♥~♥ SINGLE MOTHERS SUPPORT THREAD! ♥~♥

shortdub78 said:
you know I am with you on all fronts! I was such a mess last Week trying to find some answers and help concerning my oldest. I'm still looking, but I got a meeting coming up soon. I finally broke down and bought him som DHA/omega 3 vits. I got some calm and focus Vits, but I think I want to see how the DHA helps or not first. I plan on taking some for myself as well. Have you tried any supplements? I know this isn't much, but try taking an evening just to focus on self! Like take a hot shower or bath, and massage some body butter or cream on. Get some cute slippers (they are all on sale right now) and drink some nice tea! Do you have melatonin? I give that two my children and it works well. They fall asleep and wake up on their own. I hate waking those people up! I would rather pick up garbage on the side of the road.
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GREAT advice!
Oh and sleepy time tea is a good relaxing easy thing you can do right after you put the kids to sleep.
 
Can't wait to get my RN. I will never ask another person for a favor again! So tired of having me and my child be an inconvenience. I feel so bad for my daughter. My mother complains about my daughter but no one else does? Daycare, me and my brother have no issues. Her issue is she works overnight no sleep and watches three kids. One a two year old with no boundaries.

I don't know what to do. I saw her get aggressive with my nephew because she was tired and yell at my daughter lil sister and start banging cabinets. I tried to remove the kids from the situation. I needed a babysitter today and asked her aunt to watch her instead. I think I need to find a new babysitter. It is one thing to spank but to get aggressive with a child because you are sleep deprived and frustrated? And they wonder why he is always hitting every kid in the house? He thinks it's ok to be aggressive. But I digress, to them I know none the wiser and think I know everything because I am in nursing school,lol. Rant over :)
 
I am listening. .I am in the middle if mixing as well, so as soon as I can get a minute. ..
I think I am mainly upset because I feel like I'm missing out on my kids. ... when though they are older, they ate used to new being around for their practices and games. And I feel my schedule is causing them to miss our on the things they like because I am not gone to transport them...I work from 330 pm until 2am
 
shyekiera said:
I am listening. .I am in the middle if mixing as well, so as soon as I can get a minute. ..
I think I am mainly upset because I feel like I'm missing out on my kids. ... when though they are older, they ate used to new being around for their practices and games. And I feel my schedule is causing them to miss our on the things they like because I am not gone to transport them...I work from 330 pm until 2am
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I understand how you feel. I feel like I barely get to spend time with DD. Is there anyway you can alternate your schedule for some of their activities or find other ways to spend time with them?
 
snugglez41685 said:
I understand how you feel. I feel like I barely get to spend time with DD. Is there anyway you can alternate your schedule for some of their activities or find other ways to spend time with them?
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Nope ... that's the problem. ...one set schedule. ..i am trying to figure out of I want to find another job now or wait until July when u can get company stock. .. stock is at like 315 now. ..plus. .. my grandfather has stage 4 cancer, grandmother just diagnose with diabetes, along with her other illnesses. .. and get taking care if my kids while I'm at work is too much
 
shyekiera said:
Nope ... that's the problem. ...one set schedule. ..i am trying to figure out of I want to find another job now or wait until July when u can get company stock. .. stock is at like 315 now. ..plus. .. my grandfather has stage 4 cancer, grandmother just diagnose with diabetes, along with her other illnesses. .. and get taking care if my kids while I'm at work is too much
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I feel for all that youre going Through and the tremendous stress You're under.

Psssshhhh... your sitch sounds really like mine. Stuck in traffic 2 hours today and had to call dd after school program to ensure they didn't call cps. Its her dads day but he has the flu which dd also had last week :ohwell: Luckily half the other parents were stuck in the same jam.

Today I thought I gotta get something closer. Its ridiculous, 25mi each way . But I am also waiting for my stock to vest AND my substantial bonus but that wont be til Feb 2016 since I just started this job.... but is it worth it...?

My father has a couple months left and is on hospice, mom and sis disable. So its just me... some days I just cant breathe.

For your situation, all those little moments to treat yourself helps. Whatever you can to get through the day (healthily! ) is what you do. For me its been Starbucks :look: dont judge me... :lol:
 
Hugs to everyone. Even if you find 5 mins a day for self care do it. To those that feel guilty about missing out, your kids notice. I will say make sure you give them a extra few mins here and there. They will understand.
 
Well today my job offered to let us go home. .i took it. .. picked up kids from the bus stop .. they always get excited when I'm there unexpectedly ...and went to check on my big sis who recently had surgery. .. and cane home and crocheted watching hulu. . Feels great.
 
DarkJoy said:
I feel for all that youre going Through and the tremendous stress You're under.

Psssshhhh... your sitch sounds really like mine. Stuck in traffic 2 hours today and had to call dd after school program to ensure they didn't call cps. Its her dads day but he has the flu which dd also had last week :ohwell: Luckily half the other parents were stuck in the same jam.

Today I thought I gotta get something closer. Its ridiculous, 25mi each way . But I am also waiting for my stock to vest AND my substantial bonus but that wont be til Feb 2016 since I just started this job.... but is it worth it...?

My father has a couple months left and is on hospice, mom and sis disable. So its just me... some days I just cant breathe.

For your situation, all those little moments to treat yourself helps. Whatever you can to get through the day (healthily! ) is what you do. For me its been Starbucks :look: dont judge me... :lol:
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That's what I'm trying to figure out. . Is it worth it?
 
shyekiera said:
Nope ... that's the problem. ...one set schedule. ..i am trying to figure out of I want to find another job now or wait until July when u can get company stock. .. stock is at like 315 now. ..plus. .. my grandfather has stage 4 cancer, grandmother just diagnose with diabetes, along with her other illnesses. .. and get taking care if my kids while I'm at work is too much
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I understand I have an aunt on stage 4 and my uncle is in hospice. My dad is doing better though.
 
snugglez41685 said:
Can't wait to get my RN. I will never ask another person for a favor again! So tired of having me and my child be an inconvenience. I feel so bad for my daughter. My mother complains about my daughter but no one else does? Daycare, me and my brother have no issues. Her issue is she works overnight no sleep and watches three kids. One a two year old with no boundaries. I don't know what to do. I saw her get aggressive with my nephew because she was tired and yell at my daughter lil sister and start banging cabinets. I tried to remove the kids from the situation. I needed a babysitter today and asked her aunt to watch her instead. I think I need to find a new babysitter. It is one thing to spank but to get aggressive with a child because you are sleep deprived and frustrated? And they wonder why he is always hitting every kid in the house? He thinks it's ok to be aggressive. But I digress, to them I know none the wiser and think I know everything because I am in nursing school,lol. Rant over :)
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can you get child care assistance? I used to work 3rd shift and kept my babies at home with me. I only got 2-3 hours of sleep. You gotta find another way or a sitter. Try a preschool that has a half day program. She could go in the morning at least. But I'm telling it's no joke working nights. The baby is a toddler and she is moving around and getting into stuff. It's hard trying to watch someone like that on no sleep. Your relationship will be better. See if you and your mom can look into something.
 
My does my child's room always ends up looking like a trap house? I clean it and he cleans it, but as soon as it gets clean, it looks like someone had broken in and tried to rob the place!!! Both of my children are messy marvins! I feel sorry for their future mates! Lol
 
shortdub78 said:
My does my child's room always ends up looking like a trap house? I clean it and he cleans it, but as soon as it gets clean, it looks like someone had broken in and tried to rob the place!!! Both of my children are messy marvins! I feel sorry for their future mates! Lol
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Girl u did not say a trap house. ..lmao... that sounds like my 15th old
 
shortdub78 said:
My does my child's room always ends up looking like a trap house? I clean it and he cleans it, but as soon as it gets clean, it looks like someone had broken in and tried to rob the place!!! Both of my children are messy marvins! I feel sorry for their future mates! Lol
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My 20 yo son has that same issue
 
shyekiera said:
Girl u did not say a trap house. ..lmao... that sounds like my 15th old
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I'm sure I would find an addict under a blanket in there! I tried to clean it today. I was in there for five minutes and just walked out. All of this mess was accumulated in two days!
 
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Having a crappy day... I have been trying to get stains out of the kids' carpet all day, and the little one wants to be boo'ed up! Now he just went back to sleep...smh he will be up all night...I will need two bottled waters and another cup of coffee! Those other two will be home soon...please don't let them give me a hard time this evening! Let them be sweet, with no arguing, back talk, and let them want to be helpful! This is my prayer! Amen!
 
Omg.

Dd has decided on a mine craft bday theme. I could shoot that game on sight im so sick of hearing about it from her and her friends. Its an obsession! :pullhair: arrrrgh!!!
 
shortdub78 said:
can you get child care assistance? I used to work 3rd shift and kept my babies at home with me. I only got 2-3 hours of sleep. You gotta find another way or a sitter. Try a preschool that has a half day program. She could go in the morning at least. But I'm telling it's no joke working nights. The baby is a toddler and she is moving around and getting into stuff. It's hard trying to watch someone like that on no sleep. Your relationship will be better. See if you and your mom can look into something.
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My lil one is in daycare all day. My mother watches her when i work in the evening. She is going to kindergarten in September. I was really worried about the two year old nephew. He seems the handful. But i am trying to sort everything out now that I am on spring break this week. My four year old is trying me this week though. I have to be on top of her to do nearly everything. So I am at my wits end almost. I started doing everything for her again and it really pisses her off but if I have to tell her several times to do something and she doesn't do it I am going to do it myself.
 
snugglez41685 said:
My lil one is in daycare all day. My mother watches her when i work in the evening. She is going to kindergarten in September. I was really worried about the two year old nephew. He seems the handful. But i am trying to sort everything out now that I am on spring break this week. My four year old is trying me this week though. I have to be on top of her to do nearly everything. So I am at my wits end almost. I started doing everything for her again and it really pisses her off but if I have to tell her several times to do something and she doesn't do it I am going to do it myself.
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don't feel bad and don't be mad. I still have to do everything and my kids are 4-5 years older. Lol I mean everything! They have all been trying me this week and I had a come to Jesus talk with them yesterday.. It didn't stick! So your mom sleeps during the day?
 
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shortdub78 said:
don't feel bad and don't be mad. I still have to do everything and my kids are 4-5 years older. Lol I mean everything! They have all been trying me this week and I had a come to Jesus talk with them yesterday.. It didn't stick! So your mom sleeps during the day?
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She more naps than sleeps. I think that is the issue of why she gets overwhelmed and frustrated.
 
I have mine on a rewards system. She gets her base reward (aka vid game time, friend time, allowance) if I dont have to keep repeating myself. She loses her base salary (lol) and activities the more i have to tell her. She gets extras for going above and beyond. This way she knows the minimum expectations: clean room, no back talk, homework and extra reading, helping put her lunches together. She stays pretty well behaved this way.

My neighbor keeps a little white board for her son to remind him of his chores etc and is rewarded as necessary.

Snuggles, 4 is really young to expect much of anything besides at least trying. Verbal rewards for giving it a try helps to encourage more from them...over time. Mine is about to be 9 so she gets it more.
 
DarkJoy said:
I have mine on a rewards system. She gets her base reward (aka vid game time, friend time, allowance) if I dont have to keep repeating myself. She loses her base salary (lol) and activities the more i have to tell her. She gets extras for going above and beyond. This way she knows the minimum expectations: clean room, no back talk, homework and extra reading, helping put her lunches together. She stays pretty well behaved this way.

My neighbor keeps a little white board for her son to remind him of his chores etc and is rewarded as necessary.

Snuggles, 4 is really young to expect much of anything besides at least trying. Verbal rewards for giving it a try helps to encourage more from them...over time. Mine is about to be 9 so she gets it more.
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Thank you so much for the advice. I feel four is young to expect too much as well. She does try alot but gets so easily distracted. I know at that age they get distracted pretty easily so I try to redirect her best I can. The reward system sounds like a good idea.
 
Heck my kids are 10,12,15 and I still have to repeat myself. .allowance? Call me mean but I don't believe in allowances for chores.. Maybe just so they can have pocket change, but no set amount.
 
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