I like keeping my worlds separate too! lol. I thought it was only me. Its very rare that my fiancé hangs out with me friends. And I hardly ever company. I am just weird about people being in my space.
i agree. I remember when my best friend's other best friend got married about seven year's ago. I know her vaguely well and we are cordial but not enough to be running by houses and stuff. My best friend (he's a guy) was that kinda friends with her though, as well as with me (although...I've never really welcomed unexpected visitors even as a single person, even from BFFs, so...
) I always wondered how that worked with her being married and just thought "I guess it's still the same. Oh that's cool."
Well one time there was either a really big boxing event or football game and he said she was having something over her house and he was going and invited me and our other good girlfriend to come that day. We get there and I'm thinking it's gonna be a little party so I was glad I came to school cute that day--little fitted tank and skirt and what not, thought I might meet a single guy--but it wasn't a party. It was the girl--my best friends other BFF--and her husband, both home from a day of work and with that shy uncomfortable yet polite smile that let me know that she prob invited HIM to come over and watch the game and they would have either done that quietly and hung out so her husband could chill and relax OR watched with him, but she definitely wasn't expecting him to bring a posse of women with him.
He was oblivious to her discomfort and I knew then that he was gonna have to get that together because id have turned him right around in my household. I was just so affected by how oblivious he was to his best friend's comfort--she was in a sweatpants and a sweatshirt expecting to be amongst her ppl and here he brings me and my friend who was looking her up and down talking about how she didn't seem friendly and her husband did and my BFF is just laughing and having a good old time.
Cut to my last lunch with my BFF (this is 2015, like 7 years after that incident) and he's talking about my fiancé (who he has met bc he works at me and my fiancées fave clothing store and they've also seen each other at family functions or about downtown, so they know each other but I keep them separate, so this is what he's commenting on) is like "FH is shy. I never see him. I see I'm not gonna get an invite to hang out with y'all at his house so I'm just gonna have to invite myself and drop by." Nope
I keep the worlds separate. I know y'all weren't referring to all that and I went off on a tangent talking about feeling like a random woman in somebody's home but I feel you on keeping the worlds separate. (With this friend I do it, too, because otherwise id lose track of my schedule bc he would come over at 11pm and stuff when I need to be sleep if I let him, so it's not a "change" bc of a relationship, but still.) for one thing, my fiancé is the first guy I've really introduced to my mom because I really want him to have a good relationship with my parents.
Even still, the fact that they can/do call and text each other without me being a middleman weirds me out sometimes. I like it but it weirds me out. I have the kind of friends that would want that capability too. Too much loss of control. Nope.
Also, my fiancé is very terse. He really only answers my mom's texts bc she's my mom. Usually he either doesn't answer ppl or responds with a yes or no answer. My sister and fam have asked about it like "am I bothering him?" That's exactly how I would want him responding to my friends
but I'm not about to sit here and basically apologize for his terseness to everybody that tries to make friends with him, so let's just keep y'all separate. Lol
I like having my two little worlds completely separate. I was thinking they might all finally meet for my birthday dinner but they probably won't do that either. 
it was surreal.
