Are You Against Shotgun Weddings?

[Honey Bee]

Theo, So, wait, explain this to me. Are you making the argument that there are socioeconomic 'excuses' not to *attempt* to build strong families? Serious question.

 

[Theo]

@Theo, So, wait, explain this to me. Are you making the argument that there are socioeconomic 'excuses' not to *attempt* to build strong families? Serious question.

Lol who said anything about excuses?

Are y'all intentionally trying to change my words around? Is the thread not on shotgun marriages?

Like I said many times, I'm pro-marriage, I'm pro-family. However, in general, I don't think shotgun marriages are the way to go about building strong families. If its just the baby that links the two people together, I don't think pushing a shotgun marriage is a good idea. it takes more than mutual baby to make a strong marriage and strong family unit.

In this thread, people are touting it as a viable solution. Yeah, the number of OOW babies is a problem, and I'm all for people who to *attempt* to address it, but forcing people to get marriage at gunpoint (literally or hypothetically) is a piss-poor attempt IMO.

 

[Honey Bee]

Lol who said anything about excuses?

Are y'all intentionally trying to change my words around? Is the thread not on shotgun marriages?

Like I said many times, I'm pro-marriage, I'm pro-family. However, in general, I don't think shotgun marriages are the way to go about building strong families. If its just the baby that links the two people together, I don't think pushing a shotgun marriage is a good idea. it takes more than mutual baby to make a strong marriage and strong family unit.

In this thread, people are touting it as a viable solution. Yeah, the number of OOW babies is a problem, and I'm all for people who to *attempt* to address it, but forcing people to get marriage at gunpoint (literally or hypothetically) is a piss-poor attempt IMO.

Theo, I hear what you're saying, but we've been doing that since the 60's and where has it gotten us? Again, honest question. I'm not talking hypotheticals, this is actual history. Yes, we were vulnerable before- that's cuz white folks were LYNCHING us. They ain't lynching us now and we threw away our support system. Where has it gotten us?

 

[Theo]

@Theo, I hear what you're saying, but we've been doing that since the 60's and where has it gotten us? Again, honest question. I'm not talking hypotheticals, this is actual history. Yes, we were vulnerable before- that's cuz white folks were LYNCHING us. They ain't lynching us now and we threw away our support system. Where has it gotten us?

I don't think I understand your question. Where has what gotten us?

 

[sj10460]

Am I against shotgun weddings? NO.
There are too many baby showers and not enough weddings!

 

[Honey Bee]

I don't think I understand your question. Where has what gotten us?

Theo, The loosening of societal prohibitions on OOW pregnancy. Are we better off as a group? I don't think so. And what's the definition of insanity?


Exactly.

 

[Browndilocks]

I like Theo. Tis all.

 

[WhipEffectz1]

Why or why not?

So my godsister who is 22 and on her way to nursing school has found out that she is pregnant (unfortunately I saw this coming, her friends were having babies one after the other). She and her boyfriend (who is 25 and more established than she is) are getting married next month and I have heard a few of her peers mumbling "oh I hope she's not getting married just because she's having a baby" Even my 19 yr old cousin said that (I checked her a**).

It got me to thinking, what is so wrong with that? If the man and woman decide to step up to the plate and get married..they have already been together for 3 years, they love each other and now they have a baby on the way..WHAT IS THE PROBLEM? I can see if she were a teen but she's an adult who has a vision.. The phrase "Just because she's having a baby" irks me to no end, as if attempting to provide a stable loving unit for your family is a crime.

I wish we had more shotgun weddings. There's nothing wrong with them to me. As long as the two people are owning up to their situations. I rather them marry then let the child be born into a baby mama/baby daddy predicament. I'm pretty conservative when it comes to these things so go figure....

 

[WhipEffectz1]

I'm all for shotgun marriage. The original purpose of marriage was for the legal protection of children. While that's not the driving force now, I still think it's good for the couple to have show some type of legal committment even if it doesn't last 50 years. By the way, I'm not one of those people that think marriage is forever, despite being married forever.

Couldn't have said it better myself!

 

[SelahOco]

I wish people had to negotiate and sign a contract before they had sex. That would solve so many problems.

I guess that's why a lot of people believe in no sex before marriage.