neenzmj
New Member
How long is too long to stay with someone hoping that he’ll finally decide to make a commitment of marriage? I’m 45 years old now, and sometimes I look back on the time I wasted while waiting and hoping for a guy to get his act together and decide he’s ready to be married.
In my particular example, I dealt with someone for 2 ½ years, and in that time I did all I could to show him just how wonderful I was – preparing meals, being supportive of him, giving him all the “benefits” which he had not earned. (Of course in retrospect, why would he have married me – he was getting all the benefits?) But that was 2 ½ years of my life that I’ll never get back, and for what? I’ve been married 13 years now and my husband has taught me this: it doesn’t take forever for a man to decide he wants to be married. A man who is ready to be married and who is ready to marry YOU will do just that, and you don’t have to wait 10 years, 5 years, or even 2 years for that matter. I believe that when we truly begin to realize our value – the valuable and special individuals God made us – we’ll stop waiting around forever hoping someone finally recognizes our value, too.
So ladies, what’s your opinion – how long is too long?
In my particular example, I dealt with someone for 2 ½ years, and in that time I did all I could to show him just how wonderful I was – preparing meals, being supportive of him, giving him all the “benefits” which he had not earned. (Of course in retrospect, why would he have married me – he was getting all the benefits?) But that was 2 ½ years of my life that I’ll never get back, and for what? I’ve been married 13 years now and my husband has taught me this: it doesn’t take forever for a man to decide he wants to be married. A man who is ready to be married and who is ready to marry YOU will do just that, and you don’t have to wait 10 years, 5 years, or even 2 years for that matter. I believe that when we truly begin to realize our value – the valuable and special individuals God made us – we’ll stop waiting around forever hoping someone finally recognizes our value, too.
So ladies, what’s your opinion – how long is too long?
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