CaraWalker
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i was going to post a similar rule that if he dominates the conversation and you cant get a word it, shut up and let him talk then never call him again
post ONE rule you have for dating
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i was going to post a similar rule that if he dominates the conversation and you cant get a word it, shut up and let him talk then never call him again
ms.mimi
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This is my #1 most important rule.
#2. Is it's just a date. You're future is not riding on it. Keep it light and simple. Don't take it, him or yourself too seriously. Have fun, smile and try to laugh.
So I'll give another one.....
#2. Is it's just a date. You're future is not riding on it. Keep it light and simple. Don't take it, him or yourself too seriously. Have fun, smile and try to laugh.
okange76
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If you are looking for a commitment, do not start out as a FWB hoping he will change his mind. That is too big of a risk to take. Chances of it turning into something more are very slim. It happens but don't waste your time chancing it.
ETA: If it happens then at least have your own mode of transportation to get you back and forth. Don't be calling your friends for rides.
ETA: If it happens then at least have your own mode of transportation to get you back and forth. Don't be calling your friends for rides.
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Arian
Loc'ing Up!
I believe THIS is what I have been doing wrong.
Arian
Loc'ing Up!
ScorpioBeauty09
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Don't date or get involved with a man thinking you can change him. He is who he is.
CaliiSwagg
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Always be myself.
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Addendum: He always pays, unless you're married and the funds are coming out of a joint account. If you're in the mood to pick up a tab, channel that energy into treating a homeless person to a meal instead.
The dating process (and even the early stages of a relationship) is the time where the man auditions for the woman = He does the work in attracting and holding my attention.
I don't believe in worrying about anything to do with me in that time (am I good enough? etc..). Also there's no need to worry about his actions also (will he call me? etc...). If a guy didn't show adequate interest then he failed his audition. Simples. There is no "how do I catch his attention, or reel him back in". I am not doing any work, or worrying in the dating process. Just cute, carefree and vivacious. I refuse.
) is the time where the man auditions for the woman = He does the work in attracting and holding my attention.I don't believe in worrying about anything to do with me in that time (am I good enough? etc..). Also there's no need to worry about his actions also (will he call me? etc...). If a guy didn't show adequate interest then he failed his audition. Simples. There is no "how do I catch his attention, or reel him back in". I am not doing any work, or worrying in the dating process. Just cute, carefree and vivacious. I refuse.
LovinLea
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Somebody said this and it just stuck with me.
She said "I don't care what he tells you, if he has a baby mama, he's still having sex with her. When I don't have a man, I don't care if he has a girlfriend or not, I can still call him over when I want some. He and his girlfriend will never have as close a bond as he does with the mother of his children".
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LovinLea
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My rule: If you can not see a future with this person, leave. The longer you stay, the harder it is to leave. Plus, you increase your odds of getting yourself into a situation with someone you didn't even really choose.
Some people keep kicking it with a guy "just for fun" or "for the experience". I can't.
Some people keep kicking it with a guy "just for fun" or "for the experience". I can't.
southerncitygirl
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Pay attention to both his words and actions and see if they are aligned.... if not make like a ball & bounce!
southerncitygirl
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If he has excuses or deflects questions that you ask him, ditch him as you deserve to know the truth and for him to be transparent with you.
southerncitygirl
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If he is not interested in what you have going on in your life ( hobbies, professional, personal ) and everything is all about him always, PEACE OUT!!!
southerncitygirl
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If he claims to want to want to chill at the crib or claims he doesn't do dates... POOF BE GONE!!! He just wants to smash!
southerncitygirl
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Carry a nonchalant attitude when dating and never seem overly eager, anxious, or desperate.... men love an air of mystery as it heightens the chase. After ya get him continue to him him intrigued, curious, and guessing.
southerncitygirl
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Never arrange your life or priorities to acommodate him & your relationship... otherwise when you part away you will be left to pickup the pieces while he doesn't miss a beat.
southerncitygirl
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Keep yourself up always ( weight, clothing, hair, etc.) never let yourself slip cause you got him. He should also do the same.
naturallygoldie
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Never settle
naturallygoldie
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Never judge the progress of your dates to that of your friends/coworkers/others
What about the school of hard knocks? Or a self-made man?
cheetarah1980
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Always wear a skirt or dress on the first date. Femininity rules.
CaraWalker
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i thought i was the only one who did this.
cheetarah1980
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Nope you are not alone. Even if I think we're going some place casual I'm in a skirt or dress. I just wear low heels or flats and a cardigan or denim jacket to dress it down.
CurlyMoo
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Great advice. What is the reaction you get?
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