Makenzie
Well-Known Member
I hate when people say "You can't help who you fall in love with". So what you have romantic feeling for him. If you’re constantly arguing/fighting with him and getting hurt by him, then he is not for you. If the bad outweighs the good, then you need to walk away. Don’t become a Tyrese song --- ‘I know that I messed up over a thousand times. Said you wouldn't forgive me but somehow I changed your mind’. That is draining, that is not love. Just because you have romantic feelings for someone does not mean they are good for you. And if they are not good for you, you will be miserable.
Think about what kind of life you want with that person. Will you be able to achieve it with that person? I’m not talking financials. Think about how you want him to treat you. Are you close to your family? Does he get along with them? Do you get along with his? How everyone interacts now is an indication of how things will be after you are married. Stop thinking he, or the situation, will change. If he, or it, does then that is wonderful. But don’t put your life on hold till that happens.
Stop giving men excuses. Looking a man’s potential is only part of what you need to see. Is he talking about doing things, or is he actually working toward a goal with a plan in motion?
Don’t loan him any money.
As mentioned before, listen to your intuition.
Think about what kind of life you want with that person. Will you be able to achieve it with that person? I’m not talking financials. Think about how you want him to treat you. Are you close to your family? Does he get along with them? Do you get along with his? How everyone interacts now is an indication of how things will be after you are married. Stop thinking he, or the situation, will change. If he, or it, does then that is wonderful. But don’t put your life on hold till that happens.
Stop giving men excuses. Looking a man’s potential is only part of what you need to see. Is he talking about doing things, or is he actually working toward a goal with a plan in motion?
Don’t loan him any money.
As mentioned before, listen to your intuition.