Supervixen
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Ladies, share some of your relationship lessons learned. Some things you've learned that you think other ladies should NOT repeat.
My parents tried to tell me, but I thought they were just out of touch. I've seen this play out a lot over the years and most recently it just happened with a family member. Said family does not take advice, so I never offered it up:
When dating, a man will be with a woman that has her **** together in terms of money, career successes when he doesn't. But, once he gets his **** even a little together, he's out.
Shortly, I've never seen a woman > man relationship last after they became woman = man or woman < man.
Ergo, it ain't worth it to date a man banking on his potential. You'll come out having dusted him off, fixing his credit, helping him study for exams, letting him use your car/home, offering a lot of resources to him for some other woman to benefit whenever your investment starts paying off.
Love this!1) Learn to trust yourself. Trust that little feeling that keeps coming up, that uneasy feeling. Sometimes you have to make decisions on that alone because waiting for concrete evidence can sometimes take a long time if the guy is very intelligent/sneaky/cunning.
2) Don't keep having the same conversation over and over. Just stfu and see what happens. Then you take whatever action you need to take based on reality.
3) Focus on having common values and goals over common interests. A guy who likes yoga and wine tastings can still break your heart.
4) Watch for congruency in words and actions. When the two consistently don't line up, something is usually wrong.
5) Build yourself a loving network of smart, caring, dependable women. Get rid of friends that are jealous, suck you dry, don't have your best interest at heart.
6) Create a life that you love and don't put aside your life for any man no matter how handsome or charming.
7) Build faith in yourself and the universe.
When you have to ask "what are we" it usually means you mean nothing to him. Just got this tidbit from my uncle: When a man wants you, he'll move heaven and earth and a few other people out the way so he can have you.
Lesson I learned: Never be afraid to call a man out on his BS. When you accept everything, he'll do anything...
When you have to ask "what are we" it usually means you mean nothing to him. Just got this tidbit from my uncle: When a man wants you, he'll move heaven and earth and a few other people out the way so he can have you.
Lesson I learned: Never be afraid to call a man out on his BS. When you accept everything, he'll do anything...
Marry him if he loves you more than you love him. If anybody has to be the sucka in the relationship, it shall be him.
A man who loves you more than you love him, will constantly go above and beyond to please you and make you happy.