Men-free Zone ~ The Non-romantic Relationship Thread

Or course you don’t. Neither do I. No parts of it make any sense. So idk how people fell for it. I think all they heard was give money and get $1200 back. And the kicker is only one person will actually “win” :spinning: money. Guess who gets the rest?

All the people down here are doing Instagram "bingo" games and getting scammed out of their stimulus money smh. People were doing $1k games!
 
Hello ladies,
It sounds like everyone is hanging in there. (((Hugs))) to the lady who had been feeling anxious. I’m glad you feel better now. How terrible people losing their stimulus checks — just a shame. I’m doing ok. Mostly just bored and pushing through. I had just gotten a routine together in my new city and home that I enjoyed. My young adult daughter was just hitting her stride. Everything being on hold is tough. I keep reminding myself that this too shall pass and do my best to keep moving forward.

I miss going to the movies soooo much and meeting friends for lunch.
 
Hello ladies,
It sounds like everyone is hanging in there. (((Hugs))) to the lady who had been feeling anxious. I’m glad you feel better now. How terrible people losing their stimulus checks — just a shame. I’m doing ok. Mostly just bored and pushing through. I had just gotten a routine together in my new city and home that I enjoyed. My young adult daughter was just hitting her stride. Everything being on hold is tough. I keep reminding myself that this too shall pass and do my best to keep moving forward.

I miss going to the movies soooo much and meeting friends for lunch.

I really miss going to the movies. I'm a big blockbuster, opening weekend movie goer and all the big releases getting pushed back and theaters closing was a bummer. Necessary but still a bummer.
 
I haven’t been to the movies in almost 3 years. I haven’t been to lunch in over a year. It’s interesting seeing how people are feeling and dealing with this lockdown.

Yes! It is interesting. I went to the movies about once a week. And out to lunch with a friend probably once a month. And out to eat with my daughter probably a couple times a week.
 
So I lost my cool tonight. Dude upstairs yelling, screaming and singing to drown out his noisy upstairs neighbors meanwhile he's my noisy upstairs neighbor. So I texted him and I was a little less than gracious telling him he needs to cut it out. It was actually much more polite than I wanted to be but less than my usual chipper self and my frustration was evident.

He basically told me that it's 11:30pm on a Saturday night and I need to relax as if he can make as much noise as he wants because it's the weekend. I'm not trying to police people in their own apartments but when you are singing the chorus of a song over and over again at the top of your lungs that is a problem. I've had it up to here with this guy. Already planning on getting out of here but what do I do until then?
 
@LdyKamz im sorry you’re going through that. I get that we are stationary right now, but it’s not an excuse to act any which way but civilized. It’s hard making the decision to call 311 on these people.

I called public safety on my downstairs neighbor once. After they addressed her, it stopped but she came up knocking on my door. I didn’t answer; I don’t have to explain myself. Never had an issue like that since then (they still skate that fault line) but you always run the risk of retaliation because people can’t admit their rude and wrong.
 
And see there are so many additional factors that have me boiling because I just want to be in my home and mind my business. He talks like he's the only one that deserves quiet when he wants it. Gonna say "I'm going crazy in my own home and it's not right" but with no consideration for anyone else. He wakes up in the middle of the night to scream at people on the street quietly talking because it disturbs him. He complains loudly while he's taking care of the garbage and recycling making speculations about how people are taking care of their families but probably not paying rent. He has company every single night and at one point I think he had 2 of his friends living there because there was like a 3 person brawl with yelling cursing smashing and banging like clockwork every night. He's a nightmare.

But he's the super's son and the first time I complained not only did he feel like he had it like that to come knocking on my door (because he thinks being the super's son gives him privileges) but his father texted me and told me to talk to him first about his son instead of the landlord because he didn't want any trouble. And I do?! I shouldn't be put in the middle of all of this for some irresponsible manchild. Before this dude moved here his father used to be in my apartment fixing things praising me and saying how proud my parents must be of me while trashing his "grown son who has never lived on his own and eats all his food." And now they've stuck this guy in an apartment building of other adults because they don't want to deal with him. I'm sick over this and tired of feeling tense and uncomfortable where I rest my head.

Anyway, thanks for letting me vent ladies. If he comes down here I'm gonna do like you @Saludable84 and not answer. Probably won't hear him anyway since I have to wear headphones in my own place.
 
I know someone that's thinking about driving out of state to visit their mom. Like this isn't a time for 2 week vacation. I had to celebrate two birthdays at distance last week because of covid-19 and people think it's cool to travel because they aren't doing anything at home. That's not how that is supposed to work.
 
@oneastrocurlie
I am so tired of talking to grown people about this. If you aren't going to self isolate permanently at the next location then stay home.
I am currently not engaging with a family member because he is an essential worker and is going after work to hang out at his friend's house. *angry*. These folks are black and struggling, no one is running to help or protect them if the get sick.
 
@oneastrocurlie
I am so tired of talking to grown people about this. If you aren't going to self isolate permanently at the next location then stay home.
I am currently not engaging with a family member because he is an essential worker and is going after work to hang out at his friend's house. *angry*. These folks are black and struggling, no one is running to help or protect them if the get sick.

I didn't even try to debate it. Like you and your mom are both being knuckleheads? Ok cool.

See you in a month...or longer.

My job just sent out a email that one of the warehouse workers tested positive too.
 
I have an associate whose husband was recently diagnosed with coronavirus and in ICU. After asking for prayers she admitted that she and her husband had not been taking social distancing serious because they like to hang out and have a good time. I was sympathetic to their situation, but when she admitted the latter I was filled with all kinds of emotions, but mainly frustrated. The most frustrating part is these people are comfortably in their 40s, so well past the age of making dumb choices just because. And they have kids. Now one of the kids has been diagnosed too. I just don't get it.
 
My youngest brother, the last time I saw him in person was when he was a few weeks old. We reconnected on FB a few years ago. He is very successful and is often in his local news. He looks exactly like our father. He is everything my father wanted to be, but never was.

His mother hated my guts and used to beat me with electric wires at the drop of a hat. By that time I was hardy and used to beatings from the original stepmother. So her beatings weren’t as bad. At least she did not starve me (glass half full). But this woman hated my guts for some reason. That really hurt. I tried hard to convince her to love me, with my naive prepubescent self:drunk: She was having none of it. She tried to convince my father to send us to Jamaica to live with the birth mother. A woman I did not know up to that point. She wanted them to be a family unit with her and their baby (my brother) without his other kids. He refused and they eventually broke up.

When she had my brother I was 12 and she was 24. My father was 40. Yesterday I saw my brother post a picture of his mom holding him as a baby. I was struck at how young she was. I started to cry. I have no idea why. I was not crying for myself but for her. She looked so beautiful, young and vulnerable. For the first time ever I felt no ill feelings towards her. Just pity. I wondered what her story was. Why did she take up with a 40 year old hotep :look: with 3 kids at 23 years old? She came from a good family and appeared to be in a good place when she met my father. Just finished college and had a good job.

If I ever see her again we would never be friends but I no longer feel revulsion at the thought of meeting her. I am thankful that she was such a great mom to my brother. My brother is not only successful but he is a really good person with principles and I am sure it has a lot to do with how she brought him up. On her own. I am thankful that she was in my life. She too, served a purpose as learning experience on what kind of person I wanted and did not want to be...

I have 2 nieces who are 23 and 24. I cannot imagine them being stepmothers to a 40 year old man’s kids. Me and my sisters (and their fathers) would beat his behind out of town:look:. But none of them would even go there.
 
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After two years and some change, my brother is moving out. We never agreed to a time frame of how he'd stay with me so it just kinda continued. He used his stimulus money to do it. Wise move. It's bittersweet. I'm looking forward to being solo dolo in my place again but we're pretty close so it'll be a little odd for him not to be there... for like two days lol. I'm sure he's ready to have his own space again too.
 
People’s behaviours are unpredictable during this time. I know someone who went to ny (she lives elsewhere) stayed with a vulnerable relative of hers while she worked as a nurse and now that vulnerable relative is dead from the COVID-19.

I have an associate whose husband was recently diagnosed with coronavirus and in ICU. After asking for prayers she admitted that she and her husband had not been taking social distancing serious because they like to hang out and have a good time. I was sympathetic to their situation, but when she admitted the latter I was filled with all kinds of emotions, but mainly frustrated. The most frustrating part is these people are comfortably in their 40s, so well past the age of making dumb choices just because. And they have kids. Now one of the kids has been diagnosed too. I just don't get it.
 
I know too many people who are not social distancing. :nono: I know Zoom isn't the same but come on. And it's people who can least afford to get sick too.

My HS BFF is pregnant and her younger sister reached out, inviting me to her surprise baby shower this Sunday. There's only 10 people coming, she said. I said I'd think about it and she understands this is a crazy time but I'm not going. I'll order her a gift and mail it but I don't understand why she'd put her sister's health at risk like this, and hers and their mom's. It won't be the same but have a Zoom party like the rest of us.

SO lives in shared housing but when he was ordered to work from home he went to his parent's house. Well the woman who owns the house had a birthday party for her daughter who is our age, early 30s and a few days later took a road trip to visit people in another part of the state. For once me and SO's mom were on the same page like "[SO's name] don't you even think of taking yo a** to that party." o_O


On a different topic, my mom and youngest sister are 100% alike and right now they are getting on my nerves. Normally I spend part of the week with SO but with the pandemic that hasn't happened in almost 2 months. If they're not careful they're going to alienate the rest of the family including me. My youngest sister had a rough breakup at the beginning of the year. It was mutual but the guy though really nice, has his issues. Even so, I think he got a little fed up with her immaturity and selfishness. She's 21 so it's expected but being stuck at the house with her is a pain.
 
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I know too many people not socially distancing. :nono: I know Zoom isn't the same but come on. And it's people who can least afford to get sick too.

My HS BFF is pregnant and her younger sister reached out, inviting me to her surprise baby shower this Sunday. There's only 10 people coming, she said. I said I'd think about it and she understands this is a crazy time but I'm not going. I'll order her a gift and mail it but I don't understand why she'd put her sister's health at risk like this, and hers and their mom's. It won't be the same but have a Zoom party like the rest of us.

SO lives in shared housing but when he was ordered to work from home he went to his parent's house. Well the woman who owns the house had a birthday party for her daughter who is our age, early 30s and a few days later took a road trip to visit people in another part of the state. For once me and SO's mom were on the same page like "[SO's name] don't you even think of taking yo a** to that party." o_O


On a different topic, my mom and youngest sister are 100% alike and right now they are getting on my nerves. Normally I spend part of the week with SO but with the pandemic that hasn't happened in almost 2 months. If they're not careful they're going to alienate the rest of the family including me. My youngest sister had a rough breakup at the beginning of the year. It was mutual but the guy though really nice, has his issues. Even so, I think he got a little fed up with her immaturity and selfishness. She's 21 so it's expected but being stuck at the house with her is a pain.

Same. We have family members who had work done on the inside of their home, plus the cleaning lady still comes. I can't even be frustrated anymore.
 
Same. We have family members who had work done on the inside of their home, plus the cleaning lady still comes. I can't even be frustrated anymore.
We had work done in our home. We discovered flooding under our house and had to have an abatement company come and take our kitchen apart in prep for a remodel, and one of our toilets wasn't working. But these were necessities and we and the workers took precautions, wore masks, workers wore PPE and stood 6 feet apart when possible. But birthday parties and baby showers are not necessities and people aren't wearing masks. :nono:
 
So something strange happened on a video call today. I was on WhatsApp with my family and from my point of view I could see everyone clearly including myself from my chest up. The phone was steady in a holder so I wouldn't have to hold it with my hand.

At some point during the call my mother made a remark that she's happy to see everyone except me since she can't see my face. Everyone basically agrees and it turns out all everyone else could see the whole time was my neck and chest as if the camera was angled down at my neck. But it wasn't!

As far as I could see I was clearly visible. I rotated my screen a few times and then it corrected itself. But I never re-angled the phone. It stayed in the same position so it wasn't as if I had the phone situated in a weird way. But I'm wondering now, am I just the old person that doesn't know how to use screens anymore? Lol I swear I could see myself and even kept looking at my box to make sure I was still cute lol but no one else could even see me.
 
Say you want to move to another city where your family is. Your company has an office down there so you go, meet some folk, and see if there are any opportunities. They say potentially but need to check a few things and will follow up.

One month goes by. You follow up. Nothing. Another month. You follow up. They say oh yeah, let's talk tomorrow or next week. That time comes and goes.

You go about your life. It's 5 months later now and you just signed a 18 month lease for a downtown apartment you've always wanted and just spend money furnishing. You still plan to move to the city where family is after the lease is up. No rush. Use the time to enjoy living downtown, close to work and save up.

One month into the lease, guess who finally follows up. They offer a job. But no moving expenses. They might be able to do a bonus or a cost of living adjustment so not a real raise. It's pretty much a lateral move. They want to start you as soon as possible. We're talking about a multi billion dollar company here. Why didn't they follow up 5 months ago? They were busy. o_O You aren't an outsider. These your people. Lol.

I know someone doesn't see why they'd say no to the offer. And I'm like none of this raises at least a cautionary flag? A little tiny one? Not even from a monetary aspect? There's already been some issues of upper management with bad communication at their current office. Different people but eerily the same kind of behavior. I would think one would wonder if this was trend.
 
My aunt asked me if I got my stimulus check and I told her naw. She told me that when I do to make sure I send her something. I was like :rose:
I talked to Aintee on Sunday and her stimulus check got there last week. Whycome she told me that she spent $400 on groceries? I told her that I ain't nevah evah spent $400 on groceries at one time and I shop for multiple people. She said she hadn't either but everything looked so good. :lachen:

Then she had the nerve to tell me she was embarrassed to say how much she spent playin numbers, then went on to say she had $550 left outta her check.

I was lowkey insulted but pretended I was like
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