softblackcotton
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When I was 20 I really didn't think about it. Now that I'm about to turn 25, I really wouldn't mind getting married soon. But I'm not going to stress myself out about it until I'm about to be 30.
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Was that your first marriage?
Some would say that's too late, but I figure it's only too late when you're dead! Congratulations!
I'm engaged for a May 8th wedding (I didn't vote yet) and I'll be 38 this year. I guess God had a lot of work to do with me first! Oh well, it's gravy now.
I thought about that, wanting children and all, but it seems that many women are ble to have children into thier early to mid 40 nowadays. If she healthy and does what's right by baby and herself, why not? On the other hand, a couple could always adopt. I don't think it's necessary for my blood to course through a child's veins in order for me to love him/her.But if do not you get married until your late 30's-40's, given that you save yourself, what do you do about having children? I'm worried about not being able to have children, hypothetically, if I end up getting married past 40. I'm about to be 25 soon, extremely focused on career and school, but I feel my biologically clock ticking. HA! If that makes any sense...
Engaged with a date, March 13, 2010. Marriage Counseling starts first thing in Jan.
Thanks Ladies. I can't tell if my little experiment worked or not b/c over 100 have veiwed, but less than 30 have voted. But looking at the poll, it seems there are more married women here than single/engaged. Now I wonder if those who didn't vote didn't b/c they are unhappily single. Does this mean that it's kinda like those threads where the happy people respond and the other suck their teeth and keep it moving. Which could be another thread (why do people "do this" as in join web groups/networks?)
But if do not you get married until your late 30's-40's, given that you save yourself, what do you do about having children? I'm worried about not being able to have children, hypothetically, if I end up getting married past 40. I'm about to be 25 soon, extremely focused on career and school, but I feel my biologically clock ticking. HA! If that makes any sense...
I'm unhappily single at the moment, but only because my ex and I broke up recently and it's the Holidays and I miss him. LOL. I'm gradually moving into the happily single realm because I'm learning that I could really use some me time right now. I almost didn't vote but eventually said go for it. I think what you said (the bolded) is very possible, but I don't want to speak for others.
i am single. i'm 19 & sometimes i feel out of place on this forum with so many women being determined to marry v soon (obv it is an age difference)
i eventually want to get married. & i think about marriage in every rlp (what will he be like as a husband? a father? etc) so i think "dating for marriage" is good & making sure to date men who want/will want to marry me is also important.
ideally, i want to marry at 27. but if i meet "the one" i will be willing to marry at 24. i want to be ready (career/academic goals obtained or in progress) & i expect the next 2- 4 yrs of my life to be full of changes (i graduate college this year & plan to go to grad school in the fall of 2012 or 13)
my current SO will graduate next year (he is a yr older but obv i'm a little ahead of most my age) & i/we are trying to figure out what our future holds
sidenote: (i feel awful for him b/c he is pretty sure he's going to have to go back to his manual labor job on the east coast for a while so he can help out his family, they are really struggling & he is worried about not finding a job that pays that kind of money post-grad)