KimPossibli
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I think its a mix up. direct me to the other thread though. I'm interested
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I think its a mix up. direct me to the other thread though. I'm interested
BrownBetty
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Go to the group, click the cover photo, click the members, should show admins
ScorpioBeauty09
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I don't know if I want to go to my friend's baby shower. She hasn't been a good friend for a while (I posted about it upthread) and I'm thinking it's time to fall back. We cleared the air late last year but I asked her to do a small but meaningful favor for me, and she didn't come through, even though she agreed to do it. 
Leeda.the.Paladin
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DH told me that one of the stressors in his life was talking to his mom. I can totally see that.
I call her often because she's been really lonely since her husband died, but Lawd...
I've gotten used to hearing the same stories 20 times but I hate how when I'm telling her about her grandkids, that she has to change the conversation to either (1) complain about how someone has wronged her or (2) how hard her daughter has it (long story).
It's just annoying to call to tell her about how DD won superior in her piano competition, only for her to redirect the conversation to how hard it is for my SIL to lose weight or something.
The manager at Walmart was the latest person to wrong her
I call her often because she's been really lonely since her husband died, but Lawd...
I've gotten used to hearing the same stories 20 times but I hate how when I'm telling her about her grandkids, that she has to change the conversation to either (1) complain about how someone has wronged her or (2) how hard her daughter has it (long story).
It's just annoying to call to tell her about how DD won superior in her piano competition, only for her to redirect the conversation to how hard it is for my SIL to lose weight or something.
The manager at Walmart was the latest person to wrong her
Ayesha81
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I have a friend who Ive been trying to reach out to for 8 years but no response so suddenly she texts me out the blue talking about she found my # (umm...ok) so we've been catching up for about 11 days then on the 12th day she texted me she has an emergency and if she could borrow money to pay her rent 
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She ghosted me after her mom died in 2012 and got a huge inheritance but now the $ is no more...she explained to me she invested the $ in her husband's car hauling business but business has significantly declined also due to high tax costs.
.She ghosted me after her mom died in 2012 and got a huge inheritance but now the $ is no more...she explained to me she invested the $ in her husband's car hauling business but business has significantly declined also due to high tax costs.
KimPossibli
Supergirl
Note forwards
In order for persons to survive stressful urgent situations there needs to be a superior communication bond.
Where that doesn't exist. the whole thing is going to be shambolic.
Hard lessons learnt.
Leeda.the.Paladin
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The nerve!!I have a friend who Ive been trying to reach out to for 8 years but no response so suddenly she texts me out the blue talking about she found my # (umm...ok) so we've been catching up for about 11 days then on the 12th day she texted me she has an emergency and if she could borrow money to pay her rent
She ghosted me after her mom died in 2012 and got a huge inheritance but now the $ is no more...she explained to me she invested the $ in her husband's car hauling business but business has significantly declined also due to high tax costs.
Sosoothing
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I have a friend who Ive been trying to reach out to for 8 years but no response so suddenly she texts me out the blue talking about she found my # (umm...ok) so we've been catching up for about 11 days then on the 12th day she texted me she has an emergency and if she could borrow money to pay her rent
She ghosted me after her mom died in 2012 and got a huge inheritance but now the $ is no more...she explained to me she invested the $ in her husband's car hauling business but business has significantly declined also due to high tax costs.
Let's see if she sticks around after you tell her you don't have it.
She has no shame. Smh!
Crackers Phinn
Either A Blessing Or A Lesson.
Don't you loan/give her NAN coin!I have a friend who Ive been trying to reach out to for 8 years but no response so suddenly she texts me out the blue talking about she found my # (umm...ok) so we've been catching up for about 11 days then on the 12th day she texted me she has an emergency and if she could borrow money to pay her rent
She ghosted me after her mom died in 2012 and got a huge inheritance but now the $ is no more...she explained to me she invested the $ in her husband's car hauling business but business has significantly declined also due to high tax costs.
She got a husband to figure out how the rents go get paid.
RUBY
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I recently decided that I was gonna ask my boss for a pay rise. I have a friend who works in the same sector so I asked her if she was free so that I could go over my strategy with her. This was sunday afternoon. She said she was out shopping and she would call me later. So 9pm rolls round no call but she texts me if I'm free as she finished shopping, cooking and cleaning up, I wasn't and told her not to worry. She said ok, that I should google how to ask your boss for a pay rise.
Umm really though? The extent of her help is to tell me to google it! Nah I feel some type of way about that. I wouldn't do her like that.
Umm really though? The extent of her help is to tell me to google it! Nah I feel some type of way about that. I wouldn't do her like that.
hopeful
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Good luck getting that raise! You got this!
RUBY
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Thank you.
itsallaboutattitude
Cancer Support in Health
@RUBY
What are your 1-3 accomplishments in the past 6-12 months?
Have you saved the company money, from being sued?
Have you made the company money?
Do you provide support to the larger team, like a team lead, subject matter expert?
Once you write up your accomplishments, use this to ask for the raise.
ETA: I hope this helps.
What are your 1-3 accomplishments in the past 6-12 months?
Have you saved the company money, from being sued?
Have you made the company money?
Do you provide support to the larger team, like a team lead, subject matter expert?
Once you write up your accomplishments, use this to ask for the raise.
ETA: I hope this helps.
BrownBetty
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A solo vacation is what was needed to reset. It has been over a yr since I was away alone. I had a couple of folks who where suppose to tag along but it all fell through. It worked out so well in the end.
RUBY
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Thank you.
I'm going to be answering all these questions and putting them in writing as justification for a raise. I've already booked a meeting with my boss for next week so I have time to prepare.
Browndilocks
Browndisha Brownie Sundae
Lately I've been feeling inclined to withdraw from friends. I have personal goals that I want to accomplish and give more thought and attention to. For lack of a better way of saying it, I think my friends would try to hold me back and/or talk me out of some things. I want to get better at not sharing plans in my day to day life.
itsallaboutattitude
Cancer Support in Health
Please let us know how it goes. Good luck!
Saludable84
Better Late Than Ugly
Where did you go?
BrownBetty
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KimPossibli
Supergirl
whew ... so much happenned in this trip.
two of my friends may not be friends with each other anymore
I had already modified my relationship with them prior to this but it seems they ran into some hard truths on this trip and its fallen apart between them
oh well... I'm still parsing my thoughts... definitely some good times but also definitely not doing this mess again
shespoison
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I just got a knee replacement on Wednesday. It’s so interesting to see who reached out to check up on me and who didn’t.
My male friends always go out of their way to make sure I’m good. The women...not so much.
My male friends always go out of their way to make sure I’m good. The women...not so much.
RoundEyedGirl504
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Praying for a full and speedy recovery!
oneastrocurlie
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BrownBetty
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I've found that events like this show you the full extent of your relationships. I had something similar happen and acted accordingly.
I hope you have a speedy recovery!
shespoison
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Thank you for the well wishes!
The last knee surgery I had was 16 years ago and although this time around is rough, I have so much more support than I did when I was a teen.
The last knee surgery I had was 16 years ago and although this time around is rough, I have so much more support than I did when I was a teen.
ckisland
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That's good that you have support! I hope you have a smooth recovery!
BrownBetty
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Have you ever lost contact or cut off a friend(s) and miss them? Did you reach out? There are 2 women who's friendship I found myself missing.
1) lady A - We were friends for years since college but as we matured I realized I couldn't accept her flightiness. I pulled back and distanced myself after her wedding. We remain cordial and friends on SM.
2) lady B - We had big fun and could talk about anything, so I thought. We would hang out, I loved her family, we traveled together but then she did me dirty. I think I spoke about it here. Looking back the dirtiness spoke to the large issue of her not being able to be honest with me.
It was more important to save face than to be open and vulnerable. Oh and she never apologized.
I feel like Lady A and I could reconnect. Hang out occasionally. Even if she is still flighty I could effort box the rlp. We are both older. I have a friend right now who is admittedly flighty and is aware how I dictate our rlp due to it.
Lady B is a lost cause because I would never trust her. She just crossed my mind lately.
1) lady A - We were friends for years since college but as we matured I realized I couldn't accept her flightiness. I pulled back and distanced myself after her wedding. We remain cordial and friends on SM.
2) lady B - We had big fun and could talk about anything, so I thought. We would hang out, I loved her family, we traveled together but then she did me dirty. I think I spoke about it here. Looking back the dirtiness spoke to the large issue of her not being able to be honest with me.
It was more important to save face than to be open and vulnerable. Oh and she never apologized.
I feel like Lady A and I could reconnect. Hang out occasionally. Even if she is still flighty I could effort box the rlp. We are both older. I have a friend right now who is admittedly flighty and is aware how I dictate our rlp due to it.
Lady B is a lost cause because I would never trust her. She just crossed my mind lately.
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I have a dear friend from college that I lost contact with several years ago. Do I miss her? Not anymore. I considered her to be my best friend. Long story short I had confided in her some deeply personal things (as most best friends do) and found out years later that she had shared my personal business with mutual friends, acquaintances, some of her family and probably other people that I don't know. She is a very sweet person, but could not keep her mouth shut when it came to my business. I tried to keep the "friendship" going without confiding in her about anything, but eventually I stopped reaching out to her and she stopped reaching out to me. I think about her from time to time, but I have no interest in rekindling our "friendship". I could never trust her again.
Browndilocks
Browndisha Brownie Sundae
Why do people always feel compelled to ask my age? I'll work with somebody for all of two minutes and that's the first thing they ask. The second is whether I have kids. No idea whats up with that but it's annoying. I was rude to the last person who did this but I don't care. I used to just smile and ask why but I realized that opened up a whole new conversation. So now I smile and say "what part of this [project] are you working on".
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