she doesn't think she can do better and hopefully her esteem issues won't get low enough again to let him come running back...
REAL TALK:...I'm sorry she ain't telling you the whole story and this is reading between the lines...I understand that he do for his kids...yada....but look at the presentation of this...He tells her what his kids want for Xmas...she tells him that she is going to the store but will text him the hours...ok...notice that he text back...have fun shopping w/ your friend...at the point she said she wasn't gonna buy his kids nothing he was done with her nothing more needed to be said at that time...notice he didn't call/text for a period of time...she wasn't dropping no money for his honey...
I know she your friend and all but some things women ain't gonna tell right away especially while they are in the midst of playing the fool...its only afterwards do people begin their confessions...it looks to me how this is all going down that she has spent/given him money before and he was looking for her to drop the money again...
That whole upset thing w/your DH is for her to feel like he cares and to give that whole control/you are my gurl/like I really care illusion...how many folks reading this post like me can see through that whole shananagan that was just laid out...he ain't tripping...she is for allowing this...and if she is a good friend of yours why not let her know I can't be having you in my home with your drama if dude call..don't answer...its like ya'll got a IRL soap opera going on ...JMO