hey so I actually downloaded the book on to my kindle
didn't finish it... (she started to go into the details of the marriage process which is still pretty far away for me)
but from i did get to, i thought it was good read. she reaffirmed several things that I had noticed about my dating life.... she open my eyes to some things that I have def experienced, but hadn't really picked up on yet.... and I learned some new things, so I was happy with it.
The "criticism" thing, as mean as it sounds, I can see it working. For example, last night I went out to this social event. I was dancing by myself, and I noticed this guy who was pretty cute. He was passing directly in front of me, and he was just cheesing, almost like he was laughing about something. I thought it was so cute, and I was curious, so I stopped him and asked him what was so funny (I know... that's pretty forward. I was a lil' tipsy, probably wouldn't done something like that if I was totally sober).
Anyway, he said he just finds certain things funny sometimes, and I was like, "okay, but tell me what you're laughing at, I wanna laugh too!" (I know kinda pushy right
? It was the EtOh!)
And he said something like, "Oh its just funny that the DJ is playing all this good music, but nobody's dancing with each other."
Which actually wasn't true, there were a lot of ppl dancing.
So I told him "Umm... no.... actually ppl are dancing, its just that ppl aren't dancing with you. Sounds personal."
And he gave me this kinda shocked look, kinda like... did you really just say that to me? And I'm kinda just standing there laughing at my little joke (I crack myself up sometimes), and then he said "Okay, that might be true, but if wanted to be dancing with someone, I would be dancing with someone. Trust."
And I laughed and kinda shrugged, just said "Okay!" , and went back to dancing, and he walked away, kinda staring at me, shaking his head a little incredulously.
FFWD awhile later, he was passing by again, and we made eye contact and I smiled. Then he walked over and asked me my name, and I told him... and we made some small talk. We realized we knew some of the same people. It wasn't until later in the convo that he let some stuff drop and I was like whoa... this guy might actually be a great catch! He was actually pretty humble about it, and almost apologetic about it, which was refreshing... I rarely see that nowadays.
That might have been why he was so surprised I made that initial comment to him, I'm sure he's used to people bending over backwards for him.
Anyway, he said he wanted to meet up to hang out sometime, and we traded numbers
Small victories, I know... who's to say if anything will really come of it. But it was a good exercise for me either way.... So thanks Margaret Kent!
