I've been out with 4 different guys this month (all military). Being stationed in SK the past 10ish months I have learned to keep a rotation going at all times when dating, lol. It keeps things interesting and never has me sweating one single guy too much. At this point I am just dating for fun, though, because I literally PCS in 2 months. Anyway, soooo there are pros/cons to each guy....
Guy number 1.....I have been seeing since December. It will never work out. Our last date was over NY weekend. He is a nice guy, smart, and we have good conversation (important to me). There's definitely some chemistry there, but I have noticed he is kind of bossy. I actually prefer decisive males who make decisions easily, but he is beyond that and just bossy. He also has an issue accepting boundaries. I don't believe in having a guy over my place until I am comfortable, and by the end of date 2 he was being really pushy about coming inside even though I explained specifically why. He is cute, though, with a nice smile, GREAT arms (I love nice arms lol), but he is kind of on the short side for my tastes. I know it will never work out because we are both too stubborn and I don't like pushiness. We've already gotten into an argument this early on. He apologized, but nahhhhh.
Guy number 2.....tall, dark, total clown. He is so lighthearted and ridiculous, he keeps me laughing from beginning to end. THIS is what I love most about him. I love to laugh and he always has something silly or funny to say. He is also a perfect gentleman, it's quite refreshing. We have been out three times already, and each time I have a complete blast. Big bonus is that his next duty station is England, just like me. I leave a few months ahead of him, but he will be there eventually so even though I'm kind of dating for fun since I leave soon, it's definitely in the back of my mind that this guy will be going where I'm going if I want to take things to the next level. Cons about this guy are that he doesn't seem all that motivated to me. We are the same rank, but he has been in several years longer than me, and he just doesn't seem eager to make the next stripe. That's kind of a turn off, I like go-getter men. Also, he is sometimes a little too lighthearted. I love laughing, but not everything is a joke. He's only 26 (I'm 25) so I think he may just need to mature a bit. But still, really like this guy. I don't sit on his messages or avoid his calls (I have a bad habit of doing this LOL), I respond as soon as I can, because the conversation is always entertaining/engaging.
Guy number 3.......went out with for the first time last night. Never again. I've known him for a while because sometimes our career fields cross paths at work, but he's never asked me out until recently. Anyway, we have some things in common like our cultural background and similar families, but he is just not my type at all. He paid for everything, but he did not hold the door open for me (yes I notice!!!), and he did not offer to walk me after the taxi dropped us off at the end of our date. I understand we both live in opposite directions, but it was COLD and NIGHT out, and he just let me make the walk by myself. He is the only one of the 4 to not walk me back. I just think it shows a lot about his character. Plus, he kind of complains a lot about other people, situations, etc. He's also not very funny. I'm not particularly physically attracted to him either aside from his height. Like I said, it's just a never again.
Guy number 4.......I think I like the most even though I've only known him for the shortest period of time. I literally met him 2 weeks ago, and we've already been out 3 times. He is older age 31 and is a lot more grounded than the others. He's never been married, never had any kids, he is really goal-oriented and traditional. We have a lot of the same "thoughts" on a lot of that type of stuff. He is Latino and we come from the same country so we have that in common as well. I feel like I can relate to him in ways I can't with a couple of the other guys. He is also really intelligent and seems ambitious (I know this because he's made rank very fast and is always an award winner). He's also a pretty good listener. What I don't like about him, though, is that he's shy! I'm shy. Two shy people just do not work out lol. I almost never make moves with men, so the fact that he is hesitant to make moves as the man leaves us stuck. He was so awkward about our first kiss. I do think it's a bit cute he's shy, but at the same time I normally go for more alpha types. Biggest con is that he PCS's in a week back to the States. He has asked to come visit me in England, and I told him he can. But I'm not into the whole long distance thing.
Long post I know lol. Really I don't think any of these guys are it. I'm just biding my time til I get to leave.
But I also know that I'm coming up on 37 in less than a month, haven't had a real SO in about 8 or 9 years,and I can't keep taking myself off the market if I really wanna settle down.
(that counts as a date right??) Oh em gee....I'm about 25-30 lbs away from being bathing suit ready but I have a couple of months.... I guess this diet I've been planning starts tomorrow if I say yes!
We might have a second date this week. Is two dates in the same week with the same person too much? We shall see. I like him but plan FRIENDZONE/Take it slow is in full effect.
Bless his heart. He wants to go out again I will but we are not a match. He is cool. If you have a cool auntie or mom in Houston let me know I can try to hook her up.
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I'm in my early 30s' now, so I can't be dealing with time-wasters and immature guys anymore. 
you seductress you.
