Miss_C
Well-Known Member
Do you do it?
Here are the facts:
-You’ve been dating for 6 months
-According to him they are in an exclusive relationship (she is noncommittal)
- He is gainfully employed in a white collar profession
- You have discussed marriage
- He is over 300 pounds
- He has been in your life (not dating) for over 10 years
-You’re early-mid thirties and everyone you know is having a baby and getting married
-The place reminds you of hoarders (mostly trash, not clothes) and would take a minimum of one entire week to clean
- He balks at hiring a maid, he just says he’ll maintain it once you clean it
Currently three (!) older married women are advising her that this is fixable and that she should do it, citing that they can hire a housekeeper later.
What say you, LHCF? Do you do as he asks? If not, why? I’m asking for a friend ( I swear, this isn’t me. I’m a single as a dollar bill.)
UPDATE: looks like she’s not going to do it. She just doesn’t want to and since he hasn’t proposed or anything she thinks there’s no benefit to her.
Here are the facts:
-You’ve been dating for 6 months
-According to him they are in an exclusive relationship (she is noncommittal)
- He is gainfully employed in a white collar profession
- You have discussed marriage
- He is over 300 pounds
- He has been in your life (not dating) for over 10 years
-You’re early-mid thirties and everyone you know is having a baby and getting married
-The place reminds you of hoarders (mostly trash, not clothes) and would take a minimum of one entire week to clean
- He balks at hiring a maid, he just says he’ll maintain it once you clean it
Currently three (!) older married women are advising her that this is fixable and that she should do it, citing that they can hire a housekeeper later.
What say you, LHCF? Do you do as he asks? If not, why? I’m asking for a friend ( I swear, this isn’t me. I’m a single as a dollar bill.)
UPDATE: looks like she’s not going to do it. She just doesn’t want to and since he hasn’t proposed or anything she thinks there’s no benefit to her.
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