I was thinking this. I also think that some people are excellent judges of character (maybe it's instinctive, learned over time from observation and good judgement, or even intuitive) right away whereas others need much more time (in reference to how long it takes to know someone). I would not fault someone who is spot on with people for knowing someone is right for them, and marrying quickly. I have no problems with quick marriages because there are people you know for years who will make your head spin with surprise when they up and do xyz. You can't account for everything. However, I will emphasize that is only with someone who has a keen insight and good ability to assess people, and has proven it time and again. That's something that only someone can know if they're being truly honest with themselves. So I can't fault her for that because I don't know if this is the case or it's just lust (or whatever).
I also can't fault her for initiating as well because women have done that since the dawn of time. Except it's all in the subtlety: smile, dropping a handkerchief, or whatever depending on the time period. Getting a guy's attention is one thing however thirsty pursuit , though, is the only thing I do not advise. I think it sets you up for an "I'm not worthy" type position in the relationship which can erode things over time. Case in point one of my mom's friends who bent over backwards for this guy and talked about how handsome he was and how lucky she was, compared to how she looked, and so on got the horrible short stick with that man. And they stayed married almost twenty years with him DJing occasionally with nary a real job in site, and her working over time to pay for his $100 dollar socks (and this was in the 90's but I remember her crying to my momma back then), and going to pick up checks that he wrote all over town because he never accounted for money. And this lady made well into 6 figures in a small town (they eventually settled into a small town) but with a guy like that, she was always scraping to get by. Fast forward to years later when he left her up and cold after making love to her that morning with a note that said, "I can't do this anymore". She came to find out that he left her for his highschool sweetheart. After their divorce, he married her, promptly went back to school and went on to support that woman (until her death, that's another story. And now he's floundering and begging my mom's friend back, but one story a day lol). So anyways, this whole idea of kissing the butt of some dude and making him a prize sets him up to sometimes think,"You know what? You're right. I am better than you. You don't deserve me." So I wouldn't advise that.
But everything else you said, I agree with completely.