ScorpioBeauty09
Well-Known Member
I'm Nov. 15, btw!
You're right that there are women of all races who deem themselves to be "too busy" to date while in school. My point was that black women, based on my experience, seem to be the only ones taught/instructed by family, friends, peers, etc., that we should wait until a specific period of time to date.
Now this might not be the case for black women raised in the South though, or who have people with southern roots. Those girls have a MRS degree on their list of priorities!!!
As for the idea of giving a man a chance... again, I focus on the idea of "a chance." At some point, a woman will know when she's not feeling a dude, and by all means, she should move on. I certainly have.
But I see women (of all backgrounds) deciding after one date or two that there is no romantic interest and she barely knows the man... or she has an idea in her head that the type of man she wants must be XYZ, and since this one is ABC, then it's not gonna work.
I give all men a blank slate. If the impression they leave is negative, then they get Xed. If the impression they leave is neutral, I leave room for them to keep trying and for feelings to possibly develop on my end. I believe in chemistry and romance, for sure, but I'm not one who believes that it must be there instantly for a relationship to work... I give it time to see if it develops.
It's funny you mention the South because my parents are Southerners though I grew up in California. My mom married my dad at 21 right after finishing college. She met him her first day of college (he was a junior) and would've married him sooner had my grandparents not stepped in lol. But there were some other factors too. It surprised her that I didn't meet anyone in college, didn't date nor show much interest in dating. She tried endlessly to set me up. It never worked and after nearly an intervention she let it go. But now that I'm in grad school and making career decisions she's now pushing me to look for a husband lol.
But I see what you're saying about giving guys a chance. Obviously if you get a real negative vibe from a guy cut him loose but don't dump a guy just because you don't have chemistry with him straight away. It definitely takes time on my end to develop.
Nov 21 btw!!!