kayte
Well-Known Member
My very good friend died a year ago. A white woman I'd known and loved for over a decade
like all friends fought made up ..went to each other birthday parties..brunched on Sundays
she unexpectedly became sick and didn't tell her friends.
No one thought she was going to die...She,her family,
husband and adult daughter, just thought she'd beat her cancer
but it took a sudden turn for the worse and her family was at her side when she died.
I was devastated..when called by a male family friend
Her husband and his insensitivity has always been an issue for my friend...
he's abrasive and was given to having involvements on the side..
she battled the idea of divorce..for years
He sent me this awful invitation asking me to come her memorial
but since family was going to be there...maybe that I sholud NOT read my erotica....
It was such an insult.....that was the furtherest idea ..from my mind...
Erotica????
I had written a sweet goodbye poem..but I was repelled by his suggestion
....though I felt guilty....I felt it best not to go
I know this man professionally as a poet and I've used his work in a publication and in a reading ..but through an intern, or I've always approached him through ..my friend first...
He and I have never been in a social situation alone..always with her..
or just her and me
Today I get a card...saying he hadn't seen me in a while ..to call him and "we'll have lunch" ...not one word about his deceased wife....
not anything about how his daughter was coping..nothing
In fact the only other thing he said was the card was his own art design!
We'll have lunch? ????
do you think that's appropriate?
I feel bad because the daughter is an absolute sweetheart and
every private memory of her mother that I could share... I would
and she cried and she hung on every word..and I know..her mother would gratefully welcome my sharing more memories with her
like all friends fought made up ..went to each other birthday parties..brunched on Sundays
she unexpectedly became sick and didn't tell her friends.
No one thought she was going to die...She,her family,
husband and adult daughter, just thought she'd beat her cancer
but it took a sudden turn for the worse and her family was at her side when she died.
I was devastated..when called by a male family friend
Her husband and his insensitivity has always been an issue for my friend...
he's abrasive and was given to having involvements on the side..
she battled the idea of divorce..for years
He sent me this awful invitation asking me to come her memorial
but since family was going to be there...maybe that I sholud NOT read my erotica....
It was such an insult.....that was the furtherest idea ..from my mind...
Erotica????
I had written a sweet goodbye poem..but I was repelled by his suggestion
....though I felt guilty....I felt it best not to go
I know this man professionally as a poet and I've used his work in a publication and in a reading ..but through an intern, or I've always approached him through ..my friend first...
He and I have never been in a social situation alone..always with her..
or just her and me
Today I get a card...saying he hadn't seen me in a while ..to call him and "we'll have lunch" ...not one word about his deceased wife....
not anything about how his daughter was coping..nothing
In fact the only other thing he said was the card was his own art design!
We'll have lunch? ????
do you think that's appropriate?
I feel bad because the daughter is an absolute sweetheart and
every private memory of her mother that I could share... I would
and she cried and she hung on every word..and I know..her mother would gratefully welcome my sharing more memories with her
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