Belle Du Jour
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I follow Katarina.. she feels men responds more to action rather than talking. I love her leaning back concept
Just looked at Katarina's website. Can you elaborate a bit on the leaning back concept?
I follow Katarina.. she feels men responds more to action rather than talking. I love her leaning back concept
Just looked at Katarina's website. Can you elaborate a bit on the leaning back concept?
Well she advocates not chasing him. No calling or sending pics or reminding him that you still exist. If the man is interested then he will take initiative. She says that men are wired to be pursuers and that even though they may respond to aggressive women, it usually doesn't last. Unless you want a beta male which is different ..
Leaning bavk is also investing your energy within yourself, keep busy, have hobbies, date other men. That way you are not waiting for his call at home by the phone lol. She is a big advocate on self love and healing your wounds and not depending on a man to rescue you. As a result, you become what she calls a high value woman who is easy to lose, meaning that if a man hasn't called in weeks or giving you crumbs, that you will be so turned off because you love yourself too much for those type of treatments. You can decide by then if you want to continue anything with him or not.
Also with leaning back, it lets you know if the guy is genuinely interested in you or he is just entertaining you because you were the aggressor. There's more but that's the jist of it
Ok that makes sense LOL. Basically creating the space for the guy to come to you. And shifting the energy from why isn't he calling me to he's obviously a fool for not calling me
Just looked at Katarina's website. Can you elaborate a bit on the leaning back concept?
I sent her blog post to 2 friends recently so, just sharing it here too.
http://katarinaphang.com/the-beauty-of-leaning-back-in-a-relationship-real-examples/
Love it, love all of it. Life is so much more fun since I started leaning back. Men started doing things I didn't even know they could.
Except for 10. "What he is doing is none of your business"
I think what he's doing is none of your business when it's a fledgling relationship, which it sounds like most of these points are geared to.. or the point before a relationship where you question yourself all the time... 'is he or isn't he'.I initially disagreed with #10 until I put the shoe on the other foot. Is what you're doing his business?
Love it, love all of it. Life is so much more fun since I started leaning back. Men started doing things I didn't even know they could.
Except for 10. "What he is doing is none of your business"
I would imagine this type of style would help a lot of men eliminate themselves and allow you to see their intentions more clearly and sooner. Without you checking in and following up, both of you would lose interest pretty quickly if he is inconsistent.
I adore Katarina and her lessons. Men are not children. They don't need you to check up on them when they haven't reached out, ask for dates, remind them that you still exist, etc... They're smart. They can figure it out on their own. You're not helping him. I can already hear a lot of women disagreeing with this. Just know that how you got him is how you will keep him. If you did the utmost at the beginning, prepare to do the utmost throughout the ENTIRE relationship.
Some women are so desperate for a man that they're ok with that. Not me! A lot of relationships (dare I say most relationships) out there are crappy and unhealthy. Like Matthew Hussey says: "Stop being jealous of other people's crappy relationships!" A healthy relationship takes time and discernment. How will he have the chance to prove himself if you do everything for him?
Just know that how you got him is how you will keep him. If you did the utmost at the beginning, prepare to do the utmost throughout the ENTIRE relationship.
Some women are so desperate for a man that they're ok with that. Not me! A lot of relationships (dare I say most relationships) out there are crappy and unhealthy. Like Matthew Hussey says: "Stop being jealous of other people's crappy relationships!" A healthy relationship takes time and discernment. How will he have the chance to prove himself if you do everything for him?
Bolded: OMG soooo much this. I hung out with one of my HS BFFs and her SO yesterday and she started off the relationship doing the absolute most for him. He did literally nothing for her and got waaaaayyyy too comfortable. So she started pulling back, nearly 4 years into the relationship. And the tension is so thick you could cut it with a knife. Couldn't. be. me.
Purple: I used to look at her relationship and be kinda jealous because she seemed happy and in love and I wasn't. But I'm seeing first hand the toll that bad relationships can take and I'm not about that life. I'd rather wait and have a healthy relationship. But that takes time.
My brother is doing the same thing, cheats left right and center. He said she knows what is because of the way she chased him even though he never has showed any interest.I was reading FB drama about this guy who was mistreating his girlfriend (not sure if she was the babymama). People try to tell him about himself. His response was she pursued him so he didn't owe her respect. He said he was minding his own business and she came to holla at him.
I was reading FB drama about this guy who was mistreating his girlfriend (not sure if she was the babymama). People try to tell him about himself. His response was she pursued him so he didn't owe her respect. He said he was minding his own business and she came to holla at him.
Couldn't. Be. Me.I was reading FB drama about this guy who was mistreating his girlfriend (not sure if she was the babymama). People try to tell him about himself. His response was she pursued him so he didn't owe her respect. He said he was minding his own business and she came to holla at him.
My brother is doing the same thing, cheats left right and center. He said she knows what is because of the way she chased him even though he never has showed any interest.
With my friend, her SO pursued her but he went from living with his mother, children on the other side of the country and going from job to job to going to film school, living in an apartment on my friend's dime, and his 2 kids living with him and a quasi step mother to take care of his kids. What has he brought to my friend's life? We're all trying to figure that out.I was reading FB drama about this guy who was mistreating his girlfriend (not sure if she was the babymama). People try to tell him about himself. His response was she pursued him so he didn't owe her respect. He said he was minding his own business and she came to holla at him.
She's beeing there through the struggles so when he makes it big, he will be forever indebted to her. Little does she know, he will upgrade.With my friend, her SO pursued her but he went from living with his mother, children on the other side of the country and going from job to job to going to film school, living in an apartment on my friend's dime, and his 2 kids living with him and a quasi step mother to take care of his kids. What has he brought to my friend's life? We're all trying to figure that out.
Exactly. All of our friends see it.She's beeing there through the struggles so when he makes it big, he will be forever indebted to her. Little does she know, he will upgrade.