Are You Against Shotgun Weddings?

[Charz]

I'm pregnant right now. Condom failed, and morning after pill did not work. Those are two forms of birth control that were, trust me, properly used. What are the chances? What are the stats? And what really burns me up is that it was after a disgustingly long period of zero peen for me!

That was by you.

Please stop projecting your issues on me.

Obviously I hit a nerve which is why you're getting seriously defensive. Nothing Ive said is from thin air.
You're not a celeb nor do I know you. I have no reason to LIE against you. I go based on posts written by the person. Not heresay.

Im not gonna try to argue with you anyway. You're obviously hormonal now. I made my point clear in the last post. It wasnt anything against you. Just saying that when people arent ready people make different choices. Whatever that choice is doesnt make one better than the other.

You can either try to see where Im coming from or continue barking. Choice is yours.

 

[Charz]

I just don't think it should be an EASY decision. And the way some people have posted, they act like it is a no brainer. Like, hmm, pregnant and no husband? Welp, let me run down to the clinic right quick. Maybe ill get chipotle afterwards.

In other words it bothers YOU that some people arent heart broken over it. Why? why do you care? People pretend to be all for a woman's freedom bujt always have strings attached. You're either for their freedom or you're not. There's no middle ground.

I know some people are simple and think if you're a hard advocate for something it must be personal..sorry but that's not my issue. I am aware of the restraints of it by others. First it was men now women have the audacity to jump in. What can I say? It's beyond a pet peeve.

 

[Charz]

You really can't build a marriage on a baby, but if it was a healthy loving relationship that was headed that way anyway so be it.

Yea. I mean if you love each other, why not make it official and protect the child within the confines of the law.

 

[Klearli]

That was by you.

Please stop projecting your issues on me.

Obviously I hit a nerve which is why you're getting seriously defensive. Nothing Ive said is from thin air.
You're not a celeb nor do I know you. I have no reason to LIE against you. I go based on posts written by the person. Not heresay.

Im not gonna try to argue with you anyway. You're obviously hormonal now. I made my point clear in the last post. It wasnt anything against you. Just saying that when people arent ready people make different choices. Whatever that choice is doesnt make one better than the other.

You can either try to see where Im coming from or continue barking. Choice is yours.

Um. Where's the one night stand and celibacy part?

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[Charz]

Im not gonna break that down for you. I assume you took English classes. Good luck though!

 

[Klearli]

That was by you.

Please stop projecting your issues on me.

Obviously I hit a nerve which is why you're getting seriously defensive. Nothing Ive said is from thin air.
You're not a celeb nor do I know you. I have no reason to LIE against you. I go based on posts written by the person. Not heresay.

Im not gonna try to argue with you anyway. You're obviously hormonal now. I made my point clear in the last post. It wasnt anything against you. Just saying that when people arent ready people make different choices. Whatever that choice is doesnt make one better than the other.

You can either try to see where Im coming from or continue barking. Choice is yours.

And hell yeah I take offense to someone trying to say that I'm pregnant by some random one night stand. Yes babe, you made that up. And you still miss my point. I. I personally. I do not understand abortion as a no brainer. And you are not going to make me understand. I feel I'm qualified to say what I feel because of my religious up bringing and the social circles and opinions of my family about sex, pregnancy and marriage.

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[Klearli]

Im not gonna break that down for you. I assume you took English classes. Good luck though!

You can't break it down because you made it up. Please repost where I had a one night stand, and please repost where I was celibate. For all you know, a disgustingly long period of no sex for me could be a week. And yep, ima stay on you because if the nature of LHCF, people (like you) remember old posts, and try to bring them back when someones being hypocritical. So I'm ensuring no one is going to try to say again that dumbness you MADE UP.

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[gabulldawg]

Dang what is going on??

 

[Charz]

Mama's mad is all.

 

[moda]

Dang what is going on??

I know simma down

 

[moda]

You can't break it down because you made it up. Please repost where I had a one night stand, and please repost where I was celibate. For all you know, a disgustingly long period of no sex for me could be a week. And yep, ima stay on you because if the nature of LHCF, people (like you) remember old posts, and try to bring them back when someones being hypocritical. So I'm ensuring no one is going to try to say again that dumbness you MADE UP.

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Klearli

And what really burns me up is that it was after a disgustingly long period of zero peen for me!

That line would make it seem as if one was being celibate when given with no other context. If you were not being celibate and it wasn't a one night stand or even if it was, who cares, it's your life don't let someone get you so riled up.

 

[Klearli]

Klearli



That line would make it seem as if one was being celibate when given with no other context. If you were not being celibate and it wasn't a one night stand or even if it was, who cares, it's your life don't let someone get you so riled up.

Who cares? I care. And I don't approve of posters reaching to the point where they make things up. If she decided it meant I was celibate, okay. I can even see where that logic could stem. But how could she decide my pregnancy resulted from a one night stand to end said 'celibacy'? And further more, how dare someone compare contraception to abortion? Yep. It offended me. And now she, and everyone else knows.

ETA~I will clarify that since I think coloring between a commited couple should happen several times a week, a long period for me actually is a calendar week. A disgustingly long period is 2.5 weeks. The closest I ever came to celibacy is when DF told me that for religious reasons, we need to stop. But that didn't happen as per planned. 'Pats belly'.

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[Klearli]

And if anyone is using abortion as a form of contraception, I am disgusted. I hope someone quotes that somewhere.

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[moda]

Who cares? I care. And I don't approve of posters reaching to the point where they make things up. If she decided it meant I was celibate, okay. I can even see where that logic could stem. But how could she decide my pregnancy resulted from a one night stand to end said 'celibacy'? And further more, how dare someone compare contraception to abortion? Yep. It offended me. And now she, and everyone else knows.

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So many people compare plan B to abortion, this is not new. I am sure you remember all the hoopla that surrounded it when they let women get it w/o a prescription.

 

[Charz]

And further more, how dare someone compare contraception to abortion?

I never did this. Many religious people do though.

Anyway carry on ranting.

 

[Klearli]

So many people compare plan B to abortion, this is not new. I am sure you remember all the hoopla that surrounded it when they let women get it w/o a prescription.

I know. I also said in my orig quote that I don't believe that logic, since plan b is a concentrated dosing of the regular daily BC most people take. I also said that this thread isn't about whether or not Plan B is abortion, so let's not take it there.

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[Klearli]

I never did this. Many religious people do though.

Anyway carry on ranting.

Then why did you even mention Plan B? What did it have to do with the price of tea? And I'm still waiting on your one night stand quote.

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[FemmeFatale]

Can we stick to the topic please, this is about marriage not abortions.

 

[moda]

I know. I also said in my orig quote that I don't believe that logic, since plan b is a concentrated dosing of the regular daily BC most people take. I also said that this thread isn't about whether or not Plan B is abortion, so let's not take it there.

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Klearli after this I am so done I am not taking it anywhere at all. I was not saying that plan B is abortion, I was just saying that so many people say its the same. I don't care one way or another what another woman chooses to do. As long as I am not the child's mother it's not my business at all. I was just trying to help you to understand why someone would think your statement meant you were being celibate. Obviously I have failed

I hope you have a safe uneventful pregnancy.

 

[Klearli]

Klearli after this I am so done I am not taking it anywhere at all. I was not saying that plan B is abortion, I was just saying that so many people say its the same. I don't care one way or another what another woman chooses to do. As long as I am not the child's mother it's not my business at all. I was just trying to help you to understand why someone would think your statement meant you were being celibate. Obviously I have failed

I hope you have a safe uneventful pregnancy.

I didn't think you were. I actually thought you were doing exactly what you said you were doing, helping me understand.I was just reminding people that I said in the beginning let's not debate whether plan B is an abortion. And thank you for your wishes. Being pregnant is kind of fun once you're done feeling sick!

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[Klearli]

Can we stick to the topic please, this is about marriage not abortions.

But see, its kind of about both. Because many people are saying either marry the man, or get rid of the evidence.

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[Klearli]

Ok, I'm done defending my LHCF honor, lol. Carry on with the shotguns.

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[jenny87]

People on this board are soooooo out of control! I didn't read anything about a one night stand. And why would that be the first assumption anyway? How can you talk about another person's reading comprehension when yours is obviously lacking??

:back to the thread: I am against shotgun weddings. I don't think anyone should ever get married just because they are having a child with someone. From what I have seen, most of these people are in no way matched properly and that leads to all types of drama in the relationship. Children don't need to see that type of stuff-- cussing, fighting, physically fights. I have actually decided that is a form of child abuse.

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[gabulldawg]

Can we stick to the topic please, this is about marriage not abortions.

Yeah we already have one abortion thread....

 

[jenny87]

Also, I think Klearli 's point about abortion is that it is horrible that some people use them as a form of birth control. I have met women that will proudly boast that they were on their way the get their FIFTH abortion and for some even more than that. They would then sit and trade stories with other WOMEN about how many CHILDREN they would have if they didn't have some many abortions. That would usually be followed with "I may keep the next one. You know, if I'm ready". Obviously these women are not on birth control and I doubt they are worried about Plan B--abortions ARE their birth control and that should make most people feel as certain kind of way.

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[Mortons]

But see, its kind of about both. Because many people are saying either marry the man, or get rid of the evidence.

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I guess there are differences in that school of thought. I care much more about my future child's life than feeling romantic love with a partner. Forget eating for 2, I would need to start thinking for 2. Crap is already gonna be stacked against them because of me, they are gonna need a supportive 2 parent home to come home to. I just don't think that I would make a good single parent. So yeah, if I was in a situation where I was pregnant and unstable I would feel it more responsible to not have the child. It would likely be the hardest decision ever to make, but my options look grim regardless. I'd rather not bring another person into my life permanently until I can offer the comfort, security, and love that they deserve.

The fact that some women decide to go at it alone is their decision, and one that is not made lightly I'm sure. It just totally depends on where you are in life.

 

[FemmeFatale]

I would have a mental breakdown if i didn'y have a stable enviroment for my baby to come into..I just feel like it would be unfair not only to the baby but to myself..I'm not raising a child solo.

 

[SelahOco]

I'm glad my mom decided to have me an my brother even though she wasn't married. My dad was abusive and his dad was a chronic liar and cheater. We were both better off not having them in our lives.

And we both ended up being decent people. I understand that some people see abortion as the solution to being pregnant and unmarried, but there as so many examples that show that's not the only choice to make.

Having a father may be ideal, but I hate the idea of people thinking that not having one is so horrible that it's better not to be alive.

Mindsets are shaped so differently in people. It's really quite interesting how strongly we all feel about it..,

 

[Mortons]

I'm glad my mom decided to have me an my brother even though she wasn't married. My dad was abusive and his dad was a chronic liar and cheater. We were both better off not having them in our lives.

And we both ended up being decent people. I understand that some people see abortion as the solution to being pregnant and unmarried, but there as so many examples that show that's not the only choice to make.

Having a father may be ideal, but I hate the idea of people thinking that not having one is so horrible that it's better not to be alive.

Mindsets are shaped so differently in people. It's really quite interesting how strongly we all feel about it..,

Question:

So going along with this 'line' per se, we should not judge those chicks who have 5-6 kids while unmarried, because although the situation is bad, the fact that she brought life into this world was a pretty decent decision in and of itself?

(OK that was really verbose and compact, I hope it was understandable).

 

[moda]

Question:

So going along with this 'line' per se, we should not judge those chicks who have 5-6 kids while unmarried, because although the situation is bad, the fact that she brought life into this world was a pretty decent decision in and of itself?

(OK that was really verbose and compact, I hope it was understandable).

Sorry if we shouldn't but I do One child I can sorta kinda understand but 5-6. There is no excuse for that madness. Someone that did that said they had problems with birth control and they are allergic to condoms I would be one masturbating fool