So to address some of the questions.... This man was someone who I dated in the past. We broke up last May to be exact and had virtually no contact except for the occasional text from him "to see how I was doing". His relationships with those women are who he calls "friends" they just so happened to have provided extra benefits and according to him he never wanted go be exclusive with him and vice versa. When we met a few years ago and I questioned why he seemed to only have female friends he basically explained it was all one stop shopping and they were filling in the gaps between him finding a woman he would want to be exclusive with. They all knew about each other and didn't seem to have any issues with the arrangement. I came along, he wanted exclusivity and I didn't want his friends around. He broke ties and we dated. Once he and I broke up he went back to his "friends" for maintenance.
When we began talking about getting back I asked him about his status and he revealed that mist of those chicks dropped off because they didn't like the fact that he chose me. Apparently they all wanted to be exclusive but put up with the nonsense figuring he would eventually chose one of them. There are a few who he communicates with now that are strictly platonic. However the one hanger on who he last messed with asked him to be her man and he told her that he was not ready or looking for a serious relationship. He turned around and got back with me, this pissed her off and she's been begging him and carrying on, which brings us to the problem we have now.
Yes, I pay all the bills here and my point is that I am not having somebody coming in and running all over me. He was only here for 9 days so there wasn't even time for his mail to be forwarded. Is it emasculating for him to be moving in with me, perhaps it is but I'm not a man so I can't really say what he is feeling and that is for him to resolve. There were lots of reasons why he came here, but first and foremost I was NOT going to mo e into his place.
Regardless of what day and age we live in, I wasn't too convince that living together was a good idea but I said what the heck. Do I expect him to behave a certain way now that he moved in....I say ya damned skippy I do. Because all relationships come with a compromise and sacrifices of some sort. I am not insecure about him having all the male friends and platonic female friends he wants, I draw the line at former lovers. And I don't think it's an unreasonable request when you consider this man told me I was not permitted to speak to the waiters when we go out because he felt o e was flirting with me. Give me a break.
erplexed.... how long have you been dating? Also, you said that you call his past girlfriends/lovers the harem? Did you know about his past relationships before you started seriously dating him ( and allowing him to move into your home)? It sounds like you might be bothered the the quanity of his past relationships, if so then you need to reevaluate whether or not you want to hold on to the relationship. It does seem kind of like you're insecure if you don't want him talking to certain people.....
He got a common law cussing out too 
