darlingdiva
Well-Known Member
Everything happens for a reason, bad experience will not seem so bad later on down the line; they are all learning experience that we can grow stronger from.
Have a positive outlook on life, positive outlook reaps positive results. Negativity spreads; steer clear of it.
Only take advice from people whose opinion you value. Never take relationship advice from people with a track record of broken relationships.
Not all men are liars/cheaters/will walk out on his family. There are some good ones, keep to your standards and don’t settle.
If you settle don’t be surprised by the results.
Don’t let yourself go, it will be difficult to bring yourself back
Do what makes you happy, not what looks good on paper – work wise
Don’t let people put you in a box, you can be whatever you want to be.
Have your own interests and don’t be afraid to go it alone
It is fine to be single in fact is advisable to be single for a good portion of your life.
Set a good example for your children in all aspects of your life
Want the best for your children, i.e. it is a contradiction to encourage a child to have a good education yet stuff them with junk food, teach them education is important and a healthy body and mind is just as important.
Make time for people who are important to you, forget those who are not, life is short.
Keep your credit good, don’t abuse it and get into unnecessary debt.
When you find the one, give them heart and don’t hold back
Have an A and B plan
SAVE, SAVE and SAVE some more
In the workplace don’t let them find anything to pull you up on, not even a hair out of place.
Work hard, don’t be a slacker
Get an education
Relationship stress will age you badly, don’t let it get there, get out
Be grateful with what you have, it can be taken away in a instant
Keep your plans to yourself, because if it doesn’t work out you will be known as a talker rather than a walker
Don’t act like a wife until he puts a ring on it, this include finances and babies
Don’t wait to find God, find him now!
@ the bolded: Also, don't put yourself in a box. No matter how many times you've fallen, you can ALWAYS get back up. If the current plan isn't working, find a new one. (It literally is that simple.)
ITA with above...I would also add
Take all advice with a grain of salt. Folks mean well, but I've found that often times people give you advice they themselves have never and probably will never follow.
Respect your man's privacy. Don't tell your girlfriends everything about him and your relationship. There are some things that should remain within the privacy of a couple.
Never pursue a man....just doesn't work.
The bolded REALLY cannot be stressed enough. NEVER ignore the warning signals (those nagging feelings in your gut that keep tugging at you no matter how much you try to suppress them). If something seems "off", it usually is.
