Boyfriend says he likes white women

[gymfreak336]

So it's the gender and coochie that makes any porn acceptable to you? Y'all should have made this disclaimer when stating that porn was fine and it was just fantasy and it meant nothing.

Now, what if he was watching porn involving underage teen ? They still got a coochie... What if was watching snuf porn where they kill or physically harm the woman in the end? They still got a coochie... Or do we need more disclaimers?

If y'all think a white or asian woman catching her SO watching exclusively black women porn is not going to feel bothered, y'all sleeping real tight...

Porn involving underage teens, snuf films, or child porn violates peoples civil rights. I don't know how you can compare the two. Porn showing two adult consenting parties is not the same thing.

I don't have a problem with gay porn if that is your thing. It would be something me and my SO would have to talk about. I personally don't see why a straight man would watch gay porn so that would be a conversation I would have with my SO since the fantasy does not reflect the gender dynamics of our relationship. The issue the OP has with the porn is showing the underlying issue of insecurity of her relationship which will manifest its way in other ways if she doesn't address the fundamental issues.

 

[tiara76]

Tiara, it's hard for me to believe that in this day and age where everyone and their mama has access to the internet and porn, the poor guy just happened to seize the opportunity to satisfy his curiosity because the OP told him he could watch porn on her computer. What does he do when he is home by himself on his own computer? Watch black women porn instead of white women? lol.

I think he said what he said because he was embarassed at her reaction and wanted to calm her down, and he is probably embarassed at his choice of porn too. I suspect he is probably struggling with his own sexual attraction to white women. Many men have a ditchotomy about sex and feelings, many have the madonna and whore syndrome. There are women they bleep and there are women they love, and there are women they respect and those women never mesh... Many women have that dichotomy too.

lets break down this whole scenario.....

there is an issue...definitely

the first thing we have to do when interacting with another when issues come up is to first realize that alot of times we are projecting and assuming vs KNOWING anything and its always onto the other person when our issue needs to be addressed first and foremost

in this case alot of assuming and projecting was going on from her to him and to even get him to admit where he is on the subject whether its some super deep psychological demons he is fighting of the temptation of the big booty sexual white girl or he just likes to look at them and thinks they are physically appealing (which is not a crime nor a confirmation that he wants to leave his woman for a white girl)
he is going to have to feel real comfortable with being honest about his feelings....and he was honest on surface level and the reaction he got from the girl he loved when trying to be honest (nobody is telling their significant other they are curious about being with a different type of person other than who they are with because they are embarrassed, usually they will lie lie and deny and make up excuses as to why they were looking at it not tell you their true thoughts on it) was pack your **** and get out...let me pack your **** and get out better yet

this reaction comes from her own insecurity around black men wanting white women, because if she was secure with herself and thinks he may have some underlying issues with wanting to be with a white woman for whatever reason she won't kick him out she will give him the choice to decide what he wants to do along with an option to leave if he's not happy where he is if she feels that it is something that is potentially detrimental to their relationship....and not with bitterness and hate over that issue....he may choose to admit he has one and they may be able to get to the bottom of his issues and reasons for how he feels without it being something he has to go out and act on or maybe he just desires white chicks and wil realize that he has to go be with one and needs to leave....either way the bottom of issues has to be gotten to somehow or another and in this case with the OP her issues will need to be addressed before she can even KNOW what his are if he has any and

iF he has some issues around white chicks....his issues are not what hers are...and shes making her issues his..and she will never know what his are by reacting in this manner and being real drastic in behaviors and causing him to retreat from being honest vs opening up to her

the important thing is to make the relationship stronger not weaker

this porn ordeal may be the thing that brings them closer together vs something that tears them apart

 

[FluffyRed]

Oh, I agree with you on this, but are we talking here about "hotter version" of people? If her SO is watching white women porn because he considers them a hotter version of black women? I find it difficult to believe that a white or asian woman would dismiss her SO black women porn watching to him wanting a "hotter version" of her...

We're saying that OP thinks he is secretly more attracted to another category.

I'm saying he could prefer her category only and still leave.

I'm saying, if he liked black porn and ended up leaving her for a black woman, that would not be better.

I don't feel that I'm inferior to a yt female based on race or racial attributes. Neither should OP.

I don't care whether I'm left for a yt or blk female.

Gone is gone.

 

[MrsAriannaAmbers]

i agree that the issue is deeper than porn. But porn is not the mindless neutral thing that people are claiming it is. The kind of porn you're attracted to is a pretty good reflection of what is going on inside your sexual psyche. We can't say that it's just harmless fantasy then turn around and start making disclaimers at certain categories that we're uncomfortable with like gay porn, pedophilia, necrophilia, bestiality, etc...

Either it's harmless meaningless fantasy for all or it's not...

I so agree with this......but thats another thread...

But as far as what I think is this...I think it has more to do with "trust". She gave him her "trust" to go and look at porn. Which he did and then asked ?'s about it. I think it was the answers to her ?'s that got her to thinking..."If he were left alone with a white woman...how much can I trust him that he wouldn't try to get with his wondering thought?". How much can she truly trust him is going to be key...I mean lets be honest if OP is feeling like this now...everytime they are around white women she will think back to this incident.

So she needs to make up her mind and figure out the trust level that is there and if she evaluates it and it is then move on...***hell even though you may not like it but it turns him on try watching with him.*** I say its just a preference of enjoyment for him at this point as he sounds like he truly likes you...but only you know the answer...and by the way....OP you get what you asked for...You trapped him and it was like you had the trap all thought out in your head but you ended up trapping yourself....its kind of

 

[babyb900]

I dont understand what some of you ladies are saying. I see a lot of "Oh its just a fantasy" remarks on here, but isnt a fantasy you imagining something you want in reality? Especially when it comes to sexuality.

I cant see myself fantasizing over a short stubby Asian man. That's something I'm not attracted to. Now a tall, chocolate muscular brother with a nice low cut and some facial hair......whoo lawd

While I do believe that he has a thing for yt women, I dont believe this was something to end your relationship over. As long as never acted out his fantasies, I don't see where the issue lies.

 

[Bene]

I dont understand what some of you ladies are saying. I see a lot of "Oh its just a fantasy" remarks on here, but isnt a fantasy you imagining something you want in reality? Especially when it comes to sexuality.

I cant see myself fantasizing over a short stubby Asian man. That's something I'm not attracted to. Now a tall, chocolate muscular brother with a nice low cut and some facial hair......whoo lawd

While I do believe that he has a thing for yt women, I dont believe this was something to end your relationship over. As long as never acted out his fantasies, I don't see where the issue lies.

Not necessarily. There are people I find sexually attractive and fantasize about, but that doesn't mean I want those people. That's why it's called fantasy, it lies in the realm beyond reality.

 

[tiara76]

I dont understand what some of you ladies are saying. I see a lot of "Oh its just a fantasy" remarks on here, but isnt a fantasy you imagining something you want in reality? Especially when it comes to sexuality.

speaking for myself

i fantasize about reggie bush and boris kodjoe and a host of other people ..the fantasies are great...i dont necessarily have a desire to actually go out and be with these people...and I have met both of the above mentioned and there is no temptation to resist to stop myself from trying to be with them, there is no desire or attraction in real life.....and everytime i see a pic of reggie bush, clothed or not I am visually pleased and I like to look at him and i think he looks great...I like to watch the movie Troy just because i like a buff long hair brad pitt and Im always fantasizing about him and that part when he is naked with the chick, my fantasy of being with him gets really good....Im not particualary going out looking for buff long hair white guys or becoming a brad pitt fanatic...the fantasy suffices ..the fantasy everything is what I imagine it to be...in reality what you imagine can easily be NOTHING like what you have in your head and it can easily suck if you act it out because everybody in 'reality" aren't on the same page as you and your fantasy

i have a male friend who i fantasize about...im not attracted to him in reality and we've never had sex but i love the way he looks and i like hanging out with him..... in my fantasy i take his image and make him into what i like sexual wise, which is nothing like what he is like in real life...i even tell him about the fantasies and he asks me what is he like in them lol

in my own experience of life I have learned that who im actually physically/sexually ATTRACTED to and want to be with doesn't necessarily have n e thing to do with what i think is visually appealing...

and who I am attracted to and who i want to be with doesn't change what i find visually appealing or stop me from having fantasies

 

[spelmanlocks]

I dont understand what some of you ladies are saying. I see a lot of "Oh its just a fantasy" remarks on here, but isnt a fantasy you imagining something you want in reality? Especially when it comes to sexuality.

I cant see myself fantasizing over a short stubby Asian man. That's something I'm not attracted to. Now a tall, chocolate muscular brother with a nice low cut and some facial hair......whoo lawd

While I do believe that he has a thing for yt women, I dont believe this was something to end your relationship over. As long as never acted out his fantasies, I don't see where the issue lies.

I agree. If you are fantasizing about someone and had the opportunity to be with that person you probably would be. My husband has always said I look like his favorite porn star too . He has a type and it shows in the type of porn he watches and in his attraction to me. So I disagree with those who say porn is just fantasy.

I don't know too many black men who watch white porn exclusively and as I said before the one who I know who does actually only dates white women. Now again I'm not saying she should leave him over this, but there may be some deeper reason as to why he only is interested in porn videos with white women in them. Or there may not be, this is something she needs to discuss more with him I believe and that would probably clear up a lot of confusion.

 

[DragonPearl]

I don't have a problem with gay porn if that is your thing. It would be something me and my SO would have to talk about. I personally don't see why a straight man would watch gay porn so that would be a conversation I would have with my SO since the fantasy does not reflect the gender dynamics of our relationship.

You want your SO's porn to reflect the gender dynamic (opposite gender relationship) of your relationship and you feel this is a legitimate desire.

The thing is, the OP wants her SO's porn to reflect the racial dynamic (same race relationship) of her relationship and I don't see why her desire is less legitimate than yours.

People are saying, don't make restriction on people's porn choice, it's just a fantasy, but in actuality, we are all making restrictions on what we think our SO can watch and what is acceptable to us. The it's just a fantasy argument wouldn't even hold water if we thought our SO was fantasizing about raping women. We had an interesting thread recently about women's rape fantasies vs men's rape fantasies.

I think the OP would have felt less distressed if her SO had also been watching some black porn, she wouldn't have felt the need to ask him if he was "allergic to black porn."

 

[tiara76]

You want your SO's porn to reflect the gender dynamic (opposite gender relationship) of your relationship and you feel this is a legitimate desire.

The thing is, the OP wants her SO's porn to reflect the racial dynamic (same race relationship) of her relationship and I don't see why her desire is less legitimate than yours.

People are saying, don't make restriction on people's porn choice, it's just a fantasy, but in actuality, we are all making restrictions on what we think our SO can watch and what is acceptable to us. The it's just a fantasy argument wouldn't even hold water if we thought our SO was fantasizing about raping women. We had an interesting thread recently about women's rape fantasies vs men's rape fantasies.

I think the OP would have felt less distressed if her SO had also been watching some black porn, she wouldn't have felt the need to ask him if he was "allergic to black porn."

I don't think anybody said to make a restriction on his choice of porn....its cool if you want your mates choice to reflect a certain thing...the case here is that it didn't, she didn't like his truthful answer to her question and she immediately wanted to kick him out because his choice isn't what she wants it to be or what she likes, nor was his answer to her question what she wanted to hear....i think most people were on the same page of overreacting over it more than anything...if its an issue then its an issue....if this is an important relationship to you overreacting, assuming and projecting over it vs getting to the bottom of it probably won't be the best solution into resolving anything.....again this particular issue they have isn't about porn...porn was just a trigger for an issue that existed and can be something on both ends for different reasons that at some point or another will have to surface in order for the relationship to progress further along

 

[DragonPearl]

I don't think anybody said to make a restriction on his choice of porn....its cool if you want your mates choice to reflect a certain thing...the case here is that it didn't, she didn't like his truthful answer to her question and she immediately wanted to kick him out because his choice isn't what she wants it to be or what she likes, nor was his answer to her question what she wanted to hear....i think most people were on the same page of overreacting over it more than anything...if its an issue then its an issue....if this is an important relationship to you overreacting, assuming and projecting over it vs getting to the bottom of it probably won't be the best solution into resolving anything.....again this particular issue they have isn't about porn...porn was just a trigger for an issue that existed and can be something on both ends for different reasons that at some point or another will have to surface in order for the relationship to progress further along

So if I am understanding correctly, people felt she was overreacting because she didn't get to the bottom of the issue, not because she was upset at his exclusive choice of porn and what it meant to her? Is that what you're saying?

 

[tiara76]

So if I am understanding correctly, people said she was overreacting because she didn't get to the bottom of the issue, not because she was upset at his exclusive choice of porn and what it meant to her? Is that what you're saying?

"Alright then, maybe I think Most black men are obsessed with white women and I;m scared to be left behind due to him chasing a WW."

that is what the OP said in her own words earlier in this thread....

from everything she typed in the original post it was very obvious that even though the choice of porn he picked after she gave him permission to view it (she didn't say i only give you permission to look at porn with women who look like me) and his answer to her question "upset" her....thats not the root of why she was upset...the root of why it upset her is because of the above statement that she said herself ^^^

if that wasn't one of her fears and she told him he could look at porn on her computer and he looked at white chicks she would not have been this upset at his choice nor would of it had been such a big thing that she had to pack his things and give him the boot over it.....

if he had never looked at white girls booty on her computer, something else would of brought this issue to surface.... like him commenting about a white girls hair is enough to upset her...when if she didn't have a fear of black men chasing ww and leaving black women it wouldn't be that big of a deal if he made that comment

 

[DragonPearl]

^^^ Okay, we could say that she has this fear (black men will leave me for ww) to begin with, and his white-woman-only porn just brought this fear to the surface.

The question is, is her fear valid in regards to this particular black man she is dating? We as outsiders cannot make this determination for her, we cannot say categorically that her fear is not valid, just because he is with her. The thing is we don't know him, and this is something she will have to find out for herself.

ETA: The thing is, when she stops being afraid about men leaving her for ww, she'll stop drawing to her men who exarcerbate that fear...

 

[tiara76]

^^^ Okay, we could say that she has this fear (black men will leave me for ww) to begin with, and his white-woman-only porn just brought this fear to the surface.

The question is, is her fear valid in regards to this particular black man she is dating? We as outsiders cannot make this determination for her, we cannot say categorically that her fear is not valid, just because he is with her. The thing is we don't know him, and this is something she will have to find out for herself.

i couldn't agree with you more on all of the above...

however would you agree or disagree that assuming, projecting and kicking out without knowing anything for sure and willing to let it all go off of these assumptions and fears would be the way to actually KNOW and VALIDATE her fears and that he is FOR SURE that type of dude solely based on his choice in what to look at?

it is certain he has an interest in looking at white girls and fantasizing about them...its not certain he doesn't love his black girl and doesn't want to be with her and is willing to bounce out for the first coco chick he can get his hands on...fantasizing about a type of person different than from who you are with is not a sure sign they do not love who they are with and where they are at

 

[tiara76]

ETA: The thing is, when she stops being afraid about men leaving her for ww, she'll stop drawing to her men who exarcerbate that fear...

when people have a certain story or belief in their head

they can make anybody/anything fit that story whether the other person is or isnt exactly that type of person or not and all they need is an inkling of something along the lines of that fear to turn it into the worst case scenario

lots of women think all men are dogs..they run into dudes who really are dogs, they run into those who aren't and find anyway to make them fit into the role of dog and will take anything they can and run away with it to make it true.....some people would rather have their belief validated no matter what or who it is

 

[SerenavanderWoodsen]

OT from whats going on but isnt it kinda interesting that he looks at "phat white booty" and not your run of the mill skinny/implants white porn. Also, that hes checking for Coco who has a body far more commonly seen in black women but shes white. It seems like he fantasizes about a black womens body with light skin and blonde hair. I have trouble perceiving Coco as a "white girl" even though she is white. It doesnt sound like he has completely rejected the fantasy of black women but maybe fantasizes about sort of a hybrid lol...

 

[DragonPearl]

i couldn't agree with you more on all of the above...

however would you agree or disagree that assuming, projecting and kicking out without knowing anything for sure and willing to let it all go off of these assumptions and fears would be the way to actually KNOW and VALIDATE her fears and that he is FOR SURE that type of dude solely based on his choice in what to look at?

it is certain he has an interest in looking at white girls and fantasizing about them...its not certain he doesn't love his black girl and doesn't want to be with her and is willing to bounce out for the first coco chick he can get his hands on...fantasizing about a type of person different than from who you are with is not a sure sign they do not love who they are with and where they are at

I see your point.

 

[Ramya]

I wish a negro would try to break up with me for watching something I like or making me feel wrong about what I fanasize about...hmph. This is why men are so secretive about things. You say he can watch porn but now you wanna end things and break up with him because its not the right kind of porn?...these loopholes I tell ya

There is nothing wrong with setting boundaries. if he were watching child porn everybody would be saying it's OK to leave him. Clearly the white porn is a big deal to OP and should be considered as such. For me, porn period is a dealbreaker and if I find out that dude was being secretive for fear of what I'd say, I'd break up with him anyway on the grounds that he was trying to manipulate me into staying with him. Removing choice by omitting important information is indeed manipulation.

 

[CurlyMoo]

Listen to your man, it's very important to find out what he really wants before you commit to him further. Be open and honest about your fears and tell him he is safe to do the same. Keep in mind that many if not most Black Americans are raised on White main stream media with their beauty standards. So why be surprised if he is curious or is attracted to White women. How many Black boyfriends/husbands of the ladies who post on the, "White Men that could So Get It," thread would be shocked to find their woman is into White guys? I'm sure you are attracted to men of other races or even have your fantasies about them. Doesn't mean you will be unhappy or unfaithful with your mate.

From my personal experience many Black men are attracted to White and Hispanic women, in fact they will openly tell me this. It doesn't surprise me sometimes it tics a nerve to be on a date with someone who speaks of what he's attracted to and I don't feel I match it. But then I remember that my dates usually don't fit my ideal profile either.

 

[Ladybelle]

after reading this thread, I'm thinking it may be best to leave porn out of relationships. what's healthy about porn in an otherwise already healthy relationship? just curious.

There will sometimes be issues one has to deal with in relationships, but does porn not add a unneccessary issue in itself??

I'm not sure how this works- do you watch it together and get off? Or seperately? Do you use it for ideas??? Maybe I should stay outta this thread before i get too curious, lol!

 

[tinkat]

This is why people fear being honest in relationships...

when they are and the other person doesn't like what they hear the first thing they want to do is give em the boot or make them out to be a bad person for just telling the truth....

we cry about how much we want people to be honest with us about then when they are and the truth isn't "good" we take it as automatically they don't love us and are ready to throw everything away
its one thing to let him know that if he has some desires he may want to fullfill with big booty white chicks then give him that option to leave

you are putting him out and assuming thats what he wants and assuming what he feels and assuming he is "obsessed" from a internet search, a porno view and a comment about hair...you may be more obsessed with the idea he will leave you than he is about leaving you for a white chick

men and women are visual creatures..there are plenty of people who wonder and fantasize about different things/people in life doesn't automatically mean they need anything more than the fantasy....

you say you aren't threatened, but everything you just wrote says otherwise

and the even bigger issue from that will be that now it will be about you and not him

what will happen if he leaves you for a big booty white cocoish looking girl...???

is putting him out before he can leave you gives you the upper hand in this situation?

most people think relationships are about lovey doveyish fairy tale type unions when really they are about personal growth....issues and insecurities that need to be resolved will be brought up one way or the other and people think a relationship is about making sure the other person never hones in on these and does nothing but do, act, say and feel what you want them to so you don't ever have to address things that need to be addressed

Love doesn't equate to happy happy joy joy all the time...it equates to growing and evolving with another person and getting thru all the things holding you back from fully being a whole person which includes fears and insecurities...all love does is when people are open to it and in it is GET YOU THROUGH THEM when its time for them to come to surface

and one of yours just came up

is the issue really him and the questioning of his love for you or is it your fear of dealing with an insecurity that has clearly been surfaced

I tell you Tiara you always take what I think and write it so well! The bolded just jumped out but ITA with everything! Great advice.

 

[Raspberry]

Thought provoking thread ladies...

 

[Kirei]

See, you should have just given him some booty and left that porn alone...

*smh*

 

[Bellamystic]

See, you should have just given him some booty and left that porn alone...

*smh*

That was too funny.

 

[MissYocairis]

It's like you set him up. Offered up your pc like you wanted him to do him and like you were whatever, then you spyed on him, and when you didn't like what you saw, you want to put him out. What you did wasn't very nice. And yes, you are over-reacting. It sounds like he likes you a lot. Don't make up problems. Enjoy having a bf and let the relationship run it's course naturally.

I sooo agree. You taught him with this entire episode that he cannot be himself around you. You set him up for the fall and took it to a place he would have never imagined (putting him out?).

Why did you decide to "allow" him to watch porn on your pc? With the intent of sneaking to learn what he likes? Why not just share the experience with him? You decided so quick that he had to go that it sounds like you were planning the entire episode to go down like it did. So...then you were never really okay with him watching porn...you just lied about it? Girl, sometimes we just tear our relationships up on our own without any input from the other person.

I think you owe him an apology and maybe it's time for some self-introspection. I hope things work out for the best for you both.

 

[MissYocairis]

I wish a negro would try to break up with me for watching something I like or making me feel wrong about what I fanasize about...hmph. This is why men are so secretive about things. You say he can watch porn but now you wanna end things and break up with him because its not the right kind of porn?...these loopholes I tell ya

This is exactly RIGHT! ITA.

 

[MissYocairis]

i personally never said it was....he said he was curious about being with a white woman and he looked up visual stimulation to go with that thought

people can fantasize about things and watch things that go along with that fantasy...it doesn't automatically mean they are a jumbled neurolgical mess behind it and want to run out and act out their fantasies...alot of times the fantasy, the visuals is more than enough to to suffice...

its harmless to have people in a relationship where healthy sexual visuals of others or variety are with two secure people who have a real bond with each other

it can be diaster for those insecure in different areas of themselves and their relationship...however trying to not trigger insecurities in relationships and people doesn't help anybody

ie the solution isn't to kick him out or tell him he can never look at big booty white girls its to overcome the insecurity to make the relationship stronger

alot of people end up "in love' with people who are not their ideal physical type or what is visually appealing to them, and it doesn't change their ideas of what is visually appealing to their eyes and it doesn't take away from the love they feel for their mate if they truly love them

ITA. Everyone doesn't trip up on the concept of "sexual fantasy" and end up violating their relationship because of it. You can still your mate and find people who look nothing like your mate sexually attractive. It's funny how we have all these threads about "eye candy" and "white boys who could so get it" on LHCF knowing that most if not all of our objects of attraction in these threads look absolutely NOTHING like the men in our lives whom we love. Same thing, IMO.

 

[MissYocairis]

I dont understand what some of you ladies are saying. I see a lot of "Oh its just a fantasy" remarks on here, but isnt a fantasy you imagining something you want in reality? Especially when it comes to sexuality.

I cant see myself fantasizing over a short stubby Asian man. That's something I'm not attracted to. Now a tall, chocolate muscular brother with a nice low cut and some facial hair......whoo lawd

While I do believe that he has a thing for yt women, I dont believe this was something to end your relationship over. As long as never acted out his fantasies, I don't see where the issue lies.

Are you guys serious? Sexual attraction doesn't have to be a zerosum proposition. In fact...it's mostly only black women that always want to zero in and proclaim their SOLE attraction to only one group...black men. You CAN be sexually attracted to different races of men! It doesn't make you a hypocrite. Fa geez...I'm not getting why his being sexually attracted to Coco suddenly means he has no sexual feelings for any other type or race of women. He's living with a black woman. He's clearly sexually attracted to her or else he'd be living with a Becky.

And, I can see how those who do not watch porn could have a tough time imagining one could be sexually attracted to many different things, types, etc....so....you're not really going to zero in on the issue if you don't think he should be watching it at all. But...they've agreed that he watches it. She's accepted that and she knows he does it.

For those that watch it, do you really only watch just ONE kind? I mean...ONE type you enjoy and the other 599,100 types of porn don't do it for you? I highly doubt it.

I think the only issue was how OP feels about her position in her honey's life after learning he thinks Coco and other ww are hot and her feeling she could lose him because she's not that. That's the only issue imo. What about people who really like Hentai? Would he get put out if it had been Hentai? (asian porn cartoons) People like different things. Doesn't mean they aren't in love and happy with their SO.

And, anyway...what if it wasn't porn at all? What if it was just that he likes looking at Victoria's Secret models? Or what if he was really into checking out pics of Scarlette Johannsen? Would that get him put out as well? My SO thinks Nia Long is fly as hell and that Bey is fiya...am I supposed to be offended by that? You think he hasn't thought about ****** either one? Puh-lease! Ladies, we have double standards here. It's ok for all of our "so-and-so can so get it's" but it's not ok for our man to feel that way.

 

[Arian]

For example, my b/f likes porn that has ladies with big booties. I wasn't blessed with one of those, I have a shamefully flat @ss.

My bf likes this too. But I think I have a booty....I don't know what his problem is...