PrissiSippi
Simply Komplex
I’m really trying to take in this concept that men need challenges. How are/were you a challenge in the relationship? How do you keep being a challenge after marriage?
Some things that I’m working on are:
1. Be the center of your own life. Don’t let the men be the center of your universe.
Never cancel your plans to go out with him. If yoga was previously planned with the girls, stick to that plan. Be vague in your plans when you tell him. Create a full and fulfilling life.
2. Create the perfect amount of space between you and the man to allow him to wonder and imagine what you’re doing and/or how you’re feeling about them. Fill your time with your hobbies and dreams. Don't be available 24//7.
I’m just being intentional to do stuff with myself and focus on me for a few hours or etc. When I come back I’m working on not explaining myself. If he pulls back and goes ghost for 1-2 days I let him. I lean back and don’t contact until he contacts me. When he comes back I’m light breezy and sweet because I didn’t even notice he was gone. I was living life.
3: Create some boundaries. Make him work for everything little thing he gets. He has to work to talk to me (can’t talk through text). He has to work to date me (no last minute or low value dates), he has to work to visit my house (not until exclusive), he has to work for sex (not until he has invested enough and the time is right).
4. Have feminine mystique. Never let him take your hair down. Don’t let him see you WHOLE beauty regimen. Don’t tell him the specific perfume you wear. Be vague. Oh I just put on a little something for you. Don’t answer all his questions. Be coy. Be vague.
5. Always make him feel like....dang she will leave me if this happens. I think she loves me but dang....she just might leave. Always appear that you are not afraid to get up and leave if it’s not working for you anymore. Make him always feel like he has to stay on his toes to keep you. Stay physically attractive. Don’t go into details but create these scenarios where you left your exes because they were no longer giving you what you needed.
6. Have male vouchers. Let him see that you are to be very taken care of by others. Project the illusion that the people who love you think very highly of you. It is expected that other men do the same. Men will have to meet this challenge.
7. Don't call and text him so much. He should initiate about 80% of the time. 8. Don't buy his attention, approval, affection, or Love. Don't seek his approval through cooking, cleaning, or being his personal little maid.
8. Don't be such an open book. Let his mind wander. Be mysterious.
9. Don't ever act from a Scarcity Mindset. Don't ever be afraid to lose a man. Just like you got this one....you can get another one.
Some things that I’m working on are:
1. Be the center of your own life. Don’t let the men be the center of your universe.
Never cancel your plans to go out with him. If yoga was previously planned with the girls, stick to that plan. Be vague in your plans when you tell him. Create a full and fulfilling life.
2. Create the perfect amount of space between you and the man to allow him to wonder and imagine what you’re doing and/or how you’re feeling about them. Fill your time with your hobbies and dreams. Don't be available 24//7.
I’m just being intentional to do stuff with myself and focus on me for a few hours or etc. When I come back I’m working on not explaining myself. If he pulls back and goes ghost for 1-2 days I let him. I lean back and don’t contact until he contacts me. When he comes back I’m light breezy and sweet because I didn’t even notice he was gone. I was living life.
3: Create some boundaries. Make him work for everything little thing he gets. He has to work to talk to me (can’t talk through text). He has to work to date me (no last minute or low value dates), he has to work to visit my house (not until exclusive), he has to work for sex (not until he has invested enough and the time is right).
4. Have feminine mystique. Never let him take your hair down. Don’t let him see you WHOLE beauty regimen. Don’t tell him the specific perfume you wear. Be vague. Oh I just put on a little something for you. Don’t answer all his questions. Be coy. Be vague.
5. Always make him feel like....dang she will leave me if this happens. I think she loves me but dang....she just might leave. Always appear that you are not afraid to get up and leave if it’s not working for you anymore. Make him always feel like he has to stay on his toes to keep you. Stay physically attractive. Don’t go into details but create these scenarios where you left your exes because they were no longer giving you what you needed.
6. Have male vouchers. Let him see that you are to be very taken care of by others. Project the illusion that the people who love you think very highly of you. It is expected that other men do the same. Men will have to meet this challenge.
7. Don't call and text him so much. He should initiate about 80% of the time. 8. Don't buy his attention, approval, affection, or Love. Don't seek his approval through cooking, cleaning, or being his personal little maid.
8. Don't be such an open book. Let his mind wander. Be mysterious.
9. Don't ever act from a Scarcity Mindset. Don't ever be afraid to lose a man. Just like you got this one....you can get another one.
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