post ONE rule you have for dating

[CaraWalker]

i think my biggest problem with dating is i cant make decisions. i cant make decisions on the rules, on the type of guy i want, on the type of relationship i want. i am too open to options, and its probably ironically hindering me. i think i would have better results if i were more focused and able to stick to a narrower guidebook.

so here are the rules:

post ONE rule per ONE reply! you can elaborate on that one rule, but it must only focus on that ONE thing! you can post as many times as you want as long as each reply is only one rule. this will sort of be like a collection of recipes on index cards please play along!

RULE: do not take a man seriously if he steers the conversation to sexual overtones in the first few interactions (or, in online dating, before you have actually met).

 

[CurlyMoo]

No Broke bloaks!!

 

[RoundEyedGirl504]

Never go dutch. Ever.

 

[Evolving78]

Never go dutch. Ever.

Don't knock down compliments!

 

[Evolving78]

Don't knock down compliments!

Give a man up to 30 mins to be late. That's it. He has to reschedule. He needs to know your time is valuable.

 

[Kindheart]

Give a man up to 30 mins to be late. That's it. He has to reschedule. He needs to know your time is valuable.

Don't go out with a man who asks you out last minute or doesn't want to set a date . You re too busy not to plan things in advance .

 

[DarkJoy]

2-date rule. If after the first date, I'm not quite feeling him or unsure of the chemistry he gets a second chance/date. No more than that.

 

[CaraWalker]

no more than two drinks on any night time date.

 

[sweetvi]

don't be afriad to lose him by speaking your mind if something bothers you. he was never invested anyway .

 

[PJaye]

Absolute Rule: Always date multiple men simultaneously. Exclusivity is not a right, but a privilege that must be earned over a period of time. It can also be revoked at any time for any reason.

 

[okange76]

Be happy with yourself first before you fall all over yourself trying to make him happy. His time will come as the relationship progresses.

 

[MzLady78]

This is a problem I've constantly run into when online dating:

If I don't hear from you between the time we make plans and the day we're supposed to meet up, I'm going assume you're not really that interested and I will lose interest. I don't know what makes guys think they still shouldn't be trying to get to know you in the interim, especially if we're talking about 3+ days in between.

 

[ScorpioBeauty09]

If you're not into a guy, trust it and act accordingly. Don't force yourself to like someone.

 

[Simply_elle]

He has to be educated. I'm sorry, if I can slave through school and make it... He can to.

 

[DarkJoy]

No Deadbeat Dads!

If he has kids, he better be actively in their lives and not farting around being selfish and irresponsible.

 

[SmileyNY]

Don't put all of your eggs into one basket too early.

Keep 2-3 guys in your dating rotation at all times. If one eventually wants to take to the next level, he will let you know, and you can decide from there. In the meantime, you don't need to be pining & desperate over one man.

ETA: I see this was posted. But I'll leave this here to reiterate. Too many women fail at this lol.

 

[SmileyNY]

What talk? There's no reason to initiate a "where is this going" talk.

If he hasn't made it clear where things are going by the time that you think he should have, then KIM. Date him less. Move on! Replace him in the rotation and see him once in a blue. If he's interested, he'll get a clue and let his feelings be known. If not, he'll move on like he should.

 

[ladylibra_30]

Do not ask me to come to your house or you to mine. Big no-no!

 

[hothair]

Don't sleep with him.

 

[Evolving78]

What talk? There's no reason to initiate a "where is this going" talk.

If he hasn't made it clear where things are going by the time that you think he should have, then KIM. Date him less. Move on! Replace him in the rotation and see him once in a blue. If he's interested, he'll get a clue and let his feelings be known. If not, he'll move on like he should.

i refuse to ever ask that question again!

be open to try something different and be ladylike about it. for instance, an outdoor activity, a different food, etc...

 

[Evolving78]

Do not ask me to come to your house or you to mine. Big no-no!

no movie renting and couch snuggling on the first date!

 

[nemi95]

Some people may not like this, but I stand firm. No children. I may make an exception if the mother is deceased

 

[MzLady78]

Some people may not like this, but I stand firm. No children. I may make an exception if the mother is deceased

Honestly, I don't blame you. If there was a chance in hell I could find a man in my age group without them, I'd probably adopt this policy as well.

 

[Ms_Delikate]

Honestly, I don't blame you. If there was a chance in hell I could find a man in my age group without them, I'd probably adopt this policy as well.

I always wondered why people stressed this so much.... I KNOW now.... LMAO.

 

[ckisland]

Some people may not like this, but I stand firm. No children. I may make an exception if the mother is deceased

This specifically with men who have children out of wedlock. It tells me that I can't trust you on two fronts. First, you're not sexually responsible. Second, you don't step up to the responsibilities you've created, and try to rectify the mistakes you've made. I have no respect for a man who doesn't think he owes an obligation to the woman who chose to carry his child for 9 months, and risk her life and body to push his child out of her womb.
Yeah, I'm old school and don't play that crap.

 

[CaraWalker]

i dont do children either, period. i figure i have another couple years before i have to bend on that.

 

[aviddiva77]

Some people may not like this, but I stand firm. No children. I may make an exception if the mother is deceased

Same. I just can't deal with the potential drama.

 

[DarkJoy]

Some people may not like this, but I stand firm. No children. I may make an exception if the mother is deceased

Why wouldn't a woman Like this? Makes my dating pool larger!

Plus some of us already have kids, so there ya go.

 

[kaykari]

Trust your gut.

 

[DarkJoy]

If all he does is talk about himself and doesn't bother asking you about yourself, run! He's not that interested or he's extremely insensitive.