Men-free Zone ~ The Non-romantic Relationship Thread

Damaris.Elle said:
-I'm kind of salty that a friend of mine text messaged me directly to announce her engagement before announcing it on Facebook because she said she felt like we were close enough for me to be one of the people she tells first, but yet she did not invite me to her engagement party. And for the past couple of weeks she's been posting on Facebook repeatedly about how she's sending out engagement party invitations over Facebook messenger and text message and "All her closest friends and family are coming", yada yada. I kind of feel like she wants me to be salty over it, which is why I have not said anything to her. I've just been quiet other than a Facebook like here and there. We haven't spoken for a few weeks. I don't know, maybe I'm just being overly sensitive.

ETA: She has also posted several statuses about wanting to surround herself with engaged or married women (I'm neither). Which is understandable considering that she's newly engaged, but I think that plus the fact that I haven't been invited to the party is what's making me feel the way I do. It's like I was 'good enough' to hang out with when you and your man were still just in a relationship, but now that you're engaged things are different?
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I don't like the sound of her :look:

Even taking you out of the equation for the moment - posting repeated status's that she's sending EXCLUSIVE invites via another medium to only special people like this is Willy Wonkas factory, or something is so attention seeking. Sounds like she's trying to let a few people know that they didn't make the cut.

She sounds passive aggressive and game playing and I don't blame you for falling back.
 
BonBon said:
I don't like the sound of her :look:

Even taking you out of the equation for the moment - posting repeated status's that she's sending EXCLUSIVE invites via another medium to only special people like this is Willy Wonkas factory, or something is so attention seeking. Sounds like she's trying to let a few people know that they didn't make the cut.

She sounds passive aggressive and game playing and I don't blame you for falling back.
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That's what turned me off about it. Even if I were invited, I think I would still be turned off by it.

Today I went to get a psychic reading for the first time and it was amazing! I've been wanting to get a reading for years. The psychic I went to today was SO accurate when it came to things that have happened in my life so far (family, etc.) and my thoughts/feelings regarding it. Her reading confirmed a few things that I had been thinking lately. She said I was very very intuitive. She focused mostly on my love life and career and predicted a lot of changes starting in late April of next year...we'll see if her predictions come true. I definitely want to go again sometime, but not too soon. I don't want to become 'dependent' on readings and want to continue using my own intuition. Maybe I'll go again sometime next year, if I see that the predictions she made this time come true. If they don't come true, I'm not going back lol.

-I recently got back into contact with a few friends I went to undergrad with. It's been great talking to them again. We've been texting back and forth for the past few days. They live a couple of hours away...I'm going to plan a weekend trip out to see them soon.
 
Damaris.Elle said:
That's what turned me off about it. Even if I were invited, I think I would still be turned off by it.

Today I went to get a psychic reading for the first time and it was amazing! I've been wanting to get a reading for years. The psychic I went to today was SO accurate when it came to things that have happened in my life so far (family, etc.) and my thoughts/feelings regarding it. Her reading confirmed a few things that I had been thinking lately. She said I was very very intuitive. She focused mostly on my love life and career and predicted a lot of changes starting in late April of next year...we'll see if her predictions come true. I definitely want to go again sometime, but not too soon. I don't want to become 'dependent' on readings and want to continue using my own intuition. Maybe I'll go again sometime next year, if I see that the predictions she made this time come true. If they don't come true, I'm not going back lol.

-I recently got back into contact with a few friends I went to undergrad with. It's been great talking to them again. We've been texting back and forth for the past few days. They live a couple of hours away...I'm going to plan a weekend trip out to see them soon.
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Did you havd to prompt her at all? Were the things she said she initiated?
 
RUBY said:
Did you havd to prompt her at all? Were the things she said she initiated?
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No, I didn't. I stayed silent for pretty much the whole reading because even though I've wanted to go to a psychic for a while, I was/am still a little skeptical. So, I made sure to stay silent because I didn't want her to get any cues from me. She talked almost non-stop for 25 minutes and gave me the last 5 minutes or so for questions and that's when I asked a couple of follow-up questions. Her eyes were closed for almost the entire time too, so she wasn't observing non-verbal cues or my facial expressions either.
 
Damaris.Elle said:
No, I didn't. I stayed silent for pretty much the whole reading because even though I've wanted to go to a psychic for a while, I was/am still a little skeptical. So, I made sure to stay silent because I didn't want her to get any cues from me. She talked almost non-stop for 25 minutes and gave me the last 5 minutes or so for questions and that's when I asked a couple of follow-up questions. Her eyes were closed for almost the entire time too, so she wasn't observing non-verbal cues or my facial expressions either.
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So what is her 'gift'? Does she just meet you and then close her eyes and tell you what vibes she got? Did she touch you? Ask any questions? Was she hearing voices?
 
RUBY said:
So what is her 'gift'? Does she just meet you and then close her eyes and tell you what vibes she got? Did she touch you? Ask any questions? Was she hearing voices?
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She met with me, shuffled a deck of playing cards and had me divide them into three stacks she flipped a few of the cards over and gave me a quick explanation of what each card meant and then closed her eyes and started telling me her impressions. At the end when I asked questions she shuffled the deck of cards and pulled a card and would use what was on the card to help answer my question. For example, earlier in the reading she mentioned a few things about a particular person but did not specify if the person she was talking about was male or female. So at the end when I asked her if the person she mentioned earlier was a male or female she shuffled the cards, flipped one and told me the person is a male.
 
@Damaris.Elle I really like your post because I love my medium! You shouldn't go more than once a quarter but also we all have free will so they could see you on a path and 1 simple decision you make puts you on a different path. You may still end up where you were going but could be later than expected so just keep that in mind.
 
Damaris.Elle said:
She met with me, shuffled a deck of playing cards and had me divide them into three stacks she flipped a few of the cards over and gave me a quick explanation of what each card meant and then closed her eyes and started telling me her impressions. At the end when I asked questions she shuffled the deck of cards and pulled a card and would use what was on the card to help answer my question. For example, earlier in the reading she mentioned a few things about a particular person but did not specify if the person she was talking about was male or female. So at the end when I asked her if the person she mentioned earlier was a male or female she shuffled the cards, flipped one and told me the person is a male.
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Thanks for this.
 
LdyKamz said:
@Damaris.Elle I really like your post because I love my medium! You shouldn't go more than once a quarter but also we all have free will so they could see you on a path and 1 simple decision you make puts you on a different path. You may still end up where you were going but could be later than expected so just keep that in mind.
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Yeah, that's true. I mean I do really like her predictions and hope they all happen lol, but we'll see. A couple of co-workers referred me to this psychic and have been going to her for a while and they said all of her predictions have been accurate for them. Has your medium been pretty accurate?
 
People really try to stunt your growth and progress and have no shame about it whatsoever. I have been keeping to myself that I am trying to start my own business (and a few other side businesses). With the job I have now I will be able to sock away quite a bit of cash for start up costs. But for some reason people come around with their hand out. I recently loaned someone some money and kinda felt like I wasn't going to get it back so I wasn't really caring too much about losing the money. This person insisted that they would pay me back and called me yesterday to offer me less than half of what I loaned them. I just said fine whatever since I didn't expect to get anything but my thing is what's the point? And then to make a snide remark when I accept your measly little amount talking about oh so you got it like that to just say ok and not need the whole thing back? It's like the gall! I'm not missing that money really but I did have it earmarked as additional monies for my emergency fund. I guess I'm just venting and trying to make sure that I continue to put myself first before anyone else.
 
Heck no, that would be so awkward. FedEx left his package with me and he knocked on my door. The last time we spoke I was big mad at him for blocking my parking space. So mad that I didn't realize or GAF who he was lol. It would be different if I didn't live here.
 
People are so used to me being around and available for them whenever they need me. The same people who are nowhere to be found when I need someone. They don't even consider that I might have others things going on in my life. It isn't even thought on their minds.

I stopped extending myself. I got tired of giving all of myself and getting nothing in return.
 
Going to see Aladdin on Sunday and I am so excited!!! Can't wait! This was a surprise for my birthday but I got it out of my sister because I wanted to know what to wear. She said at first I could get a little fancy but we have different taste so I didn't trust her opinion on how fancy I should get. And now I know I can get super fancy! :lol: I hope we have good seats.

I'm going home to prep my hair for straightening and it better not let me down lol
 
@LdyKamz - I would demand all my money back. Idc if they give you half now , you want the rest. People treat you how they feel you allow. You were nice enough to loan it and they wanna act funky? No ma'am, get your funds back. You had that money earmarked that is your money!

Congratulations on your upcoming business! I like to hear that we are out in the world shaking it up.

I've been good. I am working on the rest of my 2018 goals.
 
Went to the coffee shop today and the cashier from yesterday, who wished me well, was there. I stood off to the side and when I saw her, I let out an excited "Hi! How are you?" She smiled and as she opened her her mouth and raised her arm to greet me, I heard an equally cheerful "I'm fine! How are you?" coming from next to me.

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The old me would have, without thinking, said "Oh, I'm sorry, I was talking to her." Instead, I turned to the man next to me, told him I was fine and further engaged him in conversation.

I need to practice the art of initiating conversations with strangers.
 
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^ LOL i'm tickled :lol:

I just moved from Southern England back to Northern England and its crazy how much more chatty strangers are. I kind of forgot, but it's quite nice not to be so closed off with people
 
Going on from that point...

I moved back to my hometown after 7 years away recently. I've had several friends over the years anticipate and urge me to move back. Now since I've come back some of them have made an effort to see me and others have not. Some have health issues now and a few I'm not really impressed with.

Anyway, instead of sitting around waiting I made a meetup group of my own and have met a few nice people already. I'm doing mini golf and drinks this weekend :) . I'm proud of myself for finding a job and making a social life of my own instead of waiting around for people to fill the gaps if that makes sense.
 
Browndilocks said:
Scenario #1

You make friends with this girl because your boyfriends at the time are friends. Long after the boyfriend relationships are over, you remain friends. In fact you see each other through multiple boyfriends and whole bunch of other life stuff. Yall are kinda besties, you know each other's family. Bff gets married and starts a new life with DH. Your relationship changes but not really, you just don't see each other as much. Bff gets pregnant and you throw the baby shower. You style her photo shoot. Baby comes and you cook dinner every night for her and her DH for 2 weeks straight.

When the baby was 2 months, you get a job out of state & move. Bff texts you pics of the baby etc. all the time. Then all of a sudden the texts stop. You come to town and reach out, she doesn't respond. You text her "I hope everything is ok" and she still doesn't respond. You give it time, still nothing. She's ok though because she posts on SM regularly. Baby turns 1 and you text her HBD to the baby. She replies THANK YOU!!!XOXOXOXOX and says nothing else.

You delete her from all your SM. You never call her again. You think about her here and there but essentially not really. Baby will be 2 in June. You quit your job a while ago and move back. You're doing you, minding your business, happy. Phone rings, you look at it. It's former bff. You press ignore.

Would you have done the same thing?
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So this person called me and I answered. She apologized and said she wants to be friends again. She acknowledged that nothing happened between us and that she was just in one of her "moods". Her child is 3 now, so yeah, I haven't seen her in 3 years.

She told me she wants to pick up and be the friends we were before as if nothing happened. She feels that there's no need to "have it out" about anything because it's not like we had any drama between us. She's going through a divorce now so maybe she's had time to think about the friend she ghosted? I miss her a little bit but not pressed to see her. Not sure if this kiddie game is worth my full adult time. What say you?
 
@Browndilocks I think I would let it go especially because of how she ghosted you and her not wanting to discuss anything. I learned the hard way that when people say let’s forget the past and just move forward it means they aren’t interested in changing or acknowledging your hurt. I would leave her and her baby in the past :). She really mistreated you.
 
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