I read the first chapter of the Ring Formula....I guess I need to up my cooking game. But I just don't want to be in the kitchen everyday. There has to be a balance with the cooking.
But I did get that a man is looking for a nurturer.
Sample chapter of the Ring Forumla - thanks OP will def be checking out both books.
http://www.drtartt.com/ringformulapreview/ringformulacomplimentarychapter.pdf
^^^I agree. His description of the whole cooking...really nurturing...made sense to me. Women had always said that men really want to marry their mothers; but it was always viewed in a negative light.
Men really just want the nurturing pieces (which is ingrain in most women) of their mothers. Mothers tend to treat their children like children. Men don't want to be treated like children, but nurtured.
I totally get it now and I'm willing to cook for my man.
Well darn! Since he put it that way....Sample chapter of the Ring Forumla - thanks OP will def be checking out both books.
http://www.drtartt.com/ringformulapreview/ringformulacomplimentarychapter.pdf
Is there a book that tells men how to get a good wife? Not bashing this book at all ; I'm really curious. I'd like to see the advice given in such a book, see what it is men think women really want.
ETA: Okay, I actually do have a question about this book and others that are similar. Is there actual research? Or is it just the author hypothesizing with what sounds reasonable to him? I read a few pages of the pdf posted and saw he was talking about women and their "baseless theories" about men, which lead me to wonder if his theories were baseless.
Because thanks is not enough! I skimmed through the PDF chapter and my response was le sigh. I'm not knocking anyone for reading this type of snag-a-man book and following the advice prescribed, but to me this stuff gets as tiresome as the negative articles.. I don't get why women should have to "fix" ourselves and figure out some "formula" to get a man to commit. In my experience if a man is checking for you a certain way, all you have to do is exist and be you; everything else you bring to the table is a bonus.
Having said all that, good luck with your experiment OP!
Is there a book that tells men how to get a good wife? Not bashing this book at all ; I'm really curious. I'd like to see the advice given in such a book, see what it is men think women really want.
ETA: Okay, I actually do have a question about this book and others that are similar. Is there actual research? Or is it just the author hypothesizing with what sounds reasonable to him? I read a few pages of the pdf posted and saw he was talking about women and their "baseless theories" about men, which lead me to wonder if his theories were baseless.
Because thanks is not enough! I skimmed through the PDF chapter and my response was le sigh. I'm not knocking anyone for reading this type of snag-a-man book and following the advice prescribed, but to me this stuff gets as tiresome as the negative articles.. I don't get why women should have to "fix" ourselves and figure out some "formula" to get a man to commit. In my experience if a man is checking for you a certain way, all you have to do is exist and be you; everything else you bring to the table is a bonus.
Having said all that, good luck with your experiment OP!
Ladies, I get your point and would agree. But I think the key thing to remember is, MOST of these relationship books are SELF-HELP books. No one knows everything about anything.
I regard books (or posts, articles, forums, etc) about relationships, similar about books regarding improving your self-esteem, dealing with your past, alcoholism, sex problems, etc etc etc.
For some women, attracting and retaining a man is simple. For others it many not be and finding the answers to some questions (or realizations about oneself) may be necessary in a book....or a forum, in my case.
But I do understand your POV.
Is this dude married?
If not...
I'm not attacking or anything, I understand the desire to read self-help books. But do you know the answer to the questions I asked? I genuinely want to know. Is his book based on research? If so, just his own or does he bring in anyone else's? Or is it just what he thinks?
He is.
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Curious...where'd you get this information from? Last I knew, he was in a relationship but not married. That was as recent as 2 weeks ago.
He gives a story at the end of the book. I assumed it was about him.
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Must be hypothetical or a story about a friend. His Facebook is showing in a relationship.
I make this distinction because men like him and Hill Harper profess to have it all figured out for women and yet they haven't married. I respect Dr. Tartt's work, but there's a bit of irony in offering the Ring Formula to masses of women when you apparently haven't given it to your woman or it supposedly works for everyone else but not for her.
And women remember you don't have to cook all the time or know how to cook everything. A few signature yummy items is enough: mac & cheese, spaghetti, etc. And a man will love it if you just make him a really good sandwich. Seriously, a really good turkey sandwich, his favorite chips and an ice cold drink will also make him melt. Men love to be catered to. The right one though will also wine and dine you in return.
Curious...where'd you get this information from? Last I knew, he was in a relationship but not married. That was as recent as 2 weeks ago.
I read this on his website as well, that he's currently dating a great woman, but they are *not* married...
it also made me think, as he bragged about all the great women he's dated.. doctors, lawyers, flight attendants, etc......
why didn't he marry ANY of them?erplexed
Because they didn't know The Ring Formula.it also made me think, as he bragged about all the great women he's dated.. doctors, lawyers, flight attendants, etc......
why didn't he marry ANY of them?erplexed
Exactly.Somebody pushing a "ring formula" should start the book with the story of how his WIFE used methods he teaches to win his heart and a ring.
Because thanks is not enough! I skimmed through the PDF chapter and my response was le sigh. I'm not knocking anyone for reading this type of snag-a-man book and following the advice prescribed, but to me this stuff gets as tiresome as the negative articles.. I don't get why women should have to "fix" ourselves and figure out some "formula" to get a man to commit. In my experience if a man is checking for you a certain way, all you have to do is exist and be you; everything else you bring to the table is a bonus.
Having said all that, good luck with your experiment OP!