Unpopular opinion here. But I think there's a lack of interest from both sides. The typical black woman is checking for black men. The typical white man is checking for whites, latinos, asians. I think the growth between bw and wm/am will continue to move slowly as wm/am check nothing but black and bw keep preaching the I only want a black kang statement. Until the average wm/am start showing interest in bw, and bw learn that they have options, we continue to ask questions like yours.
(I don't really get approached, so I can't include myself in my observations. But when I'm out and about in nice areas/events that are multicultural or mostly nonblack, I don't really see white men or asian men (attractive ones in my age group) checking out or approaching attractive slim black women. Now, black men, latino men, and older white men (45+) ... yes, I see them flirt, approach, gawk at black women (and sometimes myself included).
I know most black women here get approached randomly by attractive white/asian men in their age group, but I do wonder what's the common flirting/approaching experience when it comes to random non black men/non latino men/non older or non thuggish white men for the average black woman (the slim, attractive, smart ones...).
*And no, I'm not fat nor hideous.
** And no, this is not a woe is me post. Just an observation.