Someone told me that we only want to be wined and dined because we are trying to be like white women.
You can’t control men or what other women do. All you can control is your actions. Love yourself enough to walk away when he doesn’t treat you the way you think you deserve to be treated. Have standards. If he leaves then good! You have your answer. There are good men out there. The question is how fast can you sort. This is why properly vetting a man is so important. It simplifies dating.
She also said she deserves more than to be relegated to sporadic movie nights in his tiny arse apartment and that he doesn't deserve even that little bit of her time with those bogus non-dates. I kept thinking she must be on that dating coach life! lol He told me that if she feels like he doesn't deserve her then she can beat it because "who in the hell does she think she is?!" He feels like it's negative punishment and if she wants him to compete to win then he doesn't know if he wants her. The entitlement! like she was just supposed to be happy with his crumbs because he picked her. I was like if you think she wasn't dating others and you didn't compete and win her the first time around then you're delusional. And this is supposed to be a good one. Smh Smart, decent career and money, mature, good looking, wants to marry, wants a family and all that. Little does he know, this girl is probably all set to replace him. But he's so used to dealing with pick me women that this has him so confused.
Savage!! I love it!!She recently declined one of his dates because she had a date with another guy. And she told him!
She can cut it out with all this. All this screams to a man is "great, a woman I don't have to try with! jackpot!" You save this talk for when you actually find your man and then tell your friends you don't care what you 2 do as long as you 2 do it together. After he has won your heart. But even that's dangerous before you have a ring on your finger.
I just had a text argument with a friend of mine whose gf basically took back her exclusivity because he's been slipping. They've been dating for about 10 months and exclusive for the past 4. He used to go to her plays, take her places, buy little 'just because' presents, come to her apartment and cook her meals when she had long rehearsal nights, etc. He has suddenly stopped doing these things - for no reason at all other than he probably thinks he doesn't have to try anymore because he got her. So now all he does is send her good morning and good night texts and asks her out via text whenever he wants to see her (i.e. have sex with her). She recently declined one of his dates because she had a date with another guy. And she told him!
He wanted to text me and cry about it. He said she told him that when the guy she fell for showed up again tell him to come find her. I sent the clapping emoji and a high five gif.
He was so mad and started telling me I'm cold. I just stopped responding. I thought of this thread because he texted me today to tell me he apologized to her and told her he would try harder and he wanted things back to normal and she said ok.
Savage!! I love it!!
His update text telling me that she agreed to go back to the way things were was his way of telling me I was wrong. He said "I told her I wanted things to go back to the way they were and she said ok. See you was talking crazy" I wrote back "yeah after you apologized and begged her back and you still only got a one word ok. Good luck with that" I included a thumbs up emoji. He didn't respond.
His update text telling me that she agreed to go back to the way things were was his way of telling me I was wrong. He said "I told her I wanted things to go back to the way they were and she said ok. See you was talking crazy" I wrote back "yeah after you apologized and begged her back and you still only got a one word ok. Good luck with that" I included a thumbs up emoji. He didn't respond.
His update text telling me that she agreed to go back to the way things were was his way of telling me I was wrong. He said "I told her I wanted things to go back to the way they were and she said ok. See you was talking crazy" I wrote back "yeah after you apologized and begged her back and you still only got a one word ok. Good luck with that" I included a thumbs up emoji. He didn't respond.
Yup she gonna keep doing what she wants anyway. Good for her!
Huh?! He thinks she is going to settle on the Netflix and chill and text messages?! Yea ok, he is now regulated to her rotation...His update text telling me that she agreed to go back to the way things were was his way of telling me I was wrong. He said "I told her I wanted things to go back to the way they were and she said ok. See you was talking crazy" I wrote back "yeah after you apologized and begged her back and you still only got a one word ok. Good luck with that" I included a thumbs up emoji. He didn't respond.
How much y'all wanna bet they might be passing the same $20 back and forth?
