this. I want my daughter to have a decent relationship with her dad, because it is important...but boy oh boy. I use so much restraint dealing with him and he knows it and tries to use it to his advantage. If it was up to me, I would never see or speak to him again period, but it's not and I am tied to him for the next 10 years of my life.
 
sunnydaze said:
I am so tired of dealing with my ex-husband. My life is good on all fronts except for this. I want my daughter to have a decent relationship with her dad, because it is important...but boy oh boy. I use so much restraint dealing with him and he knows it and tries to use it to his advantage. If it was up to me, I would never see or speak to him again period, but it's not and I am tied to him for the next 10 years of my life.
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I know how you feel. Do you have a set visitation schedule and child support in place? That could help. That is what I was advised to do. And if he didn't abide by it keep a written account of the events.
 
He's in graduate school in another city, so there is no set visitation.

Regarding child support he barely works, so I don't get much there either.

My main issue is actually his personality. He made a lot of dumb decisions while we were married, which 10 years later, he is still paying for. I on the other hand snapped back after we divorced. I am doing well and he resents me for it. He still carries a lot of hurt and anger regarding our marriage busting up, but holds no accountability for what led to it. He's still too emotionally vested in me, my life. I wish he would remarry, find someone new to try and make miserable.
 
sunnydaze said:
He's in graduate school in another city, so there is no set visitation.

Regarding child support he barely works, so I don't get much there either.

My main issue is actually his personality. He made a lot of dumb decisions while we were married, which 10 years later, he is still paying for. I on the other hand snapped back after we divorced. I am doing well and he resents me for it. He still carries a lot of hurt and anger regarding our marriage busting up, but holds no accountability for what led to it. He's still too emotionally vested in me, my life. I wish he would remarry, find someone new to try and make miserable.
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I know the feeling! Just keep doing what you are doing and keep it moving. I have an ex that can't seem to get over us not being together anymore and it has been over ten years so I totally understand that part. He also jumps into these horrible relationships where he is used because he wants to be loved. I love him as a friend and that is what pisses him off. I try advising him to do better but he does the opposite.

And my DD dad takes no responsibility for the abuse he caused me as well as for being a dad to his daughter. I have learned you can't change other people but have to adapt to them and your environment without compromising you and your own situations. It hurts but it is not your problem...at least not directly.
 
MuziqizLyfe said:
Motherhood is a lifelong journey. Don't let the day to day get you down. You will have bad days here and there, it's tough but don't let your mind trick you into thinking those bad days define your journey of motherhood. Nursing school is tough and doing it with children is even harder (mine were 3 and 16 months when I went back to finished, it was HARD) just remember to celebrate and acknowledge your good days, your accomplishments (and hers), the sweet moments you share and let THOSE be the moments that define your journey. Hang in there!
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Thanks so much for this! I will remember this when I am feeling overwhelmed again :)
 
So DD dad called me at midnight last night and left a message to call him back about his child. Why does he think it is ok to call at this time. His daughter is sleep. The only reason for this is probably because his girlfriend just started working at my job. Both of them know I have been working there for almost a year so why would she choose to work there?

I think he set this up on purpose. When I thought I was rid of this narcissistic being in my personal life here he is. I am confused as to the purpose of her working at my damn job. This same young lady started a lie that I had an argument with her. Between nursing school and work when do I have time for something so petty? So why work where I work. Something isn't right....there is some scheme in the background going on.
 
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snugglez41685 said:
So DD dad called me at midnight last night and left a message to call him back about his child. Why does he think it is ok to call at this time. His daughter is sleep. The only reason for this is probably because his girlfriend just started working at my job. Both of them know I have been working there for almost a year so why would she choose to work there?

I think he set this up on purpose. When I thought I was rid of this narcissistic being in my personal life here he is. I am confused as to the purpose of her working at my damn job. This same young lady started a lie that I had an argument with her. Between nursing school and work when do I have time for something so petty? So why work where I work. Something isn't right....there is some scheme in the background going on.
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Omg I would nut up. ..
 
I spent 3 + hours assembling my son's new Spiderman bed last night by myself. This is after spending about 90 minutes or so assembling his new Spiderman desk. I washed his new Spiderman bedding so it would be ready for him by bed time. Seems to me the only man I need in my life is...Spiderman.
 
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