I wasnt gonna comment Ms Walker but....
I call this dating like a grown arse woman.
Take the fantasy out of it, take out the BS formality and professionalism and meet the real each other Day 1. This aint a Disney fantasy or some romcom starring me (or you!).
and hey, it would be insanity to keep doing the same things over and over and its not working.
Best believe during this informalness in my little world, I judge his every action: His manners--Is he consistently holding doors open for me even to the grocery store? Did he buy my groceries and carry the bags? Is he speaking up for me when some customer service jerk is giving me a hard time? Does he pick me up with something in hand or empty handed every time? what are his daily habits and routines like & do they agree with mine?
After a minute there's formal dates thrown in. By then the romance and comfort level feels genuine because the attraction and intention is clear and we are more comfy with each other and it feels more natural.
All marriage proposals, LTRs and serious contenders came from doing regular ****. Everyday ****.
Every formal date type dude I went out with = months in and finding myself in a fail cuz either he hid **** or I didn't see it through the ruse early enough. Happened with the last dude who only formally dated. Come to find out most his stories were lies and half truths but I didnt find that out until the formal dating started to wane and the real ish creeped in
waste of 6 months. Argh!
When I'm ready to get back out there, informal dating all the way. There are some pitfalls to informal dating but for me it works out better overall.
Im sure you will have a blast switching it up. Im here for it!