Can you be more specific as to why? She knows 3 who say this is fixable and they’ll just have to hire a housekeeper.
I object to cleaning his place for many reasons but I’m not married so my opinion isn’t based on experience, just principle.
Men know who to try. No man has ever asked me to clean their home, but a man has sent people over to help me- lawn, fix the roof, finish the basement.
A man who cares has a housekeeper come help so that his place can be acceptable to his girlfriend -he does not ask his lady to clean. She may find him filthy and leave.
If he's not trying to impress her- he doesn't really want her.
I'm positive that those women are in marriages that have dynamics that I wouldn't want any part of.Can you be more specific as to why? She knows 3 who say this is fixable and they’ll just have to hire a housekeeper.
Lies, falsehoods and fallacies.He doesn’t want a housekeeper. He says he can maintain it once she’s done.
I don’t clean boyfriend houses. If he is so gainfully employed he can get a cleaner. What do I look like?
What does being 300 lbs have to do with accepting or not accepting a request? Sounds like another question to me.
Do you do it?
- He balks at hiring a maid, he just says he’ll maintain it once you clean it
If he did he'd have a clean house.
Maybe OP could pass along your info and we can free that other girl.Pay for a cleaning service , usually about $76, and have him to pay you back via a couple of dinners
But this may be a test. If he know he can get you to this, you might be about to see the real him.
OR
Even better. Schedule a day when you can assist him. Tell him you can only give him a couple of hours
Personally,
I am a good at assisting and better at delegating. I show him where to put things using an organizational chart
Don't be good at something you don't want to do
I don’t clean boyfriend houses. If he is so gainfully employed he can get a cleaner. What do I look like?
What does being 300 lbs have to do with accepting or not accepting a request? Sounds like another question to me.
She doesn’t want to do it- she says she prefers guys who are more self sufficicient but she’s gotten some feedback from older married women who say this is fixable and she should give him a chance. She doesn’t want to be single but she still isn’t all the way sold on this guy, as it could definitely be a lifetime of more than she bargained for.
Mid 30s are a beast, man.
That's what I wanted to know. His weight clearly doesn't bother her if she's been dating him for six months.
As to the cleaning, heck no. Im not even assisting.
Nah, just giving suggestions.Maybe OP could pass along your info and we can free that other girl.
Nah, just giving suggestions.
I was trying to give a passive aggressive way of saying no.
An organizational chart with instructions on how he can do the cleaning is best.
Nope, and I didn't need to read through all those bullet points to get there.
Men have it soooo easy.
You can be a hoarder, over 300lbs, cheap, possibly a liar/cheater, etc...and STILL find someone that wants to be with you.
We have to do better smh. All that to say, "Alexa play 'You got me fxd up' by Amanda Seales' "
If he’s 300 lbs in his 30s what do you think he’ll weigh when he’s 50? IF he even makes it to 50 Idk about y’all but I think that far ahead.That's what I wanted to know. His weight clearly doesn't bother her if she's been dating him for six months.
As to the cleaning, heck no. Im not even assisting.
Right? TF just say no!No point in being passive aggressive. She needs to directly say “No. I am not cleaning your place nor am I coming over any more bc it is too unclean.”