Femmefatal1981
Well-Known Member
we all form our opinions based on personal experiences. I'm my family divorce ain't a thing. Something like 80% of the marriages have ended in divorce...and the single women are still miserable. So I figure I'd rather try and work on whatever in going on in my marriage than live with the regret of not trying to work it out. Now that's means I had to be extra careful about who I married because I'm in it til the end. Has it always been rainbows and kittens? Nope. We both have out flaws but I'm no saint so the idea of not being able to forgive him ....hold on let me rephrase that.... I can't imagine not being able to stay married to him because I have not necessarily forgiven him for his mistakes as much as I have decided to take his word for it when he says he's sorry as well as Im ok with making him earn that forgiveness with no guarantee that it will ever be given. Cheating means he's willing to live in a possibly permanent state of purgatory. Actually he can be faithful and still face that consequence. I don't deserve it for infidelity. So what I'm saying is I've never been a mistress, never would be. However if my husband decided to have an affair that doesn't mean it's over. Hell I still punish him for stuff that happened 4-5 yrs ago. I'll remember something he did last year and get mad all over again...he knows the deal and generally acts accordingly. I wish I could go into details but I can't trust yall so I wont.wait the bolded was for Fela but I was joking! And,you're right, you didn't. I'm not personally offended (although I am offended at the idea that people have no shame) but the posts I was referring to were the ones toward the beginning of the thread where the poster with the Shirley temple wig and furs talking about if a woman wants to sleep with a married man she shouldn't feel bad "if she wants it" or another poster relaying the story of forgetting that a married man was married. First of all, I don't consider that mistressdom, but yes, if I had something in mind it was that in particular.
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