What are some things you wish you knew earlier, or advise you would pass down to younger or less experienced women or family members?
-I've learned you can't fight your battles no matter how much you want to you have to let God do that for you and you have to hand it over to him.
-dont sleep with the guy on the first date, they will treat you like crap afterwards
- say no to credit cards or at least if you have to have 1, just keep it under balance and pay it off each month
-learn to budget and educate yourself regarding finances present and future....also about credit scores
-teach yourself about car mechanics so you're not duped at the mechanic
-learn about saving at least 6-8 month expenses in case of an emergency
- Never claim 7 on your w2 or you will pay for it come tax time. luckily I just paid $1 for claiming 0 at another job
-don't be afraid to stay single for a while, it's for a reason but it was also teach you alot about yourself
2. How have you changed from when you were younger/less expierenced to now? What things have you learned "arent worth it"?
-I've learned that there are somethings that I can speak on and there are somethings I have to shut up about, if not I will open fire
-I've learned that someone who appears to have it together, don't always have it together and beware if they decide to take you under their wing, it will backfire on you and you will be left to pick up the pieces.
-I have changed a lot since being in my late 20's, I've developed a mouth. lol. .... I grew up this quiet girl who kept to herself and I'm still am but I was also a pushover and some still view me as such but they just don't know I don't put up with stuff like I used to, I'll actually speak up. If I quiet after a confrontation, then it's not worth it, mostly because I'm not trying to get out of the will of God but also I just don't have the energy to deal.
- I've also learned to let stupid people, stay stupid people. Some people just going to talk to talk, they just don't have anything better to say and that's fine but just ignore it and pray for them.
3. What things are you still working on?
I'm still working on being assertive and not passive-aggresive. I hate being in confrontations so if someone comes at me, I'm always afraid that I can't control myself, so I'll cry or I'll blow up and straight cuss them out then end up apologizing. So I need to learn to handle things in a godly manner and not like a banshee on fire.
I'm still working on let go and letting God, it's a learning and growing process.
I'm still working on prioritizing, budgeting, and being responsible. I'm a free spirit, so sometimes I just do stuff without thinking and that includes spending and then i'm like ok did I pay this or that. So I have to be more responsible, I mean I am but I mean controlling my free-spirited urges.
-I'm still learning to stay an adult and not act like a kid in trying to