I just saw a meme on an attractive woman's page that said "Person: you look mean. Me: Because I am. Now bye."
That's alright though....more for the rest of us that aren't mean.
If I had a dime for everytime a man has said to someone else, (about a woman that looks mean/doesn't smile, "Man, why you invite her over here, with her mean ssa!"
Somebody should tell them they aren't winning when they do that.
My dad says if you meet a man and you're not smiling, making you smile is not important to him...
You need a man that thinks your smile lights up his life!
A lot of women underestimate the power of a simple smile. My mom told me when I was 11 years old or so that it is very unattractive for a woman to frown. So I always remember to try to keep a smile on my face.
It's a contradiction, but even your "resting face" needs to be a smiling one. It doesn't have to be a whole toothy ear to ear smile. You can even smile with your face/eyes until you get there.
Most men and women say they notice my smile first. Either that or my eyes.
So get your smile on, ladies!
If you don't like your smile or have a hard time smiling, practice when you're alone, especially in a mirror or on your way to a date/outing.
When people call you, smile before you pick up the phone and then speak. Say hello while you're smiling and interject smiles into your conversations (over the phone and in person.)
I have perfected this so much that men and women say, "there's that beautiful smile/laugh" when I pick up the phone or when I walk into a room.
It's also one of the things people miss most about me when I'm gone or they haven't seen me in a while.
Just be honest about it. As an introvert I appreciate and need my alone time or else I'm just not at my best internally. It has nothing to do with my choices in how I interact with people. I can be very talkative to be polite, if I truly like you or I can ignore you if I want.
Girl you ain't never lied! I'm the same way. My ex-husband really struggled with this and did not understand this about me, no matter how many times I explained.
He couldn't accept that this is a part of me being an introvert and would always feel like I was purposely not wanting to connect with him or be around him.
I have literally had to remove myself from environments/situations where people cannot respect the fact that I need my space and time to be alone and they're still trying to engage me in conversation/activities.
Then it angers me even more when they play the "quit being antisocial" or "stuck up" or "she got an attitude" card. Nothing could be further from the truth. I am none of those things in general.
I think I mentioned this in an introvert thread here before.
