We ran into a family member of the mother in the grocery store a few months ago. I didn't know her but my husband did and he chatted with her and gave her our business cards and then introduced us. We always give our business cards out to a lot of people we come in contact with so we thought nothing of it. But that was months ago. We got a phone call from the mother last Wednesday.
Thanks so much for all of your kind words of encouragement and advice. I really needed it. I love you guys!
My husband and I had a really long talk today and he honestly thinks the young man is not his son. He says the dates don't add up. I told him that it has been over 20 years and he may not remember correctly. He wont even begin to accept the possibility until after the results are in. He's very stressed and I think I'm going to stop talking about it to him until we find out. I've been talking to his sister (she's the only family member that knows of all this) and we are actually planning a welcome party for him if he turns out to be his.
I will not mention that to my husband right now though.
I have no idea.
Okay then - I'd just tell em straight.
This is your older half-brother, born before me & your dad met, and for some reason, his mother didn't tell your father about him until just now...... and then answer any questions they might have about it, and use it as an opportunity to drill into their heads again to either wait til marriage or to use PROTECTION.
They are old enough to be confident in their place in the family, but you might have to reassure them that nothing much will change.
I had to go weigh myself before I answered your post. Other than not being able to sleep very well or eat much (I'm down 11 pounds since finding out) and wondering what her motives are and keeping my hubby from going over the edge ......I guess I'm OK. And yes she called out of the blue. I'm assuming from the contact info we gave her cousin in the store some months back.
Yes. He told us he thought someone else was his dad until he was 16. The man he's named after. He said he's been looking for his real dad since then.
Yep, That IS how I feel. I am very upset but I'm also very numb about the whole thing. The crying and yelling was so bad the first few days I thought I was having a meltdown or something. It almost scares me to think how I'm going to feel when we know for sure. I hope this isn't the calm before the storm...My hubby didn't conceive this young man in an affair and the young man is innocent is all I keep telling myself. But the mother ........:hardslap:
Aww no.
We found out last Wednesday and went to take the DNA test last Friday.
You must not watch Maury....some women and Im using that term loosely do some conniving things. Thank God for DNA test! I wonder how many men were raising children that were not theirs or in jail over child support before DNA test were invented.
